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post 1581618211 06-07-2019, 09:54 AM
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Originally Posted By pengh⏩
Last GF i lived with stopped putting out (tour was over) i used to jerk off every night in the spare/computer bedroom after she went to sleep.
My wife hasn't stopped putting out but we've been together 15 years so sometimes I'd rather just jerk off. I do the same after she falls asleep or sometimes she's watching tv upstairs and I'm downstairs. She's never caught me in the act but one time I was feeling frisky and used some lotion and forgot to put it back, left it at the computer. I got a weird look that day. LOL.
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post 1581618331 06-07-2019, 09:55 AM
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Originally Posted By nrowles⏩
My wife hasn't stopped putting out but we've been together 15 years so sometimes I'd rather just jerk off. I do the same after she falls asleep or sometimes she's watching tv upstairs and I'm downstairs. She's never caught me in the act but one time I was feeling frisky and used some lotion and forgot to put it back, left it at the computer. I got a weird look that day. LOL.
haha
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Originally Posted By RainingBlood⏩
Living with someone long-term is much like having your girlfriend over for the day or a weekend. After a while, you've had enough and you want to be alone, browse the misc, listen to some tunes, cook at your own pace, lift, and sleep peacefully in an empty bed. A live-in girlfriend will complicate all that I've mentioned thus far.
exactly. she'll want attention but she'll also start to get fed up with your chit and become bitter, without realizing it herself because young girls are generally stupid af. and it'll lead to constant friction, as she starts to become someone you don't enjoy either.

The only plus side I experienced was a TON of sex. but it was generally lower quality bc I wasn't as into her
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post 1581618471 06-07-2019, 09:57 AM
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This is how it always happens. One day they “forget a sweater” at your place, next their whole wardrobe has taken over your closet... tours over boyo.

But seriously, set your boundaries right now. If you don’t have any, think of some. Soon your apartment will become hers. Not “ours” but hers.

All in all I’d advise against it. This is all upside for her, she pays less rent, and your place is probably better than hers. Meanwhile you loose your sweet alone time, a gain a headache. Do you really want to be trapped with her during that time of the month? Smell her chits? Have her products in your bathroom?



Really think about this OP don’t be a leaf in the wind, this is your life
post 1581618581 06-07-2019, 09:59 AM
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Originally Posted By nrowles⏩
My wife hasn't stopped putting out but we've been together 15 years so sometimes I'd rather just jerk off. I do the same after she falls asleep or sometimes she's watching tv upstairs and I'm downstairs. She's never caught me in the act but one time I was feeling frisky and used some lotion and forgot to put it back, left it at the computer. I got a weird look that day. LOL.
You've been together 15 years and you're still awkward about her knowing you jerk it?
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post 1581619011 06-07-2019, 10:05 AM
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Originally Posted By pengh⏩
You get bored of them 10x faster srs. If you actually found "the one" and can live with her, good for you.

I did it with 4 girls and sh*t hit the fan fast.
this lmao

did it with 2, and both times it ended badly.

would not recommend unless you are ready for marriage and see her as your future wife/mother of your children. You will find out pretty quick whether or not that is the case once you move in together.
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post 1581619021 06-07-2019, 10:05 AM
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Originally Posted By nrowles⏩
My wife hasn't stopped putting out but we've been together 15 years so sometimes I'd rather just jerk off. I do the same after she falls asleep or sometimes she's watching tv upstairs and I'm downstairs. She's never caught me in the act but one time I was feeling frisky and used some lotion and forgot to put it back, left it at the computer. I got a weird look that day. LOL.
Lmao yikes. Imagine being a man and living like this. A prisoner in your own home. I’ll jack off in the kitchen sink if I want to goddamnit! Sad!
post 1581619151 06-07-2019, 10:08 AM
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why the fuk would you do this unless you were engaged?
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post 1581619291 06-07-2019, 10:11 AM
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post 1581619381 06-07-2019, 10:13 AM
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Originally Posted By nm1891⏩
You've been together 15 years and you're still awkward about her knowing you jerk it?
Yeah I suppose. I'm not too worried about it but I don't just go and do it anytime in front of her.
Originally Posted By Basiliskboy⏩
Lmao yikes. Imagine being a man and living like this. A prisoner in your own home. I’ll jack off in the kitchen sink if I want to goddamnit! Sad!
I am by no means a prisoner in my own home just because I jerk it on my own time. I pretty much do what I want overall and she gets it. Hell there are dudes that don't see their friends after getting a woman. I do chit all the time with friends.
post 1581620211 06-07-2019, 10:22 AM
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My girl lives with me but we sleep in separate rooms. I hate sharing the bed and let her know that sometimes I need to be alone and play WoW all night. She doesn't mind her own alone time with Real Housewives so it works out.
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post 1581620251 06-07-2019, 10:23 AM
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Originally Posted By JUGGERNAUT1333⏩
Completely depends on where you see yourself with this girl. If you have thoughts of her being "the one", then it's smart to do a move in. It will really test your chemistry together and abilities to live together and deal with the challenges that presents.

