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post 1582238161 06-17-2019, 03:14 PM
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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩
So many excuses in here. I feel like people that think its against "social norms" think of sex as some "dirty" thing

So, if it becomes clear you want a girl you are "breaking the rules"

So if i go up to a restaurant right now.. And talk with someone (lets say no woman)

Im "breaking social norms"?

Why is it any different with a woman?

Theres a fundamental belief sex is bad for some reason
Approaching anyone is outside of social norms and invading their privacy imo. It's one thing if you make a quick comment like if someone is wearing a band t shirt you like and go on with your day. But thinking you are entitled to socialize with a random person is rude imo.
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post 1582238421 06-17-2019, 03:20 PM
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Originally Posted By ErnieMccracken⏩
This is a giant red sloot flag. Danger danger danger. Big social groups are prime monkey branching territory.
Brah, you'd be hard pressed not to find a young, normal able bodied girl in her 20s who isn't on social media. It's rare as fuk.
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post 1582238431 06-17-2019, 03:20 PM
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Originally Posted By Claud3⏩
You have to be in the same social circle/tribe with the girl so that she can seriosuly date you. Look a bit into the history of mankind and you will know why you need to have friends in order for women to like you and have kids with you. Cold approaching is useless because people are naturally scared of strangers/foreign tribes.
What are you even talking about? Did you read through the thread? Obviously a lot of people here get results cold approaching women including me and most of my friends so your theory is completely worthless. And with the whole "tribe" talk you just sound like an EoD alt account.
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post 1582238511 06-17-2019, 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted By Vascularmanlet⏩
Most girls don't give a chit about your friends, I have a decent social circle yet its never made a girl like me more or less just because I have some friends. Most people have friends ffs it won't exactly make you stand out will it? Unless you're friends with celebrities or CEO/10k a day no one cares.

All that matters is that shes attracted to you and that you get along well unless she's some gold digger insta model.
This. The delusion that a girl somehow cares about anything beyond your looks and personality in order to fuk you is strong in here.
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post 1582238581 06-17-2019, 03:24 PM
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Originally Posted By Burgerbuger⏩
Brah, you'd be hard pressed not to find a young, normal able bodied girl in her 20s who isn't on social media. It's rare as fuk.
If a girl only dates guys with at least X amount of followers, that should be an instant pass for anything except smashing.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
Approaching anyone is outside of social norms and invading their privacy imo. It's one thing if you make a quick comment like if someone is wearing a band t shirt you like and go on with your day. But thinking you are entitled to socialize with a random person is rude imo.
Luckily it's only your opinion. Where did thinking this way get you in life? Didn't you say you haven't had sex since like 2012?
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post 1582238721 06-17-2019, 03:27 PM
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Originally Posted By ErnieMccracken⏩
If a girl only dates guys with at least X amount of followers, that should be an instant pass for anything except smashing.
If a girl sees you as a loner with barely any friends she won't be with you for very long lol. Herd mentality is powerful.
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post 1582238781 06-17-2019, 03:28 PM
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Originally Posted By Burgerbuger⏩
If a girl sees you as a loner with barely any friends she won't be with you for very long lol. Herd mentality is powerful.
Fuarrrrk. Screwed either way.
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Originally Posted By samosajoe⏩
idk man. Im not scared to talk to a random girl on the streets at all but I think you need to have some looks and atleast be normal adult male height for this to work.
Think about the last time you saw an ugly guy with an average or above average gf. You think he just went about his daily routine and she just popped up in his lap one day? Fuk no. Some of the most aggressive guys I've ever met were short as fuk Mexican dudes. Lots of times they ended up fukking ugly ass women, but ever now and then, you'd see them with a cute girl.

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Originally Posted By Burgerbuger⏩
Cold approaching is one of the worse possible ways to get a girl. I would never, ever, tell somebody to cold approach if they have issues as it is. To cold approach you either need to be a Chad or have super swag/personality or you wait for a sign of interest. Those are your three options. That's it.

It's like telling a geeky looking nerd to go meet chicks at a fuking bar lmao. Hint: It won't go well for him.

The most fool proof way is still through social circles.
lmao. Helpless fool, what a typical misc answer. I see nothing wrong with meeting girls through a social circle, but lets be realistic most social group do not have 9s and 8s waiting on standby for you to talk to them at any given opportunity. These high quality girls are hard to come by as most of them do not stay single. So most of the time guys like you WAIT for this magical opportunity to happen that is if it ever does. You wait and wait and wait for that one girl to pop up in your social circle and you talk to her and you find out she doesn't like you. You become salty as hell and redpill the internet. rinse and repeat till you go through all your friend's friends. Its really a depressing process.
post 1582239481 06-17-2019, 03:43 PM
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Originally Posted By Burgerbuger⏩
If a girl sees you as a loner with barely any friends she won't be with you for very long lol. Herd mentality is powerful.
Some will try to assimilate you into her own social circle if she knows you have no friends, but that's probably the easiest indicator she isn't into you romantically to begin with
post 1582239641 06-17-2019, 03:45 PM
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
Think about the last time you saw an ugly guy with an average or above average gf. You think he just went about his daily routine and she just popped up in his lap one day? Fuk no. Some of the most aggressive guys I've ever met were short as fuk Mexican dudes. Lots of times they ended up fukking ugly ass women, but ever now and then, you'd see them with a cute girl.

