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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Incorrect, that is not a way to deal with emotional issues and your past. It's also not going to help talking to people about it - unless they're trained individuals. Even then, that help goes so far.The only way you can get past chit is by just refusing to think about it anymore.
What helps is:
- really evaluating what happened, why it happened, what it meant and the impact it had on you.
- accept that it happened and it happened in the past.
- actively practice de-stabilizing the turmoil associated with the past. This means focusing on the thoughts, acknowledging what they are and why they are,then releasing them from your mind.
- activelychanging your current, the here and the now, irrespective of what happened in the past. Your past does not determine your current. You can choose to move away from what happened, put it in the grave it belongs and change the now. This is all a mental exercise.
- Once you've got your mind right, your physical actions will follow.
But notice how I said the first step is to really acknowledge what happened and why it happened.
Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Wrong again.Honestly, the best way is to never dwell on any kind of negative feelings or memories -- to just brutally suppress them.
The only why pain is reinforced is sometimes when you talk to the wrong people - they either disregard you, place doubts in your mind, or confuse you to the point that you stop listening to your thoughts. As mentioned, you must talk to the right people to gain clarity and ultimately, peace.
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04-29-2019, 03:25 PM
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Originally Posted By JaymzJ⏩
Agreed a true man acknowledges his emotions and has the ability to persevere in spite of them. No man worth his salt hasn’t dealt with some tough times.Men who think that are insecure, sorry bro, you can change your outlook and become secure tho. It’s self pity that doesn’t solve anything.
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04-29-2019, 03:27 PM
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Women will literally make fun of you (to other people) if you express your emotions. They're just hardwired to have some type of masculinity barometer inside their head. Waste of time buying into the "open up!" BS.
If you've got issues, talk to a therapist. You probably don't really need to though, you just need to work harder and stop fapping and drinking to numb the pain.
If you've got issues, talk to a therapist. You probably don't really need to though, you just need to work harder and stop fapping and drinking to numb the pain.
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04-29-2019, 03:28 PM
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I’ve never seen a miscer blatantly create a bunch of alts to cloud the board with chit, openly admit it and not get perm’d.
And of all the miscers that get a pass it’s FUKING WINCEL? The biggest baby on here?
Meanwhile good posters like Lethalgunz gets his perm upheld.
I literally have no fuking idea what’s going on around here anymore.
And of all the miscers that get a pass it’s FUKING WINCEL? The biggest baby on here?
Meanwhile good posters like Lethalgunz gets his perm upheld.
I literally have no fuking idea what’s going on around here anymore.
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04-29-2019, 03:29 PM
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Originally Posted By bobbydigitaloa⏩
You're damn right which is exactly why beyond the occasional sloot joke, I hardly think about women, dating, etc anymore. And it has helped me a ton. I'm still not productive or where I want to be, but I now know the negativity solves nothing.Then the same can be said about obsessing over something like not getting pussy or how the world dealt you a bad hand. You dwell on that, it strengthens it in your head and you’re further convinced it’s true...that someone did “this” to you instead of your life is your choice...right?
04-29-2019, 03:30 PM
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
ThisIncorrect, that is not a way to deal with emotional issues and your past. It's also not going to help talking to people about it - unless they're trained individuals. Even then, that help goes so far.
What helps is:
- really evaluating what happened, why it happened, what it meant and the impact it had on you.
- accept that it happened and it happened in the past.
- actively practice de-stabilizing the turmoil associated with the past. This means focusing on the thoughts, acknowledging what they are and why they are,then releasing them from your mind.
- activelychanging your current, the here and the now, irrespective of what happened in the past. Your past does not determine your current. You can choose to move away from what happened, put it in the grave it belongs and change the now. This is all a mental exercise.
- Once you've got your mind right, your physical actions will follow.
But notice how I said the first step is to really acknowledge what happened and why it happened.
Wrong again.
