Very true. Few other things she's stated during the process:

"I want to see if I can stand on my own"
"I think I look younger than my age"
"I learned I'm a strong person from this"
"Can't eat much, have to stay skinny when single"
"I rode a jet ski for the first time"
"I'm not hanging around waiting anymore"

How are relationships even worth it man?

The vast majority of women will eventually betray you even if you think they are the right one. People fall out of love. Everyone is different, and maybe things work out for some I guess, but it just feels pretty hopeless.

After the refi is all signed away, my son asks her if she is going to stay a little longer like for dinner. She kisses his forehead and says "no, this is daddy's weekend. Gotta go." She zips out. We both haven't seen him for 2 weeks.

I asked him "how did that make you feel?" He says very sad.

The dude she is seeing is early 50s, never been married and no kids.

Dunno Wincel

But decent people have long term happy fulfilling relationships all the time, it takes some optimism, some work, possibly some luck but mainly shared values, trust, respect and care

cliffs
Divorced, I filed Mid-june, finalized end of July.
I have full physical custody, she pays child support, I keep house.
We split assets 50/50.
She is/was banging a former boss in another city from a job she had over 8 years ago.
I grew distant the last couple of years due to job/mental burnout situation.
Wife is experiencing midlife crisis.

Timeline
Beginning of June, wife moves out, we verbally agree on terms of divorce.
Then I begin preparing all legal documents.
Mid-June I meet with wife to discuss the documents and go over every single page, line item, and terms.
Then I meet with an attorney to review documents. After that wife and I sign and notarize all documents. I file the divorce.
End of July we both attended the court hearing where the judge finalized the divorce.


Story
took overseas trip in May, returned jet lagged and wife and I discussed divorce. Both of us stayed in bed that entire weekend pretty much crying, fuking, kissing. Announce it to our son. She said she didn't have feelings for me anymore. I felt similarly in 6 months prior to the trip, but during the trip wanted to try and turn things around. She also said that she felt like something else was out there waiting for her, she needed to find herself, and that she needed space.

I'm a miscer and ain't no fool, so I know there is clearly another dude in the picture and that her "something" was a "someone."

She moves into apartment within 6 days. The following weekend she is gone. We began our custody arrangement pre-divorce, and I had our child that weekend. Out of worry and jealousy I call and text with no response a few times late night Saturday. She responds 5am Sunday that she is sorry and will call later. She shows up at my house Sunday 1pm angry and screaming about how I bothered her during "her weekend", which she refers to when she doesn't have the child visitation. She said she went away to do some thinking and look at nature. lol ok

I hire PI, and find out over the next 3 weeks she is traveling a couple of hours out of state to visit a guy she used to work indirectly under before we relocated to ATL. During June and up to mid-July she was traveling there mid-week and worked remote from the dude's house and then stayed there through Sunday night when she didn't have child visitation. While obsessed or infatuated, I barely had any communication from her other than a few short texts or responses when I saw her. She was very cold. When we did meet or if she called about something, she was quick to get angry, paranoid, and upset. All summer I've had to calm her down.

She would say things like I should be paying her alimony and child support because I make more money (divorced gf has been feeding her garbage over the last 12 months I found out). I told her I would lawyer up and make sure our assets burned if she tried to pull that alimony crap on me. Also, I "threatened" her with giving her full custody if she wanted it, and that I would be fine paying child support. She backed away, especially when I added "let's see how your new boyfriend likes you with an adolescent, and all the logistics that would entail."

Honestly, she didn't want custody. The only thing she worried about all summer was having to pay child support. Tried to sweet talk me into making it zero. Tried to make me feel bad by saying she doesn't buy a lot of groceries, etc. lmao bish I did all the money calculations for both of us, and she will be fine gtfo.

In mid-July, she starts opening up to me again, had dinner at my house and told me things like the guy she's seeing has commitment issues, and she can see herself getting bored, and that she was never bored with me. She is feeding me tons of things to keep me as plan B. I play along for the most part because her mental state and mood swings go crazy, and I just want the divorce to be finalized for financial safety reasons. Dude lives on a golf course, has a boat and jet ski, and she tells me how much fun she's been having on the water (never was interested in boats before btw). I massage her neck, my dik gets hard and i whip it out, she puts her hand around it but we stop ourselves from doing anything further. I can sense she feels a little guilty and I ask her if she feels like she is cheating on the other guy when we do stuff like this, and she says yes. Makes me angry because divorce isn't done, but keep it to myself.

Anyway, divorce is final. I'm not stressing, but feel sadness. Not angry or bitter, just sad. Just glad I have my boy and money is good. She is still trying to keep tabs on me,gets jealous because I was seeing a woman a few times last couple of weeks. I break it off because I just don't feel like getting involved with anyone atm.Ex tells me that it would be romantic if we end up getting back together. Tells me her divorced friend and the friend's ex husband are casually dating after 1 year of being divorced. lol ok.

Cheers to the other man because I couldn't have gotten the divorce this way without you.