Numbers man, numbers.
It's all about numbers. If you shoot at everything that moves, you're going to hit something (no supreme gentleman)

Personally I prefer some variation of cold approach because I don't want to deal with something backfiring if it comes from my personal or professional life. Obviously, everyone has heard "don't sht where you eat" so work is out of the question. In my opinion it's just as bad if you start dating within your social circle. If something happens it fcks up the dynamic of your friends or family. A friend says "hey, my friend is single, she's cute, smart, etc.." so what do you do if it hits the fan and you dump her or she cheats on you? Now things are awkward with your friend for setting you two up and you may not even see them anymore if things go badly enough. I realize that these are worst case scenarios but I would rather go into a situation like that with some caution.
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Originally Posted By iamsocreepy⏩
It's all about numbers. If you shoot at everything that moves, you're going to hit something (no supreme gentleman)

Personally I prefer some variation of cold approach because I don't want to deal with something backfiring if it comes from my personal or professional life. Obviously, everyone has heard "don't sht where you eat" so work is out of the question. In my opinion it's just as bad if you start dating within your social circle. If something happens it fcks up the dynamic of your friends or family. A friend says "hey, my friend is single, she's cute, smart, etc.." so what do you do if it hits the fan and you dump her or she cheats on you? Now things are awkward with your friend for setting you two up and you may not even see them anymore if things go badly enough. I realize that these are worst case scenarios but I would rather go into a situation like that with some caution.
Social circle dos sound potentially disastrous.
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Originally Posted By puffdaddy68⏩
this 100%.

really misc? you put all your minds together and decide walking up to a woman you're near physically is the best way to meet them??

when women go to the gym, bookstore, grocery store, etc, guess what genius? they're there to lift, buy a book, and get groceries. not have some random guy spark up a conversation about avocado prices and transition it into getting their number. wow real smooth, she definitely doesn't know that you do this all the time.

the best way to meet women is to have a solid social group that includes attractive men and women, women that you're friends with and don't smash. women need the approval of other women to go home with a guy. so that when you're at a bar, or club, women know you're not some creep who's desperate for a lay. and, your girl friends have friends and you're pre approved. just lol at cold approach.
Hey genius! were can i sign up to get an attractive social group? do they have those on craigslist were i can put my name and hang out like we are buds for life.

Guys today are a bunch of pussies and have no idea how to attract a female.
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Originally Posted By quadfecta⏩
Some will try to assimilate you into her own social circle if she knows you have no friends, but that's probably the easiest indicator she isn't into you romantically to begin with
If a girl rejects you because you have a small social circle thats not a girl you want to be with. Have some standard men, that is their lost. Find someone that likes you for who you are. Status doesn't mean anything most of the time.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
Approaching anyone is outside of social norms and invading their privacy imo. It's one thing if you make a quick comment like if someone is wearing a band t shirt you like and go on with your day. But thinking you are entitled to socialize with a random person is rude imo.
Makes total sense. Seeing as everybody knows everybody in the world already and no friends are ever made anywhere

The word "social" in and of itself implies 2 people; theres a community/ communal effort implied. If you want to go really far you could even say language wouldnt have even come about without multiple people.
Being individualistic is not social.

"Entitled" is definitely a strange word to use. No, youre not entitled to a conversation with anybody but theyre also not entitled to not hear your words. If someone is a ******* when trying to talk to them, just move onto the next
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Originally Posted By Noahbro⏩
lmao. Helpless fool, what a typical misc answer. I see nothing wrong with meeting girls through a social circle, but lets be realistic most social group do not have 9s and 8s waiting on standby for you to talk to them at any given opportunity. These high quality girls are hard to come by as most of them do not stay single. So most of the time guys like you WAIT for this magical opportunity to happen that is if it ever does. You wait and wait and wait for that one girl to pop up in your social circle and you talk to her and you find out she doesn't like you. You become salty as hell and redpill the internet. rinse and repeat till you go through all your friend's friends. Its really a depressing process.
Thank you! Unless you have Dan Bilzerian in your social cirlce I would be suprised if you meet a legit single 8+/10 through your friends and if yes how often does that happen.
Originally Posted By Burgerbuger⏩
If a girl sees you as a loner with barely any friends she won't be with you for very long lol. Herd mentality is powerful.
Obviously yeah, keeping the girl around is something else. If she finds out you are completely boring with no hobbies/interests and no friends she will get bored with you eventually but we are talking about meeting new women here. Some of the biggest slayers I know are all the biggest loners who barely hang out with friends.
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Originally Posted By BohemianSlav⏩
This.