Can make or break your relationship, but at least you'll know.
This is why I decided that we should when she brought it up. We've been dating for 1.5ish years now and she already essentially lives here. It's one more step in the relationship and I figure we have to see if it will work out eventually.
Originally Posted By BasedAnthony⏩
Never understood what the problem is with letting the girlfriend take over the apartment. I would love to have a girlfriend deal with all the furniture and arrange the apartment. I don’t wanna deal with that chit anyways. I’m more concerned about actually being with someone 24/7 and not having personal space.
See this is how I was thinking initially but at one point during rearranging things last night she mentioned that she never really liked one of the art pieces on the living room wall and for some reason it annoyed me way more than I thought it would. However I was already in a cranky mood because we literally tore the entire room apart and had to put it back to how it started.

Also as a general note out to several miscers comments - we're splitting rent once she moves in officially.
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post 1581620291 06-07-2019, 10:24 AM
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Relationships are about give and take. As long as you maintain communication you will be alright. Living together will show you how she truly is day by day, you get to know each other on a more personal level.
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post 1581620471 06-07-2019, 10:26 AM
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Originally Posted By Zackad⏩
this lmao

did it with 2, and both times it ended badly.

would not recommend unless you are ready for marriage and see her as your future wife/mother of your children. You will find out pretty quick whether or not that is the case once you move in together.
What I'm concerned and conflicted about is that last night I can't tell if my feelings last night were just normal move-in/big relationship step anxieties or the beginning of realizations about incompatibility...
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post 1581620711 06-07-2019, 10:29 AM
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Pro-tip: if she's in any way crazy, she's been hiding it by politely avoiding you on her "bad days".

You'll see what I mean once you've witnessed a complete menstrual cycle in the middle of seasonal depression.
Nah, fukk that. I’m not doing that.
post 1581621121 06-07-2019, 10:37 AM
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You done fukked up boyo, never ever live with a broad who is not your wife.
post 1581621261 06-07-2019, 10:39 AM
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Originally Posted By EdwardTheGreat⏩
You done fukked up boyo, never ever live with a broad who is not your wife.
Yeah, much better to be married before you find out you can't tolerate living with her.
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post 1581621421 06-07-2019, 10:41 AM
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Originally Posted By nm1891⏩
Yeah, much better to be married before you find out you can't tolerate living with her.
If you don't already know that before you propose, you deserve a lifetime of misery you dumb fukk LOL
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If you plan on marrying her or are considering it then you absolutely should, make sure you're compatible living together for at least a year or more.

If you're not planning on eventually marrying her then you goofed
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Originally Posted By triception⏩
What I'm concerned and conflicted about is that last night I can't tell if my feelings last night were just normal move-in/big relationship step anxieties or the beginning of realizations about incompatibility...
depends how attached you are to art in general, as well as that piece in particular. If you're always gonna want to be hanging up art that she dislikes, that'll be some conflict. If you have a special attachment to that piece she mentioned not liking, that's gonna bug you because to you it means something, to her it's trash.

