Nah, I've done some sleeping around and I feel the same way. Admittedly though, I have a lot of double standards.

As I'm getting older, I'm finding out that a lot of the girls that I just banged casually are now getting married. A part of me wonders why any man would consider them wife material, but to each his own.

They simply werent that interested. Women do this insane thing of acting agreeable and excited then ditching. The logic I've been told is "I dont want a guy to blow up on me and freak out", but...I rage harder at having my time wasted than anything.

I sit on my butt at work for the most part, still can't cut down to 1K cals without dying. I'm talking day in and day out. Every blue moon I'll eat less than 1200 one day, like Sunday I think I ate 900some, just wasn't that hungry. Rest of week I've hit about 1500.



Yeah, I usually go between the same couple lbs. Up, down, up down. I keep it under control cause otherwise you go up a couple lbs, don't lose it then a couple more, then a couple more and bam. You're like 10 lbs heavier. No thx Jeffrey!



Be careful with your shoulder! Def don't lift today.



I hate to break it to you, but you and your new girl are having causal sex. It's funny how it's ok for the girls you're sleeping with, but not ok for anyone else and we're all sluts if we have causal sex on the 3rd date.



lol at you thinking sleeping with one guy for years is Degenmaxxing just cause it's not a boyfriend/girlfriend situation.



Exactly what I was going to say.






Except I haven't met anyone I like enough to want to date let alone have sex with. I went two years without seeing my FWB and still didn't meet someone new. So my options are either to live celibate the rest of my life, be a hoe and go fuk randoms every time I'm horny or wait to see my FWB when he's in town.



I have no idea what that's about honestly. If I meet someone and I like them enough to give them my number, then I'm not going to flake on them. I might find out after the first date and talking more that I'm not feeling it, but then I'd be honest and tell them I'm not interested. I don't play games and I don't string people along.

Friends with benefits relationship is one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. I guess that's where I'm confused because you said something about boyfriend/girlfriend without the label.

I think I remember you saying you cheat. Yeah, those are some major double standards you got.

Yeah I'm being careful today and just letting it rest. I'll probably just do some cardio later idk. Most likely the doctor is probably gonna tell me not to work out for a certain amount of time.

Definitely no volleyball next week (maybe some basketball though)

Thanks for caring.

.....that's essentially what I'm saying. You're physically intimate with each other but yet you spend alot of nonsexual time together like a bf/gf will, just without the label.

Trust me, I don't want anyone to go through shoulder issues. Been there, have the trophy. lol I'd guess they'll tell you to rest it for a certain amount of time and then if it's still hurting to come back. If you have full range of motion and not too much pain you prob just pulled something or strained it.



I really don't know anyone that does this. Most people that say FWB are basically just having sex with the person, not hanging out together outside of sex. I think everyone does it differently. Mine and I text often in between and always have. I'm def not the kind of person that just wants a text at the time they're avail for sex and that's it. We also cuddle and talk after.

They simply werent that interested. Women do this insane thing of acting agreeable and excited then ditching. The logic I've been told is "I dont want a guy to blow up on me and freak out", but...I rage harder at having my time wasted than anything.

I agree with both of these in an ideal world, but as you're aware, the more constraints I put on this the less likely I am to discover someone.

The best thing I can do is maintain certain personal constraints & standards but expose myself to environments that are more likely to include women that match them. i.e. increase the probability.

This is also a very nuanced case-by-case basis I've realized, although I still maintain that they should _not_ be ONS partners or casual non-exclusive sex partners.

And what will they do?

Yes that is a good plan. I don't know any women in my social circle that will be okay with men having FWB and not women. Even my dad is against men having FWB/casual sex.

I remember growing up everytime there is a scene with women having different men or men with different women in the Chinese movies my dad would slut or manwhore shame them. Lol.




My friends are also traditional. They grew up with parents telling them that women should act a certain classy way and men should also act a certain classy way (a gentlemen). They would call you a creep and then tell every women around them to be careful of you. Lol..

Then they're just fuk buddies then, not FWBs. People like to blur the line between FWB and fuk buddies when they are two different things. FWB is not really correlated to fuk buddies and it's a common misconception.

For me, we just get together, fuk and go our separate ways until next time. I don't try to blur the lines between fuk buddy and gf/bf and I make it really clear I'm not looking to cuddle and have extended conversations.

Ehh I wouldn't care. That's just their social programming making them act like that. Like I said before, I'm sure I might have creeped out a woman when I told her I wanted to fuk her or even the soft way of saying you want to fuk them (hook up) but that just means a woman is just not interested in me. If she was, she wouldn't get creeped out. And if I had did it the indirect way, I would just be delaying my rejection.

That's why I love Mode One because I can find out which women are really interested or not.

Wouldn’t some of them possibly be interested in you until you ask them to fuk?

I'm not sure it has anything to do with blurring the lines. When you bring up the whole idea with someone I think the word, FWB sounds better. I've never had anyone come out and say, "Hey what do you think about us being fuk buddies?"

Ehh I wouldn't care. That's just their social programming making them act like that. Like I said before, I'm sure I might have creeped out a woman when I told her I wanted to fuk her or even the soft way of saying you want to fuk them (hook up) but that just means a woman is just not interested in me. If she was, she wouldn't get creeped out. In fact, she'll will find it funny ime. And if I had did it the indirect way, I would just be delaying my rejection.

That's why I love Mode One because I can find out which women are really interested or not.

You also get more respect when you're direct compared to indirect.

You got to understand that our thinking also came from our cultural background so our thoughts are sometimes still in the old age.

You guys are both perfect for each other.

cute black chick deleted me off messenger, and didnt respond to the text where I said what time works for her.


Man just ****ing lol

Inb4 "move to the center of los angeles and join an anime cosplay group"

Friends with benefits relationship is one in which two people are physically intimate with one another, yet they’re not committed to each other in any way. I guess that's where I'm confused because you said something about boyfriend/girlfriend without the label.

Inb4 "move to the center of los angeles and join an anime cosplay group"

Don't dismiss your culture's thoughts so easily. BlackScorpio has a progressive liberal mindset around cultural norms, and we diverge on this topic - I'm much more cautiously conservative and nuanced in my thoughts on cultural rules and instilled behavioral norms.

Yeah I understand this position. But like Cass you are judging from the luxury position of a long time marriage where you have constant access to male companionship and sex.

So from that luxury position ofc it’s easy to say oh I would never ever. But if you were to be single for many years, and go without male companionship or sex for years, then you might understand better why some people think it’s a decent enough compromise.

asking a woman what time works for her has never worked for me and resulted in many ignores.
Telling them i'm free on X day lets grab a drink has worked much better for me.
Women like it when a man takes charge and doesn't have all the free time in the world to wait on her.

Women also have very few hard plans and will blow off friends and family to see someone they are interested in so next time let her know the closest day of the week you are free then let her ask when you are free if it doesn't work for her.

Yeah I understand. My feelings for him are just not that deep. I’m not in love with him. I do really like him but still I’d 100% rather meet someone for a srs relationship.

And would even drop him for a local steady fwb.

Well I love him in a shallow way. Probably same as his “love” for me. I think we are on about the same level of emotion and affection.