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05-11-2019, 08:23 AM
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Originally Posted By DolphinPilot⏩
Serious question. Can we have an adult discussion without slinging insults? So lets just assume my FWB is only using me for sex, even though I told him no for two years and he stuck around. Aren't I also using him for sex? Plus, say I meet a guy and have sex with him like a week later on the 3rd date like Luci here has just done with his newest girl. How do I know he's not using me for sex? I could wait a month and he could still be using me for sex. It's really a no win situation as a female. It's assume every single guy I decide to date is going to use me for sex so say no to dating anyone or put some faith in another human being.I've known way too many women who have a hard time grasping they are only being used for sex. It's sad. Almost.
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05-11-2019, 08:24 AM
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Originally Posted By NitrogenWidget⏩
Wow, how have you never seen that before? It's funny AF!So I watched "just friends" with Ryan Reynolds.
older movie, never saw it before it was on my netflix.
I lol'd hard cause I knew how post fatty worked.
older movie, never saw it before it was on my netflix.
I lol'd hard cause I knew how post fatty worked.
Originally Posted By NitrogenWidget⏩
This is all true. Also weird you've never met anyone who's in between. Isn't a party girl but also likes to have fun.and you are right.
Now what?
masturbate with your own tears as lubricant or adapt?
imagine being my age post divorce when all a woman needs is a guy with $$$ to have fun with and it doesn't matter what he looks like.
but hey, you are decent looking so they ride your dic then forget you exist until they have an itch that needs scratching again.
Sex is easy.
A GF is hard.
I meet one extreme or the other.
Legit good girls who don't drink or do anything fun at all or party girls.
No happy medium yet.
Now what?
masturbate with your own tears as lubricant or adapt?
imagine being my age post divorce when all a woman needs is a guy with $$$ to have fun with and it doesn't matter what he looks like.
but hey, you are decent looking so they ride your dic then forget you exist until they have an itch that needs scratching again.
Sex is easy.
A GF is hard.
I meet one extreme or the other.
Legit good girls who don't drink or do anything fun at all or party girls.
No happy medium yet.
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05-11-2019, 08:25 AM
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Originally Posted By zeronotyethero⏩
I think that is absolutely fine to say. If you're just looking for a hook up you can use BlackScorpios approach but if you want to actually date say what you did above.Fuark. Was gonna give blackscorpio's approach a go with this one girl I met tonight... but I took fukking forever before I asked her to dance, and she left shortly after that. Possibly not interested, I dunno.
For future reference, does "I think you're cute, and I want to take you on a date tomorrow work"? I am nor have I ever been direct, in any sense of the word, so this is all new to me.
For future reference, does "I think you're cute, and I want to take you on a date tomorrow work"? I am nor have I ever been direct, in any sense of the word, so this is all new to me.
Couldn't multi quote for some reason. It wouldn't go through.
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05-11-2019, 09:07 AM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
It is strange. Is the middle not the large majority of people?This is all true. Also weird you've never met anyone who's in between. Isn't a party girl but also likes to have fun.
05-11-2019, 09:18 AM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
And yalls solution to this is no strings attached sex?It's not about not giving legitimate dudes a chance. It's about not meeting any legitimate dudes. I won't do online dating so tell me, where am I supposed to be meeting all these legitimate dudes? I'm not a hermit either, I go out and do stuff. I did Salsa for a year and didn't meet anyone. Oh wait, except for the two guys who were in relationships that flirted with me. Oh and lets not forget the last time i went out dancing. So a 25 year old liked me. Too young. And the guy who came over and told me I"m sexy as I was on the dance floor. Who seemed to be there with his girlfriend/wife? Yeah no. Or how about the only single guy at the last party I went to? He was 50, but not attractive to me and just getting divorced from a wife who cheated on him so a complete mess. Plus an alcoholic and I think a pothead. So again, no thanks! You think it's hard to meet people at your age in your 20's? Imagine how hard it is in 40's/50's.
05-11-2019, 09:24 AM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
I have a job that if everything goes well, could have a global impact. I get to travel occasionally for my job, and even got to be inside a secured government research building. I like to make jokes, and generally try to be as fun as possible. I like to learn new things. I am nice to people. I don't go out drinking or do drugs. I make plenty of money and am pretty secure financially. Good credit score. I may not be the smartest man on the planet, but I am certainly not dumb.It's not about not giving legitimate dudes a chance. It's about not meeting any legitimate dudes.