How are relationships even worth it man?

The vast majority of women will eventually betray you even if you think they are the right one. People fall out of love. Everyone is different, and maybe things work out for some I guess, but it just feels pretty hopeless.

"threatened to give her full custody"


Holy chit parents of the year right here.

If you are dumb, sure. If you're intelligent, you marry an equal, that will help you build something together. Then, if at some point it crumbles, you both still walk away with 50% of what has been built up between you, instead of giving some bimbo a meal ticket to become an instaho "influencer" while she lives off of your money.

OP, I am happy that you are not in a downward spiral of emotions. I hope you make it for the sake of your son.



But I have to say just ****en lmaaaaaoooooooo at Western women. Years of marriage, a child, throwing money and at the end for this ?

She will def try and get back with op and honestly based on his posts i would not be surprised if he takes her back.

But it could of have been way worse you fukkin imbecile.

Yah lol throwing away her marriage for a 50 yo dick and a guy who never married and has no kids. Hes just using her as a cum bucket andonce he is done hes gonna dump her ass....and if she is going through mid life chrisis now wait until that happens she may actually off her self.


She will def try and get back with op and honestly based on his posts i would not be surprised if he takes her back.

Look for red flags.



Misc is cheering me up today



My libido was pretty nil through all of this and was surprised to get a stiffy from just touching her neck. lol funny to think about it now that Miscers are pointing it out.




She's really going through a loony stage right now. Not my problem anymore though.

Yes it is tough to truth bomb your child. Don't want to bad mouth his mom, but had to let him think through how he feels about things too. An example, he spent 2 weeks at an overnight camp. As agreed, wife and I both dropped him off and picked him up together. During the drive to pick him up, she's telling me how she can see the changes I've made with myself and how the house looks real nice now, etc. I just go along with it (we aren't officially divorced at this time). The house refinancing was to occur later that same evening.

We pick our son up, she takes us to my house and she goes away, coming back later for the refinancing. When she shows up, she is looking REALLY nice, like she purposefully made herself look homely around me lol. I knew she was going to be on her way to the other guy the rest of the weekend. After the refi is all signed away, my son asks her if she is going to stay a little longer like for dinner. She kisses his forehead and says "no, this is daddy's weekend. Gotta go." She zips out. We both haven't seen him for 2 weeks.

I asked him "how did that make you feel?" He says very sad. I told him to be careful that mom doesn't manipulate his feelings and to do the same with me. Use your eyes, ears, and brain to see what is going on and that ACTIONS speak louder than words.

He's smart, and he's putting it all together in his own head.




She has said that it may look like she's have a great time, but that is has also been thinking about things and feels sad.
I'm bracing myself for what you are predicting. My brother irl is saying the same thing because he has been through some chit in his past, and passing on wisdom.

The dude she is seeing is early 50s, never been married and no kids.

Look for red flags.



Misc is cheering me up today



My libido was pretty nil through all of this and was surprised to get a stiffy from just touching her neck. lol funny to think about it now that Miscers are pointing it out.




She's really going through a loony stage right now. Not my problem anymore though.

Yes it is tough to truth bomb your child. Don't want to bad mouth his mom, but had to let him think through how he feels about things too. An example, he spent 2 weeks at an overnight camp. As agreed, wife and I both dropped him off and picked him up together. During the drive to pick him up, she's telling me how she can see the changes I've made with myself and how the house looks real nice now, etc. I just go along with it (we aren't officially divorced at this time). The house refinancing was to occur later that same evening.

We pick our son up, she takes us to my house and she goes away, coming back later for the refinancing. When she shows up, she is looking REALLY nice, like she purposefully made herself look homely around me lol. I knew she was going to be on her way to the other guy the rest of the weekend. After the refi is all signed away, my son asks her if she is going to stay a little longer like for dinner. She kisses his forehead and says "no, this is daddy's weekend. Gotta go." She zips out. We both haven't seen him for 2 weeks.

I asked him "how did that make you feel?" He says very sad. I told him to be careful that mom doesn't manipulate his feelings and to do the same with me. Use your eyes, ears, and brain to see what is going on and that ACTIONS speak louder than words.

He's smart, and he's putting it all together in his own head.




She has said that it may look like she's have a great time, but that is has also been thinking about things and feels sad.
I'm bracing myself for what you are predicting. My brother irl is saying the same thing because he has been through some chit in his past, and passing on wisdom.

The dude she is seeing is early 50s, never been married and no kids.

Marriage is a joke to most women these days. I mean if you spend long periods of time with anyone you will get bored of them or its not going to be fun as when you first met but women today they get bored they looking to leave instead of thinking logically and wondering if a fling is worth destroying her family over.


She will regret it op but it will be too late.


How long did u guys date before you got married?

He already said ''if he takes her back, he won't marry her again''. So he's already thinking bout taking her back.
Looks like she'll be winning in the end. Got new dink, got OP's money and most likely will go back to op.