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post 1579663131 05-08-2019, 05:32 AM
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Originally Posted By davik
actually following the moral law makes you a decent human being. at the crux of that is God whether you recognise it or not. its not fear. i dont really fear anything in the sense you think people would
Who is responsible for people being bad beings?

Classic religious logic. "Did you hear about that baby who survived a hurricane that killed hundreds? What a miracle of God. "
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Originally Posted By BHall1991
Who is responsible for people being bad beings?

Classic religious logic. "Did you hear about that baby who survived a hurricane that killed hundreds? What a miracle of God. "
how do you know what bad is
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You said that God was at the crux of people being moral. I would assume in your eyes it's based on what's deemed a sin. Way to sidestep the premise though. It seems like all your responses are some nonsensical deflection.
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Originally Posted By BHall1991
You said that God was at the crux of people being moral. I would assume in your eyes it's based on what's deemed a sin. Way to sidestep the premise though. It seems like all your responses are some nonsensical deflection.
i asked you how you know what bad is. i didnt ask you to restate what i think it is
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Originally Posted By Unwicht
I am 6'2, lots of muscle and around 8 to 9 % bodyfat.
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post 1579668191 05-08-2019, 07:19 AM
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This thread kind of says it all.

How miscers see themselves: Tall, rich, young, aesthetic. Total catch in every way. Have worked tirelessly to improve their lives, and only seek a woman uncorrupted by Western feminism and social media who will appreciate it.

How other people see miscers: Autistic serial killer with a weightlifting habit.
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post 1579669131 05-08-2019, 07:36 AM
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Originally Posted By davik
easy solution, just sell more cars
Good God, man, don't summon that in here.
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post 1579670331 05-08-2019, 07:55 AM
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Originally Posted By FA*******
This thread kind of says it all.

How miscers see themselves: Tall, rich, young, aesthetic. Total catch in every way. Have worked tirelessly to improve their lives, and only seek a woman uncorrupted by Western feminism and social media who will appreciate it.

How other people see miscers: Autistic serial killer with a weightlifting habit.
Ayyyyy das it

and lol @ the religious debate I missed. Y'all so crazy.
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Originally Posted By JustMoved24
Guarantee you come across boring as **** and extremely judge mental. No woman wants any part of that
This. Or OP is just extremely normal looking in his face and doesn't even realize it.

I am also a STEM major and work in the tech field but don't flaunt it for woman gains. Most just want a chill dude that they can look good with.
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Originally Posted By Vrykul
Btw can confirm that there are a lot of crazies on dating apps

Currently talking to one girl that straight up told me she likes to be insulted and hates compliments

Then another one who calls me “baby” and sends me heart emojis after 1 day of talking

Dating apps not even once
Psychotics and Borderlines, along with height, they should ask these women of they are on psychotropics, guarantee 95% of them are.
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Heres what you do op....be cocky as fuk.....put in your bio....daddys here with a gorilla emoji....bitches eat that up....Now you need to stop being a needy *******....dont ask a **** ton of questions....woman are bored quick....they want to be dominated....

They want to be fuked like dirty little sluts that they are....you are either socially retarded, or you come off as incredibly desperate and needy.....

act as if you are the prize....make them believe that they are lucky to be spending time with you....

You are not SELLING yourself you are BUYING.....a lil mindset switch will open the floodgates of panties for u
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post 1579676131 05-08-2019, 09:11 AM
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I think you guys are being unfairly harsh to OP. He just seems confused that he feels like his done everything right in life, however still struggles in dating. People seem to focussing on his use of the word ‘dare’, however he’s from Germany and has already admitted it translates bad.
Originally Posted By JewSeeJohn
Getting girls is all about being cool and social, which is why there is 17 year old pot-heads that smash more sloots in one year, than does your whole office floor combined in a decade.
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Originally Posted By FA*******
This thread kind of says it all.