Despite all of this, women have basically zero interest in me. I politely ask if they would like me to show them around the city, and have a good time, but I am always turned down. I am not attractive though, so even though I seem to have what a lot of women want, they can't get past my face. I think this is what fishnbrah is referring to.. sort of lol
I understand your situation may be different, though.
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05-11-2019, 09:29 AM
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Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
No, of course that's not what we want. That's why I'm not out hooking up with randoms. I wouldn't consider being involved with someone for 4 years no strings attached. There are feels there for both of us. Sure, I could look for a local FWB that I could see weekly/monthly even, but I don't want a new FWB situation. Plus, how often does that really work out? So I'd have to go through the starting of it, seeing if we are compatible sexually and seeing if it would last part, which I'm really not interested in. Or I could refuse to see my FWB when he's in town, stay celibate and virtue signal on how I'm waiting for a relationship. How's that ideal? I care very much about him, he's the only man I've been with in years. There are no guys in sight to be in a relationship with. Why deny a basic human need to be close to another person? I just don't see the point.And yalls solution to this is no strings attached sex?
Originally Posted By FiniteAutomaton⏩
Have you looksmaxxed? Do you workout/lift? Being in good shape can help. I'm not a man so I don't know the struggles personally, but I do know that I have been attracted to guys who others don't think are attractive. My FWB is not a chad, he's bald and he's on the skinny side, but does have some muscle. Compared to a lot of guys here who are in great shape, they'd say he's close to being a twink. Do I care? Nope, not one bit. Because we have amazing chemistry and somehow he settles me when I talk to him. Just keep trying. You'll eventually come across one who says yes. I realize that this probably isn't what men want to hear, but I do believe there is someone out there for everyone.I have a job that if everything goes well, could have a global impact. I get to travel occasionally for my job, and even got to be inside a secured government research building. I like to make jokes, and generally try to be as fun as possible. I like to learn new things. I am nice to people. I don't go out drinking or do drugs. I make plenty of money and am pretty secure financially. Good credit score. I may not be the smartest man on the planet, but I am certainly not dumb.
Despite all of this, women have basically zero interest in me. I politely ask if they would like me to show them around the city, and have a good time, but I am always turned down. I am not attractive though, so even though I seem to have what a lot of women want, they can't get past my face. I think this is what fishnbrah is referring to.. sort of lol
I understand your situation may be different, though.
Despite all of this, women have basically zero interest in me. I politely ask if they would like me to show them around the city, and have a good time, but I am always turned down. I am not attractive though, so even though I seem to have what a lot of women want, they can't get past my face. I think this is what fishnbrah is referring to.. sort of lol
I understand your situation may be different, though.
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05-11-2019, 09:38 AM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
Do what you do.No, of course that's not what we want. That's why I'm not out hooking up with randoms. I wouldn't consider being involved with someone for 4 years no strings attached. There are feels there for both of us. Sure, I could look for a local FWB that I could see weekly/monthly even, but I don't want a new FWB situation. Plus, how often does that really work out? So I'd have to go through the starting of it, seeing if we are compatible sexually and seeing if it would last part, which I'm really not interested in. Or I could refuse to see my FWB when he's in town, stay celibate and virtue signal on how I'm waiting for a relationship. How's that ideal? I care very much about him, he's the only man I've been with in years. There are no guys in sight to be in a relationship with. Why deny a basic human need to be close to another person? I just don't see the point.
05-11-2019, 09:39 AM
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Originally Posted By FiniteAutomaton⏩
Lower your standards or your tour is overI have a job that if everything goes well, could have a global impact. I get to travel occasionally for my job, and even got to be inside a secured government research building. I like to make jokes, and generally try to be as fun as possible. I like to learn new things. I am nice to people. I don't go out drinking or do drugs. I make plenty of money and am pretty secure financially. Good credit score. I may not be the smartest man on the planet, but I am certainly not dumb.
Despite all of this, women have basically zero interest in me. I politely ask if they would like me to show them around the city, and have a good time, but I am always turned down. I am not attractive though, so even though I seem to have what a lot of women want, they can't get past my face. I think this is what fishnbrah is referring to.. sort of lol
I understand your situation may be different, though.
Despite all of this, women have basically zero interest in me. I politely ask if they would like me to show them around the city, and have a good time, but I am always turned down. I am not attractive though, so even though I seem to have what a lot of women want, they can't get past my face. I think this is what fishnbrah is referring to.. sort of lol
I understand your situation may be different, though.
