I mean from a male perspective, I recently asked out an older women that looked to be in her mid to late 40s that was pretty hot but aside from a few exceptions I've met, most women in their 40s and 50s are fat, old looking and just not attractive. I would hate to be at your age and everyone I know looks like trash.

You just described the dating pool EXACTLY the way incel miscers do.

For most people, dating isn't simply about physical attraction or for the pragmatic reasons you listed. It's also about enjoying your time with the person next to you (as long as there is some degree of attraction). For the vast majority of women your age and even for many much younger women, the kind of immaturity you mentioned would be a complete turn off. In contrast, a lot of men have a higher tolerance for immaturity because of biology and also because it brings up some of our protective instincts (also biology). Even in that case, I think it's about 50/50 or 60/40. A lot of older guys have little tolerance for younger women as well.

There's a reason why being called daddy is a thing while I can't imagine any woman wanting to be called mommy while getting pounded. I'm not judging you for being what you're into, but let's not pretend that it's the norm or that it's the same thing as older men being attracted to younger women. Let's also stop pretending that every person who doesn't put physical attraction as the number one priority is only doing it for mercenary reasons.Ha. But at 50 years old, that probably really is the case.

2-3 yrs ago bumble was a much better app.
no idea what people use now.

Yes, it's true for both men and women. Most people my age look like crap.She'srightyouknow.jpgWell, I'm just being honest. As SS said above, look through any dating app at men my age. It's truly discouraging.Well, I'm not SS but I can answer to your first part. While I want mental attraction/connection as well as physical, you have to have some physical attraction in the first place to get to the mental part. I will not date a fat out of shape guy or a skinny fat guy. I just am not at all attracted to that in any way. I have always been attracted to muscles as I've been lifting since I was 17 yrs old. He doesn't need to be jacked, but I need at least fit with some muscle tone. So of course, being 50 that is going to be even harder to find in a guy my age. Your last sentence is absolutely correct. It doesn't mean I'm going to stop hoping to find someone my age who's on the same fit level as I am, but I am losing hope of it happening. Still won't date anyone more than 10 years younger than me though.

There are lot of guys in their forties that are good looking. Aging stays pretty much the same from 20-40 for both genders. Yes, I admit that in your fifties, it starts to speed up fast but there's no way there aren't guys in their forties that look good.
I was never attracted to guys in their twenties (except when I was in my twenties) even in my thirties they looked too young.

Oh, I just got back from the hairdresser and Heidi Klum the fricking supermodel was sitting there and I was like she's my age but she looks so old. I mean, are we all in denial how old we look (???) but damn I can't look that old. Of course she was make up free and wearing sweats but still

"MeN aRe ShAlLoW *******s"

just lol


"Im only attracted to like 5% of the male population" - women in this thread

L O L

Not a single attractive guy on this IG page... I can't understand why anyone 40+ wants to look like that...

You're wrong about there being so many guys in 40's who look good. Well, maybe not in your hollywood hills. I don't live there, though. I live here and let me tell you. There are very few guys in my age range that look good. Some could have a good face, but their body looks like chit. Either chunky, skinny fat, fat, etc. I prefer fit body over face.That's because we're talking about 40+ year old men.Yep. That's the reality.

I think so. There's the image of us that we have in our heads (where we never or just barely aged) versus the reality.

A common theme I've noticed talking to older friends is that the 30s suck and 40s are fun.

Wonder if 50s and 60s have a similar relationship.Women being shallow doesnt mean men arent?

95% of the population is more attracted to 20 year olds than 50 yr olds.

That is an ig dedicated to goofy looking "dads" and "dad" cliches



There a a couple 40 yr old and even a 50 year old on my beer league softball team that are still good looking. The 50 yr old actually just knocked up his 29 yr old gf.... on purpose.

That wasnt my statement or position. I'm pointing out the absurdity we in this thread. Which is runaway hypergamy.

Ok old lady. Keep getting railed by 20 somethings bragging about it lmao

he gave her good dic though.

Well come on. They’re playing a sport. Of course that’s going to trend towards some in shape older guys. Just like older guys in the gym. But go do errands. Grocery store, Target, drug store. You’re going to see a lot of unattractive bodies.

As for a 50 year old purposely having a kid. I feel sorry for that kid. Dad prob won’t even be alive when he graduates high school.

Read Legz comment and thought "yeah, 10 years is a fair max range". Saw Cass's comment.

Yes. The answer is yes. I think we are in denial. Or maybe it is just me.

Because when I read Legz comment I'm thinking "well, yeah...35 would be the youngest".

Except I have kind of thought that for awhile. And I got older.

So 35 would be more than 10 years. LMAO

I'm 6 years older than my ex though, and no one ever mistook me for his mom or anything.

To play devil's advocate, if I was in my 40s or 50s, I wouldn't fuking around with women my age too. At least 10 years younger. Granted I'm a man so it's common and should be easier to do as long as I keep myself in shape.

At the same time, SilenceSpeaks is eventually gonna hit that wall and no man is gonna want her and so she's just wanting to fuk around with 20 something year old dudes before it's too late.

I can understand if she doesn't want to date fat, old dudes her age but guys who are in shape? That's like a rarity at that age.

Didn't you say earlier in ITT that there was few girls that liked you, but you weren't attracted to them? Not calling you out. It's not hypergamy to want to date/marry someone attractive. You said it yourself you don't want a fatty and rightly so.

And there are also other things that are attractive besides looks. A persons voice, for example, can be so sexy or the things they say, the way they move etc. it's not virtue signaling to say looks is not everything.

i've kind of been ignoring the #1 girl i am interested in. she just hit me up again today after 1 week of no talking lol. gonna try to hang out with her again srs

Yeah dudes 40+ and 50+ that are in shape and young are most likely bachelors for life in my city. This one guy at my job is an IT manager who's salt n pepper is very flirtatious, fit, skis, crass humor, etc. He's good looking, but when he was talking about threesomes and looking straight at me it turned me off. I'm only nice to him since he hooked me up with some new monitors, other than that I avoid.

Yes and yes.
plenty of women out there just want no-strings dic.
When I stopped trying to date women and assume the path of banging and figuring it out later things went better for me.

You're attracted to him and yet you got turned off because he was talking about sex?

That don't make no sense. You like sex right? So how can you be turned off by someone talking about sex? Only way would be if you were not attracted to him.

Yeah that’s why I don’t really say a particular age and just say up to 10 years younger. I’d have no problem dating a guy who’s 50 as long as he’s fit. My fwb is early 40’s so it’s not like I’m too old for that age range.

Not in my experience.
"no hookups" almost always means sex on the first date.

Also, women I didn't meet online but I know?
The one's who preach about how they are such "good girls" and would never do such a thing usually end up being the one's who spend the night after a party.
in my bed.

then continue to preach how they aren't sloots in front of me and I just pretend we didn't bang multiple times and didn't talk for weeks after.

It's the context.. I work at a very open and extroverted company, and at social events nothing surprises me these days. However, I wouldn't be talking about group sex at a work event when VPs are present. That's not my thing. Also he's not very marriage material, if that makes sense. And I don't want to date work people, too much drama.