1) is just temporary infatuation and lust

2) is so rare I don’t think it really exists. I think it’s possible theoretically but not realistically.

Yeah I feel that is so rare. I'm curious if, in those unicorn couplings, the male watches any porn regularly.

All love is your hormones and neurotransmitters creating a chemical reaction. There's no "perfect" woman or love at first sight. It's all just chemicals in your brain. That's why if you really want to reproduce with a partner, you should do it based on their genetics and not just on "love". That way your offspring are strong, smart and have good genetics. (Ded fkn Srs)

this thread had me rolling

op is incapable of feeling love due to bitterness and resentment due to the misc......and he thanks us! hahahahaha

I don’t think so. Maybe for 10-20 years max they could keep that up. Def not 1 in 50 marriages.

Love is just a real as any other emotion. Is anger, happiness, jealousy, or excitement real?

How can mirrors be real if our eyes aren't?

Imo the concept of 'love' in western culture is very bad. I think what westerners refer to as 'love' is actually 'lust'. 'Love' is when two people grow together and develop a bond. Let's say two people meet, have marriage interviews with each other and with family, they are compatible and get married. Over the years they develop experiences and a bond between them which I think is much more accurate to describe as 'love'. However this can only occur in a society, or between two people, who do not embrace slooty behavior.

Love is something that ideally develops after marriage, not before. Before marriage you should be looking for compatibility in the most important areas of life such as religion, money, politics, lifestyle, living location, number of children, how to raise kids, importance of education, who will or will not work, allowances for non-working partner (preferably wife), etc.

The way I see it, there’s two type of “love” under the context we are discussing.

1) Burning love: when two people desire each other to the core of their beings. They claim every particle of the other persons body. It’s romance, lust, friendship, admiration, etc. As amazing as it sounds, it’s also ephemeral. As that initial burst of positive feelings start fading away, you are left with tangible reality of what the other person is. A person can’t very rarely compete with their “burning love” version of themselves, naturally. As thing go slowly downhill, other Windows open up.

You see this in young people all the time. They are deeply in love and always together 24/7. 2 years later you find out they are doing the same with a diff person, they look equally in love.


2) True love: This is reserved for a very small % of people. When two intelligent, attractive, self aware, noble, people of integrity meet each other who also have their expectations and understanding of the universe aligned.

After these two go trough the burning love phase, thing don’t go downhill, but actually uphill. Things continue to improve and evolve. Their loyalty to each other gets stronger with every day that passes and every struggle they find, contrary to what others experience.

These are the type of couples you see that they have loved each other for decades and still look like they would take a bullet for the other one. They brought kids to the world but for some reason, they still love the other person similarly or just as much as their own kids, the partner doesn’t take a second priority position. Would never even dare thinking about betraying the other persons trust because they see the other person as an extension of themselves. Meant to be together.

2 is really hard to see, let alone to get. For starters, most of us aren’t as the people described on that type of love, so achieving it becomes nearly impossible without even considering the fact that we’d still have to find another person like that.


If you felt any of the two tho, consider yourself lucky.

I don’t think so. Maybe for 10-20 years max they could keep that up. Def not 1 in 50 marriages.