The only why pain is reinforced is sometimes when you talk to the wrong people - they either disregard you, place doubts in your mind, or confuse you to the point that you stop listening to your thoughts. As mentioned, you must talk to the right people to gain clarity and ultimately, peace.
What helps is:
- really evaluating what happened, why it happened, what it meant and the impact it had on you.
- accept that it happened and it happened in the past.
- actively practice de-stabilizing the turmoil associated with the past. This means focusing on the thoughts, acknowledging what they are and why they are,then releasing them from your mind.
- activelychanging your current, the here and the now, irrespective of what happened in the past. Your past does not determine your current. You can choose to move away from what happened, put it in the grave it belongs and change the now. This is all a mental exercise.
- Once you've got your mind right, your physical actions will follow.
But notice how I said the first step is to really acknowledge what happened and why it happened.
Wrong again.
The only why pain is reinforced is sometimes when you talk to the wrong people - they either disregard you, place doubts in your mind, or confuse you to the point that you stop listening to your thoughts. As mentioned, you must talk to the right people to gain clarity and ultimately, peace.
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04-29-2019, 03:31 PM
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Originally Posted By Fuqdatass⏩
I have zero alts. I'm srs. Mods can check my browser signature/OS, etc. I definitely do not have alts. I lurked briefly while banned.I’ve never seen a miscer blatantly create a bunch of alts to cloud the board with chit, openly admit it and not get perm’d.
And of all the miscers that get a pass it’s FUKING WINCEL? The biggest baby on here?
Meanwhile good posters like Lethalgunz gets his perm upheld.
I literally have no fuking idea what’s going on around here anymore.
And of all the miscers that get a pass it’s FUKING WINCEL? The biggest baby on here?
Meanwhile good posters like Lethalgunz gets his perm upheld.
I literally have no fuking idea what’s going on around here anymore.
04-29-2019, 03:32 PM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Get help. And you should have stayed banned...You're damn right which is exactly why beyond the occasional sloot joke, I hardly think about women, dating, etc anymore. And it has helped me a ton. I'm still not productive or where I want to be, but I now know the negativity solves nothing.
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04-29-2019, 03:37 PM
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Be as tough as an old boot crew.
The trick is not looking like you’re trying to be. I worked with a butcher years ago who was the sidecar man on the bikes at the speedway, got in a major collision and broke heaps of bones. Never once complained about his pain even though some days you could see him carrying it.
Could build or repair anything with the right tools.
That’s the man we should aspire to be.
The trick is not looking like you’re trying to be. I worked with a butcher years ago who was the sidecar man on the bikes at the speedway, got in a major collision and broke heaps of bones. Never once complained about his pain even though some days you could see him carrying it.
Could build or repair anything with the right tools.
That’s the man we should aspire to be.
04-29-2019, 03:38 PM
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
Thing is that none of that chit matters tho. For most traumatizing things, the how, when, why are completely irrelevant. Your mind wants to obsess over those things in order to find solutions. There are none. If someone murders your loved one or something, you can spend the rest of your life trying to understand why. The ancient way was to retaliate, kill him, and move on. This is the only viable solution. There is no way for you to bring the person you love back by analyzing the killers' motives etc. Trying to understand the motives of other people is an impossible task. Trying to fix the past is equally impossible. What isn't impossible is to just move forward. I've learned to manage automatic negative thoughts by distracting myself. A lot of automatic memories can also be suppressed. It's like when you have a crush, and you force yourself to stop thinking about them and dwelling on their memory. Eventually, what was once a powerful infatuation is reduced to nothing.Incorrect, that is not a way to deal with emotional issues and your past. It's also not going to help talking to people about it - unless they're trained individuals. Even then, that help goes so far.
What helps is:
- really evaluating what happened, why it happened, what it meant and the impact it had on you.
- accept that it happened and it happened in the past.
- actively practice de-stabilizing the turmoil associated with the past. This means focusing on the thoughts, acknowledging what they are and why they are,then releasing them from your mind.
- activelychanging your current, the here and the now, irrespective of what happened in the past. Your past does not determine your current. You can choose to move away from what happened, put it in the grave it belongs and change the now. This is all a mental exercise.
