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post 1620005181 10-21-2020, 12:00 PM
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Need help, dark times

Update on post #34

Hey brahs, you could say I'm going through the worst time of my life right now

- sick on and off since feb, doctors suspect lymphoma (cancer)
- dont go out much if at all due to above
- ex (wife material with some big flaws) who i dumped but started missing her badly after almost a year, texted her and she told me she's in a complicated relationship and basically keeping my hopes up, decided to NC for now although I miss her so bad
- overly emotional due to all of the above, never been this emotional in my life. Used to believe i can get through anything but now i just dont see it anymore
- cried for about 2 minutes today for the first time in years
- read about chemo and that theres a chance it can cause infertility among the 100 other side effects
- feel the loneliest i've ever felt, and i don't feel lonely easily. dont even want to see friends

give me some kind/alpha words brahs in my hour of need
post 1620005951 10-21-2020, 12:08 PM
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Damn dude, that just me in the feels. You’re gonna make it through this tough time, if you need someone to talk to hmu

We’re all gonna make it brah
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post 1620006371 10-21-2020, 12:11 PM
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You're still young brah, God willing you'll beat the cancer & you'll still have your entire life ahead of you. God bless.
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post 1620006521 10-21-2020, 12:12 PM
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post 1620006781 10-21-2020, 12:15 PM
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Originally Posted By RackaDo⏩
Damn dude, that just me in the feels. You’re gonna make it through this tough time, if you need someone to talk to hmu

We’re all gonna make it brah
Can’t say much more than this. OP keep your head up. You’re gonna make it brah
post 1620006811 10-21-2020, 12:16 PM
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post 1620007071 10-21-2020, 12:18 PM
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damn bro that's some hard ****. they can't test to confirm a diagnosis?

also that ex/kids stuff is normal when faced with your mortality.

but that type of cancer has a pretty good prognosis... and if it nukes your jimmies, you have an excuse to hop on dat dere, eh? Just go spunk in a clinic if you want to save your sperm.
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post 1620007281 10-21-2020, 12:20 PM
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That's some rough stuff there boyo. Not much I can say except don't give up the fight. Look up Dennis71's cancer thread...I think that was him. Think he still posts around here too and may have a better perspective as someone who's been through it before.
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post 1620007901 10-21-2020, 12:25 PM
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Originally Posted By Archangel_Lost⏩
damn bro that's some hard ****. they can't test to confirm a diagnosis?

also that ex/kids stuff is normal when faced with your mortality.

but that type of cancer has a pretty good prognosis... and if it nukes your jimmies, you have an excuse to hop on dat dere, eh? Just go spunk in a clinic if you want to save your sperm.
Y go smack the monkey so you can have some sperm saved (we should all do this tbh just in case srs)

Side effects sound about the same a finny lmao

Btw be careful with the sloot. Sit and have a good think, are you crawling back to her because of the 10 other points you listed? From the outside it seems like you are focusing on her as some kind of solution to the other major issues you are facing. Never put your faith in a sloot to get you through anything ded srs. Put your faith in God, he will pull you through srs
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post 1620007981 10-21-2020, 12:27 PM
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post 1620008091 10-21-2020, 12:28 PM
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Yikes brother I'm really sorry to hear about what you're presently going through. Luckily, the brotherhood of the Misc is here to help.

Your immediate priority is on your health and wellness. Focus on the cure, and don't worry about complications or any such nonsense. It's going to be an uphill strugglebut one that you need to take. This is your journey now.Chemotherapy is not fun, but it will be worthwhile in the end.

Never forget that you have so much potential. The negative thoughts you're harboring are illusory and can be brought to heel. But we really do need to start treatment for your lymphoma here.

I want you to remember that it's perfectly normal to cry. Let the emotion wash over you, and take that moment of clarity which follows to uplift you and provide you with determination. You are going to make it brah.

It's when we are at our weakest that we find our strength.

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post 1620008411 10-21-2020, 12:32 PM
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You're gonna be alright OP, don't let the negatives get you down brah. Focus on yourself and find ways to be happy. A good mood is the first step to improving your health.