05-11-2019, 09:49 AM
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
I always get a kick out of "looksmaxxed" haha. Anyway, I have been going to the gym since November of last year and have noticeably lost weight and got a lot stronger. I still have a bit more to go on that front. I know it isn't as much as you guys, but I can deadlift 264, squat 176 and bench 135. Over the past month or so, I have taken an interest to cologne and wear good stuff. To that end, I have also started putting on moisturizer and face masks to keep my skin clean and healthy so I wear that stuff better.Have you looksmaxxed? Do you workout/lift? Being in good shape can help. I'm not a man so I don't know the struggles personally, but I do know that I have been attracted to guys who others don't think are attractive. My FWB is not a chad, he's bald and he's on the skinny side, but does have some muscle. Compared to a lot of guys here who are in great shape, they'd say he's close to being a twink. Do I care? Nope, not one bit. Because we have amazing chemistry and somehow he settles me when I talk to him. Just keep trying. You'll eventually come across one who says yes. I realize that this probably isn't what men want to hear, but I do believe there is someone out there for everyone.
Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
If I lowered my standards any further, I would almost have none at all lol. I am striking out with women who don't even brush their teeth.Lower your standards or your tour is over
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05-11-2019, 09:53 AM
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Originally Posted By FiniteAutomaton⏩
just get hookers, its the exact same thing as most advocate in this thread the last 5 pages. it will cost you a little more cash than them but not much.If I lowered my standards any further, I would almost have none at all lol. I am striking out with women who don't even brush their teeth.
05-11-2019, 09:55 AM
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05-11-2019, 09:59 AM
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Yeah degenmaxxing is all you can do. That's why i got all of my dates when i was an alcoholic and dipped 2 cans of copenhagen per day. Didn't even lift and had 6-7's throwing themselves at me. Looksmaxxing just makes girls intimidated by you.
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05-11-2019, 10:01 AM
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I always get a giggle when guys say it's easy for women. I could talk to 5 different introverted and shy dudes and they will shut me or themselves down. Just last night I went to beer release party and I approached a guy that seemed lonely and playing on his phone. I asked him questions with a genuine smile and he gave me one word responses. He was pretty below average, some gray, wore glasses, engineer type personality, wore a brown belt with black shoes (men please don't do this), etc. I talked to him about different types of beers and barely gave me a chance. He abruptly left and I stayed and hung out with my friends.
And some of you wonders why some women goes for the charisma chad type guy...
And some of you wonders why some women goes for the charisma chad type guy...
05-11-2019, 10:01 AM
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Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
I appreciate the advice. I should say though that it isn't sex that I am after. I am more interested in having someone I can spend time with, have fun and be intimate with. Not that I wouldn't want to have sex, it just isn't paramount to me.just get hookers, its the exact same thing as most advocate in this thread the last 5 pages. it will cost you a little more cash than them but not much.
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05-11-2019, 10:06 AM
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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
now imagine that happening many many many times over and over and you get an idea of life for timothy.I always get a giggle when guys say it's easy for women. I could talk to 5 different introverted and shy dudes and they will shut me or themselves down. Just last night I went to beer release party and I approached a guy they seemed lonely and playing on his phone. I asked him questions with a genuine smile and he gave me one word responses. He was pretty below average, some gray, wore glasses, engineer type personality, wore a brown belt with black shoes (men please don't do this), etc. I talked to him about different types of beers and barely gave me a chance. He abruptly left and I stayed and hung out with my friends.
And some of you wonders why some women goes for the charisma chad type guy...
And some of you wonders why some women goes for the charisma chad type guy...
i would have totally blown that opportunity as well.
05-11-2019, 10:10 AM
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Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
Here's the thing Timmy should try and be more open. I legit do give average guys a chance, but if they don't try, what's the point? I know some dudes that dresses like chit, but has a personality and has zero issues with women. There is no excuse for some dudes out there.now imagine that happening many many many times over and over and you get an idea of life for timothy.
i would have totally blown that opportunity as well.
i would have totally blown that opportunity as well.
05-11-2019, 10:12 AM
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I haven't heard of degenmaxxing up until now, but generally I want to make my life better, not worse lol
Admittedly I am not much of an eye for fashion, and some of the clothes I like that fit my personality aren't fashionable. That said, I am about to head out to shop for a nice outfit and see how I feel in it.
Admittedly I am not much of an eye for fashion, and some of the clothes I like that fit my personality aren't fashionable. That said, I am about to head out to shop for a nice outfit and see how I feel in it.
