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post 1657572723 03-08-2022, 02:26 PM
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Originally Posted By drvillain
Womens "discomfort" make men do stupid things. She's an adult, she needs to flat out tell him shes married and uninterested
LOL, have you met men?
post 1657572793 03-08-2022, 02:27 PM
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Originally Posted By bsmit107
Where did you get an indication that we're in distress.

and it's not 1950.....if I felt that I needed to tell my wife who she could and couldn't talk to, I wouldn't have married her.



What behavior? Being a normal human and speaking to another human when spoken to?

Chit didn't get weird until he asked for her IG yesterday.



Last pic she posted was her and her mom on her mom's bday which was 3 weeks ago. And, no......90% of the pics over that last 9 years are with me in the, 5% are of our dog and the rest are of things/places.



I've only been entertaining the idea of getting involved since last night when she told me he asked for her IG, other than that she's just said he's weirding her out, not getting it when she clearly acts like she doesn't want to talk to him and now that he's done that, she said she's uncomfortable knowing he's going to be at the gym/grocery store now.

Up until that point, it's just been innocent/annoying small talk.
-Your wife has continued to talk to him repeatedly..You are correct, it's not 1950, and the values that your wife's mother may have had clearly were not passed on.

-Giving personal information out to strange men is not "normal behavior" for a married woman....I cannot believe this has to be told to you

-Not going to comment on the Instagram, honestly can't believe your wife would have an account there unless it was for business purposes..

-As others have said, she is either chit testing you, is throwing out signs of wanting attention, not being clear on what is and is not appropriate, and for whatever reason she most likely feels you are not showing her that you are capable of being a protector/provider in which she feels safe.. what you do next will only confirm or deny those feelings.
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Did op fix this like an adult yet?
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post 1657573613 03-08-2022, 02:40 PM
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Male feminism overload itt.

Op isn't talking about a casual gf or a fling. He's talking about his wife. He made vows and they are not two individual's in a relationship. They are one for all intents and purposes.

It doesn't matter if she can or cannot handle the situation on her own. She wants her husband to handle it and she shouldn't have to ask twice.

Handle that **** like a gentleman, op.
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post 1657573723 03-08-2022, 02:41 PM
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Your wife sounds pretty socially awkward.

Brb guy keeps talking to me and making me uncomfortable but I keep feeding into it and gave him my IG. Might as well let him bang so you can get rid of her srs
post 1657573793 03-08-2022, 02:42 PM
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This is approaching Thread Backfire of the Year territory. Miscer after miscer dropping game on OP and he's just in denial about the nature of sloots.

Brah, wake the fook up. Misc is batting 1.000 on sloot tips for more than two decades running.
post 1657573853 03-08-2022, 02:43 PM
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Originally Posted By CaseinPoint
Lol NGL her giving her IG is pretty fkin stupid, she could have said anything to not give it
Think about your future kids IQ brah (if you don't have kids with her yet)

If she ain't stupid, maybe she thinks you are (to consider it a possible scenario)
lmfao fax, OP's future kids are gonna have downie IQ based on his post and how his wife handles sausage being thrown at her
post 1657573873 03-08-2022, 02:44 PM
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Originally Posted By KingRexxxy
I had a situation very similar to this about 10 years ago when my wife and I just got married, She was going back to school to upgrade some courses for career advancement. BBC in her class starts normal chat at first and then he asked if she was single etc and she told him married ,thanks but not interested. He became more aggressive after she told him not interested in the following days and started with the usually BBC stuff " that because I was white I couldn't satisfy her as much as he could " etc etc . She asked him to leave her alone and he didn't. She told me about it that night at dinner and she wasn't looking forward to going back to school the next day and dealing with him. I dropped her off at school the next day and asked her to show me what he looked like. That night I went back to school when she thought I was at the gym and waited for his class to finish and followed him from the school about a block or so . I introduced myself to him and explained what was about to happen and then starting tomorrow at school he would never talk to her or even look at her again. I beat the living **** out of him and went home that night. The following day I asked my wife how school was and if the guy bothered her again, she told me he wasn't in class so it was a peaceful day .The guy ended up dropping out of class and my wife never had to deal with him again. I never told my wife that story either , till this day she has no clue it ever happened.