Honestly, you'll only be able to figure it out over time and through experiences. Might as well get it over with and find out lol. Just don't set it up in such a way that you are trapped with her if things go south. Happened to me with the first one, had to live with my ex and my roommate for about 4 months very uncomfortably while she was bringing dudes back to the apartment unexpectedly. I'd be sitting there gaming and another dude would walk in with her...and there was nothing I could do without causing massive tension between us and our roommate, since she was on the lease.

2nd experience, I continued paying the rent solo and didn't put her name on anything, so when things went south I just helped her pack her chit and kicked her out.
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Originally Posted By triception⏩
This is why I decided that we should when she brought it up. We've been dating for 1.5ish years now and she already essentially lives here. It's one more step in the relationship and I figure we have to see if it will work out eventually.



See this is how I was thinking initially but at one point during rearranging things last night she mentioned that she never really liked one of the art pieces on the living room wall and for some reason it annoyed me way more than I thought it would. However I was already in a cranky mood because we literally tore the entire room apart and had to put it back to how it started.

Also as a general note out to several miscers comments - we're splitting rent once she moves in officially.
idk man I would just let her do whatever the fck she wants to the apartment, but that's just me. I don't really have anything that I care about besides my pc and pics of parents apart from that as long as she doesn't make me do the work she can have it. Like I said I think your main concern should be actually living with her and not having and personal space. I lived my ex for about a month and it got to the point where I would just go for a walk around the block to get some space alone
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"i feel conflicted" that's hilarious


does she live rent free else where?
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Depends on your crib


Studio apartment with one mini closet?

Fck no.


12 bed McMansion with pool, cinema and games room?

Fck no.



You mugged yourself off op.
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Originally Posted By Zackad⏩
depends how attached you are to art in general, as well as that piece in particular. If you're always gonna want to be hanging up art that she dislikes, that'll be some conflict. If you have a special attachment to that piece she mentioned not liking, that's gonna bug you because to you it means something, to her it's trash.

Honestly, you'll only be able to figure it out over time and through experiences. Might as well get it over with and find out lol. Just don't set it up in such a way that you are trapped with her if things go south. Happened to me with the first one, had to live with my ex and my roommate for about 4 months very uncomfortably while she was bringing dudes back to the apartment unexpectedly. I'd be sitting there gaming and another dude would walk in with her...and there was nothing I could do without causing massive tension between us and our roommate, since she was on the lease.

2nd experience, I continued paying the rent solo and didn't put her name on anything, so when things went south I just helped her pack her chit and kicked her out.
Yeah that's the thing I'm not even that attached to this piece which was why I was surprised and sort of disturbed that it had such a visceral effect on my mood. I think I was just feeling ****ty after moving all of the furniture around all night.

That's also how I feel that if it isn't going to work out I would rather have that happen now than wait and move in with her months later and have the realization then. Only my name will be on the lease so legally it's all still mine, but she will be paying 1/2 rent once I get her some keys.
Originally Posted By BasedAnthony⏩
idk man I would just let her do whatever the fck she wants to the apartment, but that's just me. I don't really have anything that I care about besides my pc and pics of parents apart from that as long as she doesn't make me do the work she can have it. Like I said I think your main concern should be actually living with her and not having and personal space. I lived my ex for about a month and it got to the point where I would just go for a walk around the block to get some space alone
I think I'm just going to go this route, I don't really care all that much about the layout of the apartment as long as it doesn't interfere with things I'm doing or add much more overhead to cleaning/staying organized.
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The golden rule: never move in with a girlfriend unless you are sure that you are going to marry her (ie: you are either engaged, or know that you will propose).

There is literally zero upside to letting just a "girlfriend" move in.
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Originally Posted By samsbolton⏩
Depends on your crib


Studio apartment with one mini closet?

Fck no.


12 bed McMansion with pool, cinema and games room?

Fck no.



You mugged yourself off op.
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It sucks at first because you lose alot of freedoms, but give it time. You will learn to love coming home to someone.
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Originally Posted By EdwardTheGreat⏩
If you don't already know that before you propose, you deserve a lifetime of misery you dumb fukk LOL
And how do you know their actual habits before you live together, and no, staying over sometimes or taking vacations together is not the same as cohabiting 24/7. You phucking moron.
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