- Once you've got your mind right, your physical actions will follow.
But notice how I said the first step is to really acknowledge what happened and why it happened.
Wrong again.
The only why pain is reinforced is sometimes when you talk to the wrong people - they either disregard you, place doubts in your mind, or confuse you to the point that you stop listening to your thoughts. As mentioned, you must talk to the right people to gain clarity and ultimately, peace.
What helps is:
- really evaluating what happened, why it happened, what it meant and the impact it had on you.
- accept that it happened and it happened in the past.
- actively practice de-stabilizing the turmoil associated with the past. This means focusing on the thoughts, acknowledging what they are and why they are,then releasing them from your mind.
- activelychanging your current, the here and the now, irrespective of what happened in the past. Your past does not determine your current. You can choose to move away from what happened, put it in the grave it belongs and change the now. This is all a mental exercise.
- Once you've got your mind right, your physical actions will follow.
But notice how I said the first step is to really acknowledge what happened and why it happened.
Wrong again.
The only why pain is reinforced is sometimes when you talk to the wrong people - they either disregard you, place doubts in your mind, or confuse you to the point that you stop listening to your thoughts. As mentioned, you must talk to the right people to gain clarity and ultimately, peace.
04-29-2019, 03:39 PM
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Originally Posted By Pumpinmirin⏩
That's exactly what I'm saying.Be as tough as an old boot crew.
The trick is not looking like you’re trying to be. I worked with a butcher years ago who was the sidecar man on the bikes at the speedway, got in a major collision and broke heaps of bones. Never once complained about his pain even though some days you could see him carrying it.
Could build or repair anything with the right tools.
That’s the man we should aspire to be.
The trick is not looking like you’re trying to be. I worked with a butcher years ago who was the sidecar man on the bikes at the speedway, got in a major collision and broke heaps of bones. Never once complained about his pain even though some days you could see him carrying it.
Could build or repair anything with the right tools.
That’s the man we should aspire to be.
04-29-2019, 03:41 PM
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It's a cold detached World out there, and by invoking empathetic relations with others you take a risk. They can clown on you, or just ignore it and make you look stupid at a vulnerable moment.
In a World where people get shot in droves every day, I dunno if we can afford to be sad that we don't get to cry on a shoulder. Bottling it up is the wrong way to phrase it.. Just... Deal with it.
In a World where people get shot in droves every day, I dunno if we can afford to be sad that we don't get to cry on a shoulder. Bottling it up is the wrong way to phrase it.. Just... Deal with it.
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04-29-2019, 03:41 PM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Fantastic, so when are you starting this process then?Thing is that none of that chit matters tho. For most traumatizing things, the how, when, why are completely irrelevant. Your mind wants to obsess over those things in order to find solutions. There are none. If someone murders your loved one or something, you can spend the rest of your life trying to understand why. The ancient way was to retaliate, kill him, and move on. This is the only viable solution. There is no way for you to bring the person you love back by analyzing the killers' motives etc. Trying to understand the motives of other people is an impossible task. Trying to fix the past is equally impossible. What isn't impossible is to just move forward. I've learned to manage automatic negative thoughts by distracting myself. A lot of automatic memories can also be suppressed. It's like when you have a crush, and you force yourself to stop thinking about them and dwelling on their memory. Eventually, what was once a powerful infatuation is reduced to nothing.
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04-29-2019, 03:44 PM
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Is this what your therapist is telling you, or how you are interpreting it?
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04-29-2019, 03:47 PM
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As an alpha male you can't cry or show any emotions besides anger. If you cry in public you are a beta male. I tear up from time to time because i'm a loner but never in public. I can't even full on cry anymore for some reason.
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04-29-2019, 03:49 PM
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srs bro when are you going to see a professional therapist?
Doesn't matter if it's ayahuasca with a shaman in Peru or a Freudian psychiatrist with a bushy beard or a new age holistic horse whisperer or whatever but when the phuck are getting help bro?