Bottom line OP sometimes thats the only way to deal with a problem. The guy knows you exist and continues to disrespect you and your wife.
On a saturday i got a call from my wifes lover. he told me we had to meet him at a local mall, but didn't say why.... we drove out there and waited. he showed up and parked next to us. he got out came over to my door. I opened it and he said "climb out for a minute" i stepped out and he instantly climbed into my car and closed and locked the door. i could hear him and my wife talking and laughing...but i couldn't hear what they weere saying. suddenly my wife reacarbonsmudged over and unzipped his pants. she leaned down and started to suck his dick. i was left standing there locked out of my own car while my wife gave head to another man. i knocked on the window but she didn't stop. i looked around to see if anyone was watching and i realized there was a group of teenagers pointing and laughing at me. they had seen the whole thing and could see the top of my wife's head bobbing up and down in his lap. finally after comming, he opened up the door got out and said "thanks for the use of your wife .....you can go now"
post 1657573963 03-08-2022, 02:45 PM
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Originally Posted By EdwardTheGreat
Absolutely false...an "alpha" will direct his wife to deal with this the way she should have. Her manipulating him into cleaning up after her will make her see him as anything but "alpha". Men lead, not follow.
You're retarded. "Leading" would be taking ownership and handling it yourself.
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post 1657574103 03-08-2022, 02:48 PM
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Originally Posted By Lefticle
You're retarded. "Leading" would be taking ownership and handling it yourself.
Leading your wife wowuld assume that she is a child - she's a grown women who needs to learn to fend for her self just like a man should be able to cook his own breakfast and iron his own shirt to be ready for work.

That's alpha.

IDK about your situation though where the guy is physically dominating a weaker person, but in a situation where assertiveness and words can solve the problem, she should handle it.
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post 1657574163 03-08-2022, 02:49 PM
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Originally Posted By drvillain
I just want to say it again while I eat my pizza:

I hope OPs wife never goes drinking with friends or without him around
lmao true
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Originally Posted By Lefticle
You're retarded. "Leading" would be taking ownership and handling it yourself.
Leading would be directing the person responsible to take ownership.

LMAO

"Honey, I spilled milk in the kitchen, the floor is covered. Watch your step. I'm going out, see you later."

"No problem dearest, I'll take ownership of that and have it spotless for you for when you return m'lady."
post 1657574293 03-08-2022, 02:50 PM
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Originally Posted By Lefticle
My wife is hot so I've had to deal with this before. You have a plethora of options:

1. Go to a different gym - beta
2. Go to the same gym at a different time - beta
3. Tell him something like "Hey man - my wife told me that you're making her uncomfortable and I don't want to make this a bigger deal than it needs to be. So if you could leave her alone from here on out, that would be great" - Alpha

One thing I know for sure...if you confront him and tell him to stop, it makes you the alpha male in the situation and your wife will absolutely love it even if she pretends she doesn't. You can be nice about it, but also authoritative. Then grab her tits/ass while he's watching. Women are hard-wired to be attracted to the alpha. Just handle that **** like a man and bang her brains out that night for max gainz.

Usually asking does the trick. Occasionally it doesn't. I've had to manhandle a couple drunk dudes who touched my wife after she told them to stop. The most recent instance was last summer at Cheyanne Frontier Days. Drunk dude grabbed her, put his arm around her, and started to walk off. She told him to stop and he didn't. So I grabbed his arm, twisted it behind his back, and shoved him on the ground lol.
This.
Originally Posted By MyGhettoFantasy
Male feminism overload itt.

Op isn't talking about a casual gf or a fling. He's talking about his wife. He made vows and they are not two individual's in a relationship. They are one for all intents and purposes.

It doesn't matter if she can or cannot handle the situation on her own. She wants her husband to handle it and she shouldn't have to ask twice.