How miscers see themselves: Tall, rich, young, aesthetic. Total catch in every way. Have worked tirelessly to improve their lives, and only seek a woman uncorrupted by Western feminism and social media who will appreciate it.
Feels, can relate to this and somewhat to you OP. I’m similar age, surgeon in training, 6’, top income bracket, but FA too. I also spent my younger years focussing on trying to improve and perfect myself, however I neglected my social life and skills. However unlike you I realise the problem is wholly myself as I am neither cool, nor confident and I also lack the experience with the opposite sex to be appealing to women. This is due to the fact I let this whole aspect of my life slide for the past 15 years instead of including it in my self improvement strategy to become a more complete well rounded person.
I’m not ugly either, quite the opposite, but I know I’ll never do well with women for the reasons above.
post 1579677131 05-08-2019, 09:25 AM
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Originally Posted By wasw0
Feels, can relate to this and somewhat to you OP. I’m similar age, surgeon in training, 6’, top income bracket, but FA too. I also spent my younger years focussing on trying to improve and perfect myself, however I neglected my social life and skills. However unlike you I realise the problem is wholly myself as I am neither cool, nor confident and I also lack the experience with the opposite sex to be appealing to women. This is due to the fact I let this whole aspect of my life slide for the past 15 years instead of including it in my self improvement strategy to become a more complete well rounded person.
I’m not ugly either, quite the opposite, but I know I’ll never do well with women for the reasons above.
Bro your description of yourself put me to sleep. Get some hobbies, go do some things you find fun, happiness can't be achieved with a checklist. Women are attracted to men who enjoy life, neither you or the OP sound like you are having any fun, so why would a girl want to spend the one life we are given, with you? That isn't meant to come across in a mean way, but I think you guys are looking at things the wrong way. Figure out some things that you enjoy doing and do them. If you meet girls while doing these fun things, then it will be easier to be social, you already have things in common, etc. If you don't meet any girls well then that's fine because you were focused on yourself and having fun anyways. It's a win win.
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u are doing it wrong. u will not find anything worthwhile from online dating
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BTW name calling OP and calling him autistic, serial killer, boring, etc will not help him. Honestly in dating you will encounter people with varying interests in you and you may or may not mesh. I don't find it exactly anyone's fault though. I'm not saying either that OP doesn't have things that he shouldn't work on. Someone's personality flaws and imperfections shouldn't devoid them of finding companionship and love IMO.
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Originally Posted By RazorM3
what the fukk are you doing wrong? even my ugly ass can get a girlfriend
You're a female.
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Originally Posted By wasw0
I think you guys are being unfairly harsh to OP. He just seems confused that he feels like his done everything right in life, however still struggles in dating. People seem to focussing on his use of the word ‘dare’, however he’s from Germany and has already admitted it translates bad.
I can understand part of his post being lost in translation, but the rest of his OP is still really fukkin supreme.
Maybe some of you can relate. In the last few years I experienced a lot of rejections, what bothers me the most is the lack of likes or matches on dating apps or sites.It may be irrational but this caused me to develop an ever increasing hatred towards women.My logical self knows this is stupid, but somehow the absence of interest in online dating still hits me hard.

During the last few years I worked hard to get where I am now. My education is rock solid and I have no debts. The job as an electrical engineer pays very well and puts me in the upper middle class. And furthermore my physique is quite good. I am 6'2, lots of muscle and around 8 to 9 % bodyfat. Of course those are just superficial statistics, but isn't this what matters in online dating?

So my mind thinks. On the one hand, I have all those positive perks and on the other hand most women dare to reject me.Deep down this just destroys my confidence and makes me despise women altogether.It can not be that all the hard work is worth nothing nowadays. It seems like the majority of women worship the IG influencer lifestyle and have lost all respect for hard skills. Why even bother. I could just as well play video games all day long. So maybe some of you can relate...
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Alot of assumptions and accusations. Interestingly, the whole thread would move to a totally different direction if I chose a better picture of myself. But it shows perfectly how we are influenced by appearence. By the way, my stats are true. That is what the last three bioelectric impedance analysis tests showed. There is of course estimation error of around 3 to 6%. There is a progress picture, decide for yourself if you want.

Some of you asked what platforms I use. Before I stopped online dating it were mainly dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Badoo and also a paid "premium" dating site. You actually just see blurred pictures at first and there is also a psychoanalysis. Women in their mid twenties I avoided completely. Most of them seem to go through a "finding phase" and make a highly unstable partner. Women in their late twenties or early thirties with or without children were my preferred target group. The possibility is high that these women are decent. They might just had bad luck with their first husband. It also easy to see if they have any decency and responsibility.

I had a few short term relationships. But all in all it was disappointing. One of them was an ice-cold pediatric surgeon. When at home she described how she operated on an open heart and then casually told me: "Oh, by the way, the child died." She even made fun about all the blood ... Another one was a lesbian who wanted my semen. A seed bank was too anonymous for her ... And then there was one who had severe alcohol problems. The women I found most promising and attractive rejected me. Most of the time didn't even respond.

During business trips I also experimented with dating apps. In western countries it was the worst. I tried my luck in the US around Chicago and Detroit, Spain, Norway, England and of course Germany - what a wasteland. Japan was alright. I supervised an industrial project there and had absolutely no time unfortunately. But the Japanese women seemed really decent. Their English skills were horrible so far away from touristic areas though. The most success I had in former Soviet states and East Africa. I had some nice interactions with decent and educated women in Russia. Ukraine I did't like. It is a poor country and dating apps like Mamba are full with sex workers. And no, I did't write that I am a wealthy engineer from Germany. It helped that I am fluent in Russian, since I was born there. Contrary to the believe ITT, I do not look like a German.
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Originally Posted By Unwicht
Alot of assumptions and accusations. Interestingly, the whole thread would move to a totally different direction if I chose a better picture of myself. But it shows perfectly how we are influenced by appearence. By the way, my stats are true. That is what the last three bioelectric impedance analysis tests showed. There is of course estimation error of around 3 to 6%. There is a progress picture, decide for yourself if you want.