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05-11-2019, 10:13 AM
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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
if you actually went up to them and talked to them thats cool. most girls stand like 15 feet away and they think were supposed to know that means theyre interested.Here's the thing Timmy should try and be more open. I legit do give average guys a chance, but if they don't try, what's the point? I know some dudes that dresses like chit, but has a personality and has zero issues with women. There is no excuse for some dudes out there.
05-11-2019, 10:14 AM
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Originally Posted By FiniteAutomaton⏩
go back to 1955 then. this is the future, like nitrogenwidget said last night you have to adapt.I want to make my life better, not worse lol
05-11-2019, 10:17 AM
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Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
To be fair men are hunters... That's how it's been done for 100s of years. Go ask your grandparents how they met. 9 times out 10 your grandfather approached your grandmother.if you actually went up to them and talked to them thats cool. most girls stand like 15 feet away and they think were supposed to know that means theyre interested.
05-11-2019, 10:21 AM
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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
oh yeah. but without a girl at least hinting at interest most dudes arent goint to approach.To be fair men are hunters... That's how it's been done for 100s of years. Go ask your grandparents how they met. 9 times out 10 your grandfather approached your grandmother.
05-11-2019, 10:23 AM
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Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
I can't speak for all women, but for me if I look and smile at a guy 2 or 3 times across the room that's an invitation for him to approach. If he doesn't get it then well....oh yeah. but without a girl at least hinting at interest most dudes arent goint to approach.
05-11-2019, 10:24 AM
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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
Yes because back then they would go to parties and bars and meet through friends. Things were very local back then. You can't just approach girls now days or they will just stare at you like a creep or reject you. There is competition for every girl too because at every place a girl goes she has orbiters. This is why people don't even bother because it doesn't go anywhere.To be fair men are hunters... That's how it's been done for 100s of years. Go ask your grandparents how they met. 9 times out 10 your grandfather approached your grandmother.
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05-11-2019, 10:27 AM
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
And how do you know this???Yes because back then they would go to parties and bars and meet through friends. Things were very local back then. You can't just approach girls now days or they will just stare at you like a creep or reject you. There is competition for every girl too because at every place a girl goes she has orbiters. This is why people don't even bother because it doesn't go anywhere.
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Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
i usually have to be hit with a hammerI can't speak for all women, but for me if I look and smile at a guy 2 or 3 times across the room that's an invitation for him to approach. If he doesn't get it then well....
05-11-2019, 10:29 AM
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Originally Posted By BlackScorpio91⏩
Not in this city. I've never done so poorly in my LIFE.I've had the "act standoffish" or "act like I'm not there" thing happen to me too so I can understand. The funny thing is most of the time it happens with women that are honestly below me in looks or I'm not that attracted to at all. You're not gonna give up unless you're really old and your sex drive is low or you castrate yourself. Other than that, it's gonna be hard for you to give up if you have a sex drive and basic human needs.
I thought you had ugly and fat women that loved you brah?
I thought you had ugly and fat women that loved you brah?
Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
lol @ degenmaxlooksmaxxing will get you no where dude. you have to degenmaxx in 2019 or you will never make it
Originally Posted By DanielleGreen⏩
Danielle you are the exception not the rule. Im sorry famI always get a giggle when guys say it's easy for women. I could talk to 5 different introverted and shy dudes and they will shut me or themselves down. Just last night I went to beer release party and I approached a guy that seemed lonely and playing on his phone. I asked him questions with a genuine smile and he gave me one word responses. He was pretty below average, some gray, wore glasses, engineer type personality, wore a brown belt with black shoes (men please don't do this), etc. I talked to him about different types of beers and barely gave me a chance. He abruptly left and I stayed and hung out with my friends.
And some of you wonders why some women goes for the charisma chad type guy...
And some of you wonders why some women goes for the charisma chad type guy...
05-11-2019, 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted By otakutrevan⏩
So uhhh what's your favourite IPA?Danielle you are the exception not the rule. Im sorry fam
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Originally Posted By fishnbrah⏩
I approach w/out IOI. No ****s given. If she doesn't give me any IOI after I approach I excuse myself.oh yeah. but without a girl at least hinting at interest most dudes arent goint to approach.
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Originally Posted By Legz422⏩
I think double standards are okay. It’s the ability to obtain their end goal be it relationship, marriage and/or kids that matters the most. They can sit here and talk and talk but at the end if they are not getting what they want then it’s oh well.Always double standards! lol
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