Also, look into a vegan diet and CBD oil, I know plenty of people that have gotten rid of all types of cancers just by using these two things.
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post 1620008571 10-21-2020, 12:33 PM
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First thing I think is you need to confirm whether it's really cancer that's the cause of this.
post 1620008611 10-21-2020, 12:34 PM
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Originally Posted By RackaDo⏩
Damn dude, that just me in the feels. You’re gonna make it through this tough time, if you need someone to talk to hmu

We’re all gonna make it brah
Thanks brah, just need whatever support i can get atm im not even in the emotional state to have a convo
Originally Posted By hoganrulz⏩
You're still young brah, God willing you'll beat the cancer & you'll still have your entire life ahead of you. God bless.
thank you brother, it's still not confirmed that it is cancer but very high chances. i am not worried that i won't beat it, i am just feeling like i won't be able to handle all of this sh*t
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Can’t say much more than this. OP keep your head up. You’re gonna make it brah
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Originally Posted By Archangel_Lost⏩
damn bro that's some hard ****. they can't test to confirm a diagnosis?

also that ex/kids stuff is normal when faced with your mortality.

but that type of cancer has a pretty good prognosis... and if it nukes your jimmies, you have an excuse to hop on dat dere, eh? Just go spunk in a clinic if you want to save your sperm.
yeah i have a tests coming up in a few weeks that should be conclusive

i really really don't want to be infertile, having kids a bit later in life has been one of my top priorities for a long time. if it comes to it i will try the sperm bank route
Originally Posted By MrQuint⏩
That's some rough stuff there boyo. Not much I can say except don't give up the fight. Look up Dennis71's cancer thread...I think that was him. Think he still posts around here too and may have a better perspective as someone who's been through it before.
Thanks bro, i will check it out
Originally Posted By steeler505⏩
Y go smack the monkey so you can have some sperm saved (we should all do this tbh just in case srs)

Side effects sound about the same a finny lmao

Btw be careful with the sloot. Sit and have a good think, are you crawling back to her because of the 10 other points you listed? From the outside it seems like you are focusing on her as some kind of solution to the other major issues you are facing. Never put your faith in a sloot to get you through anything ded srs. Put your faith in God, he will pull you through srs
yeah i've been thinking about that. i did miss her before since the day i broke up with her but not to this extent, this is like amplified by 100. but i can't really say until i feel better, then i'll know
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If you're going to die embrace it, die like a man, not a little scared bitch boy.

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post 1620008621 10-21-2020, 12:34 PM
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post 1620008731 10-21-2020, 12:35 PM
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Knock the fertility thing out by freezing your sperm. If it's one of the effects dragging you down, thats a viable option.

If you legit have un-diagnosed cancer, you need to make an appointment - even if out of state with less restrictions.

Contact your insurance company and see where you are covered.

Having some definitive evidence can help ease your mind into the next path, or rule out what's causing your sickness in the first place.
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What are you symptoms? You've been having serious problems for like 8 months with no diagnosis, even though they suspect cancer? Sounds very weird.
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Your ex is an ex for a reason. Why are you wasting your mental health on her? If I'm going to die last thing on my mind is some sloot. Health is everything, **** worrying about some sloot, your health should be the only thing of concern.
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What continent you livin on brah? look into Chaga. Straight up kills cancer cells in a lab. Make tea every mornin.

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There are millions of people out there in worse situations then you, people beat cancer every day and continue to live normal lives. Do you still have a roof over your head? And steady income
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Damn son that's a rough draw. I had a family member with lymphoma and it was tough. When will you know for sure?

There is a miscer here named Dennis71 or something like that who had an extremely bad diagnosis and he ended up having to have a bone marrow transplant. He's cancer free now though and talking about chasing women on the misc
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Trust me when I say this: The mind has an uncanny ability to morph mind, body and spirit. Stay positive and hopeful-- change your mindset. Keep your eyes on and focus on a world where you are free of these issues; meaning, look past this stuff (in the sense that you know you're going to overcome these things) and see and visualize yourself in that place, and being a better man for having gone through it all in the first place. Basically, stay positive. I know that sounds cliche and easier said that done, but a complete paradigm shift is what is required right now. If you have to go to war (chemo, treatment, go NC on ex, etc.) then so be it, but go to war, face it head on, and visualize a positive outcome.
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What are the symptoms your feeling opie srs?
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I know a little about hard times and darkness.

I've shared this video before not too long ago, but don't know if you saw it.



I'm not out yet myself and I flip between feeling like I've got this and feeling totally defeated and hopeless. Some days I'm just existing, some days I'm searching for answers, and on some I make a little forward progress.

- take it one step at a time
- be kind to yourself
- control what you can control
- seek out positive/uplifting content
- when it just sucks remember this too shall pass
- try not to isolate yourself completely

I know how hard that last one is. I withdraw too. I don't get many calls or texts, but sometimes I will still dodge them.

Knowing what you should do =|= doing it.

Hang in there and try to envision a good life for yourself when you get to the other side.
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Why did you dump your ex?
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Very sorry you're in that situation op. Not sure if you're religious or not but prayers and positive vibes go out and I hope it's not as serious as you and your doctors believe it to be, but if it is I hope you make the quickest of recoveries and can get back to your normal life asap. Nothing wrong with the emotion, it is a trying time right now and I hope you don't focus on your ex too much and instead focus on those who are already there for you.
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