Some of you asked what platforms I use. Before I stopped online dating it were mainly dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, Badoo and also a paid "premium" dating site. You actually just see blurred pictures at first and there is also a psychoanalysis. Women in their mid twenties I avoided completely. Most of them seem to go through a "finding phase" and make a highly unstable partner. Women in their late twenties or early thirties with or without children were my preferred target group. The possibility is high that these women are decent. They might just had bad luck with their first husband. It also easy to see if they have any decency and responsibility.

I had a few short term relationships. But all in all it was disappointing. One of them was an ice-cold pediatric surgeon. When at home she described how she operated on an open heart and then casually told me: "Oh, by the way, the child died." She even made fun about all the blood ... Another one was a lesbian who wanted my semen. A seed bank was too anonymous for her ... And then there was one who had severe alcohol problems. The women I found most promising and attractive rejected me. Most of the time didn't even respond.

During business trips I also experimented with dating apps. In western countries it was the worst. I tried my luck in the US around Chicago and Detroit, Spain, Norway, England and of course Germany - what a wasteland. Japan was alright. I supervised an industrial project there and had absolutely no time unfortunately. But the Japanese women seemed really decent. Their English skills were horrible so far away from touristic areas though. The most success I had in former Soviet states and East Africa. I had some nice interactions with decent and educated women in Russia. Ukraine I did't like. It is a poor country and dating apps like Mamba are full with sex workers. And no, I did't write that I am a wealthy engineer from Germany. It helped that I am fluent in Russian, since I was born there. Contrary to the believe ITT, I do not look like a German.
post a better picture then. we will tell you the truth
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Originally Posted By ssilv
post a better picture then. we will tell you the truth
You know, actually the goal was not to get dating advice. The internet is full with this. A lot of men face the same problem. But still thanks for the input.

It is my own problem I have to deal with. But the massive amount of rejection leaves a mark. I just can't approach western women or see them like before. I don't know what it is, maybe defiance or wounded pride. I had hoped someone has the same feels and would like to share how he dealt with it... It is illogical just like arachnophobia. You tell a person: "Don't worry, this spider is not venomous." He understands it but still has insane fear of dying.
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another thread with miscers trying to reconcile these two things:

1) they think they are attractive (both physical and personality traits)
2) they are unable to attract women
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Originally Posted By SportCoat
another thread with miscers trying to reconcile these two things:

1) they think they are attractive (both physical and personality traits)
2) they are unable to attract women
You come to this thread with an already decided opinion, read the parts which reinforce it and then write an unqualified response. Well done. But I guess that is normal.
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Originally Posted By BlueSasquatch
Bro your description of yourself put me to sleep. Get some hobbies, go do some things you find fun, happiness can't be achieved with a checklist. Women are attracted to men who enjoy life, neither you or the OP sound like you are having any fun, so why would a girl want to spend the one life we are given, with you? That isn't meant to come across in a mean way, but I think you guys are looking at things the wrong way. Figure out some things that you enjoy doing and do them. If you meet girls while doing these fun things, then it will be easier to be social, you already have things in common, etc. If you don't meet any girls well then that's fine because you were focused on yourself and having fun anyways. It's a win win.
Thanks for the feedback. I agree wholeheartedly with what your saying and have made my goal this year to find more balance in my life (although not succeeding as of yet to even make time).
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Height and body is meme OP after fight club body there is no further increased attraction from developing sick body to women, only to men.





It's all about face and your dick size

height doesn't matter if you are taller than her
look at proudmanlet 5'6 and slay left and right thanks to his big dick
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Originally Posted By davik
how do you know what bad is
You really don’t realize why a society would frown on everyone going around killing each other, stealing, raping, etc? You think God is necessary for people to feel traumatized or wrong when their health or livelihood is jeopardized? When you lose money or injure your back do you go “man this sucks because God says it sucks”?

Really reflect on that point and ask whether you’re actually a smart enough person to think you can debate about anything. Also take a look at statistics of crimes committed by atheists and religious people and figure out how that plays into moral absolutism
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Originally Posted By xTKSx
He's not lying. You look like a school shooter 2 rejections away from acting on impulse. Change up your hairstyle, learn how to smile, and seem interesting. Attractiveness, education, and wealth play a factor but so does having a personality and being a fun person. Judging from that picture you look like you lack in that department.
Repped for quality reply. Follow each part of this advice and you’ll have a lot more success. You’re not ugly at all, but you haven’t looksmaxed at all.
Remember the guy that gave up? Neither does anybody else.
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Originally Posted By Unwicht
I am more stoic than funny. But you are right that faking it would give me success, but I don't want to. Thanks for the input though.
Lost it right there. Come on buddy. You're not doing yourself any favors. Women want a good time, they don't want to hang out with some cringy emo dude.
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There is always something wrong with girls who use dating apps. ALWAYS. I've met over 100 at this point and had a 1 year relationship with one off there. She'd banged 10 guys at the age of 19. She was hot though so I don't regret it, but that shows you the level of thottery on these apps.

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