This is what I always thought but you'd be suprised how many women will be down to talk if you maybe say some remark. Also about that rejection part, I stopped giving a fuk, it doesn't have to be awkward unless you make it awkward. So what that I am seeing that person every day after getting rejected? I thought she was cute and went for it and she wasn't down, moving on. We are not in HS anymore where you'd get mocked and laughed at for liking someone and getting rejected.


You are right.
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let’s have a simple analogy. what’s a better way to get a job?

1. fire off resumes to companies (cold approach)

2. have your friend refer you to their company (social circle/status)

just LMAO at the society rejects ITT arguing for cold approach.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
Approaching anyone is outside of social norms and invading their privacy imo. It's one thing if you make a quick comment like if someone is wearing a band t shirt you like and go on with your day. But thinking you are entitled to socialize with a random person is rude imo.
Lmao. Dude, are you serious? It is absolutely normal to approach and speak to people EVERYWHERE, unless you are autistic as fk.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
Approaching anyone is outside of social norms and invading their privacy imo. It's one thing if you make a quick comment like if someone is wearing a band t shirt you like and go on with your day. But thinking you are entitled to socialize with a random person is rude imo.
You can make a few comments, ask a few questions, and decide based on their demeanor whether to continue. It has absolutely nothing to do with entitlement. It's honestly bizarre how you became this pathetic in your general approach to life.
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Originally Posted By Burgerbuger⏩
If a girl sees you as a loner with barely any friends she won't be with you for very long lol. Herd mentality is powerful.
Nope. True for certain trash, vacuous women, but depending on the strength of the physical and emotional attraction, she might even find such traits endearing.
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Originally Posted By Noahbro⏩
lmao. Helpless fool, what a typical misc answer. I see nothing wrong with meeting girls through a social circle, but lets be realistic most social group do not have 9s and 8s waiting on standby for you to talk to them at any given opportunity. These high quality girls are hard to come by as most of them do not stay single. So most of the time guys like you WAIT for this magical opportunity to happen that is if it ever does. You wait and wait and wait for that one girl to pop up in your social circle and you talk to her and you find out she doesn't like you. You become salty as hell and redpill the internet. rinse and repeat till you go through all your friend's friends. Its really a depressing process.
Lmao. What's a Chad like you doing on the misc? Shouldn't you be banging them as we speak?

If there's one thing I've learned over the years it's that we got a bunch of delusional miscers who believe they are 10/10 Alpha males who make 150k a year.

Realistically most guys are average as fuk and it won't end well for them because most girls are trying to date up in life. Too bad You are too blind to see it m8te and by mate I mean not my m8te.
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I've only seen one cold approach in the gym and the person might have known the girl idk. 99% of girls there have ear buds in and have their Chad bf with them. I personally know a few of them that do this. So it would be pretty hard to cold approach there. Even approaching would be extremely hard since the girls either have their ear buds in have Chad bf or are the type to work out with a group of dudes they know lol
That's the point. Its impressive because it's difficult and nobody else does it. If every other guy is afraid to do it then you must be super Chad if you can do it without being scared. And the woman is always more nervous than you, if not then you dun fukt up.
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Originally Posted By yewotm8⏩
That's the point. Its impressive because it's difficult and nobody else does it. If every other guy is afraid to do it then you must be super Chad if you can do it without being scared. And the woman is always more nervous than you, if not then you dun fukt up.
this is a classic blunder normies make. “if i do things chad does then i’m chad”. no, you’re going to fail spectacularly.

it’s like being broke and buying a mercedes cause rich guys have mercedes.
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Bottom line - who is going to cold approach a bunch of sloots and record it for the misc?
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Originally Posted By ErnieMccracken⏩
What are you going to do if it works?
I'm going to see how far I can go with it, I'm going to do it right and I'm going to do everything necessary to achieve that.

I have no idea what type of responses I'll get from cold approaching. Photofeeler rates me like a 6/10. I rarely ever get any matches on Tinder or Bumble. Sometimes when I'm out in public I'll have random girls smiling at me. So I have no idea what kind of response I will get.
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Originally Posted By Noahbro⏩
lmao. Helpless fool, what a typical misc answer. I see nothing wrong with meeting girls through a social circle, but lets be realistic most social group do not have 9s and 8s waiting on standby for you to talk to them at any given opportunity. These high quality girls are hard to come by as most of them do not stay single. So most of the time guys like you WAIT for this magical opportunity to happen that is if it ever does. You wait and wait and wait for that one girl to pop up in your social circle and you talk to her and you find out she doesn't like you. You become salty as hell and redpill the internet. rinse and repeat till you go through all your friend's friends. Its really a depressing process.
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Alot of betas like eod who makes excuses not to approach.
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From my own experience I can tell you that if a girl is really into you it pretty much doesnt matter what the fk you say, she will just like being around you. On the other hand if you have to work your ass off and impress her and press all the "right buttons" then she's really not into you and it probably isnt worth all the effort.
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