Those badass vets that you fantasize about drank themselves to death and beat up their wives to cope, you think that's healthy son?
Doesn't matter if it's ayahuasca with a shaman in Peru or a Freudian psychiatrist with a bushy beard or a new age holistic horse whisperer or whatever but when the phuck are getting help bro?
Those badass vets that you fantasize about drank themselves to death and beat up their wives to cope, you think that's healthy son?
04-29-2019, 03:50 PM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Then why are you boring us with your narrative if you're making changes?Been doing it for a while. It is working.
You should post about that. What you're doing. How you're doing it. What you have to offer others.
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04-29-2019, 03:51 PM
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Originally Posted By wincel⏩
Or to stop having most or all of your feelings.Srs. I have spent a lot of my life reflecting on my situation, getting down and emotional. It doesn't solve anything. I think there is good reason to believe that simply moving on and suppressing chit is the right approach. Men have done that for thousands of years, and it worked. Crying and talking about your feelings doesn't solve anything. It's always women who encourage that chit. Talking about chit won't change the past or fix anything. It is best to suppress it and move on. You keep that chit bottled up. If you ever show you are weak, people will just attack you and make things worse.
Think about it. Men came back from WW2 and raised families and chit. Their solution was not to fukig cry about it. Ever. It worked. Yeah people get PTSD, etc. The only way you can get past chit is by just refusing to think about it anymore. Every time you remember something, you will recall and re encode all these memories and feelings, and it will reenforce your pain. Honestly, the best way is to never dwell on any kind of negative feelings or memories -- to just brutally suppress them.
It's like those studies saying that venting anger actually makes you more angry. It's obvious that revisiting emotions reencodes them, and now you've just associated a new memory with the past.
Think about it. Men came back from WW2 and raised families and chit. Their solution was not to fukig cry about it. Ever. It worked. Yeah people get PTSD, etc. The only way you can get past chit is by just refusing to think about it anymore. Every time you remember something, you will recall and re encode all these memories and feelings, and it will reenforce your pain. Honestly, the best way is to never dwell on any kind of negative feelings or memories -- to just brutally suppress them.
It's like those studies saying that venting anger actually makes you more angry. It's obvious that revisiting emotions reencodes them, and now you've just associated a new memory with the past.
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Originally Posted By MuzzieChik786⏩
lol at this sloot trying to tell him what to do.Then why are you boring us with your narrative if you're making changes?
You should post about that. What you're doing. How you're doing it. What you have to offer others.
You should post about that. What you're doing. How you're doing it. What you have to offer others.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
Now this real life potato chimes in...fukin lolAs an alpha male you can't cry or show any emotions besides anger. If you cry in public you are a beta male. I tear up from time to time because i'm a loner but never in public. I can't even full on cry anymore for some reason.
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04-29-2019, 03:54 PM
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Originally Posted By suave2000⏩
lol at the therapy suggestion.srs bro when are you going to see a professional therapist?
Doesn't matter if it's ayahuasca with a shaman in Peru or a Freudian psychiatrist with a bushy beard or a new age holistic horse whisperer or whatever but when the phuck are getting help bro?
Those badass vets that you fantasize about drank themselves to death and beat up their wives to cope, you think that's healthy son?
Doesn't matter if it's ayahuasca with a shaman in Peru or a Freudian psychiatrist with a bushy beard or a new age holistic horse whisperer or whatever but when the phuck are getting help bro?
Those badass vets that you fantasize about drank themselves to death and beat up their wives to cope, you think that's healthy son?
04-29-2019, 03:55 PM
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there is a big difference between feeling your emotions and understanding them to having an outburst and going full retard when you get rejected on grindr
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"I spent my whole life trying not to be careless. Women and children can be careless. But not men."
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Originally Posted By DrunkonMilk⏩
thats a cool quote and everything but the keyword is TRYING."I spent my whole life trying not to be careless. Women and children can be careless. But not men."
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