Handle that **** like a gentleman, op.
And this. Since the beginning of mankind, one of the primary uses women have had for men is protection. So protect her, just be civilized about it.
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the disrespect is real. my wife tells everyone to fk off. if yours hasnt yet, the possibility is still there. dont be naive dude, if she truly said she wasnt interested and to leave her alone he wouldn't be this persistent.

anytime some weird dude messages my wife she says back "now he has your name" and blocks them haha
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post 1657574433 03-08-2022, 02:51 PM
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5'10" is manlet status.

If he was 6'2" LMAO. It's over for you.
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post 1657574513 03-08-2022, 02:52 PM
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Originally Posted By GayCumLord
lmfao fax, OP's future kids are gonna have downie IQ based on his post and how his wife handles sausage being thrown at her
I'm less concerned about her IQ and more concerned about OP's for chomping down so hard on the most obvious bait I've heard about this month.

OMG honey bunz, some guys is flirting with me!! Can you prove how tough you are and make him stawwwwwwp?

Then she yells at OP for not doing the dishes enough.
post 1657574543 03-08-2022, 02:53 PM
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You fellas as so inconsistent

If a husband can’t step in when his wife asks him to is he even a man?

And I’m ballsy as fuk but dealing with randoms is never cut and dried and is never easy

Shut em down too hard and you end up being abused

See miscer incel threads ad nauseum
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb
You fellas as so inconsistent

If a husband can’t step in when his wife asks him to is he even a man?

And I’m ballsy as fuk but dealing with randoms is never cut and dried and is never easy

Shut em down too hard and you end up being abused

See miscer incel threads ad nauseum
That goes both ways. She could simply tell every man who approaches her she isn't interested, and not give her ig out.
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Originally Posted By Lefticle
You're retarded. "Leading" would be taking ownership and handling it yourself.
Lol no, you look like an insecure cuck unless she told the dude to fk off and he hasn't
Originally Posted By TomWanks
I'm less concerned about her IQ and more concerned about OP's for chomping down so hard on the most obvious bait I've heard about this month.

OMG honey bunz, some guys is flirting with me!! Can you prove how tough you are and make him stawwwwwwp?

Then she yells at OP for not doing the dishes enough.
lol fax. Dude's socially mogging OP.
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Originally Posted By bsmit107
I've only got 4 bud.

Let her clean up her own mess....and if she doesn't, apparently I have to divorce her.
Let her know that that’s the plan. You’re both in an awkward spot because she didn’t shut this down earlier, but She needs to be crystal clear with the guy that she doesn’t want to talk to him anymore. Let her know you support her and will rip the guys head off if need be, but you need a reason to first and she hasn’t given that yet

She should not have given out her insta to a stranger, especiallY if she already had red flags about him
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Originally Posted By Masterchieffer
Let her know that that’s the plan. You’re both in an awkward spot because she didn’t shut this down earlier, but She needs to be crystal clear with the guy that she doesn’t want to talk to him anymore. Let her know you support her and will rip the guys head off if need be, but you need a reason to first and she hasn’t given that yet

She should not have given out her insta to a stranger, especiallY if she already had red flags about him
bullseye.gif

try telling her the same thing about a girl and see what her reaction is. i bet it wont be as understanding
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb
You fellas as so inconsistent

If a husband can’t step in when his wife asks him to is he even a man?

And I’m ballsy as fuk but dealing with randoms is never cut and dried and is never easy

Shut em down too hard and you end up being abused

See miscer incel threads ad nauseum
I get your point, but the point we're making is that he shouldn't be in the position to need to step in
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Originally Posted By RagnarChadbrok
Put him in check. Walk past him with your wife and smile, nod, say "what's good bro." When he says hi ask him "Oh you're not gonna say hi to my wife? I hear you love talking to her?" Then when he responds tell him to check his chit and ask if this problem will solve itself or if you will have to deal with it

Edit: nvm, read the full thing, she gave him her IG. It's over, divorce her srs. She's confessing her subconscious feelings of guilt over the early stages of cheating on you (and maybe later stages than you realize)
This repped

When all else fails when you’re with your wife try to make direct eye contact with the guy from afar and give him a thumbs down.

Fukn lol
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb
Shut em down too hard and you end up being abused
Lolwut. Clearly she didn't shut him down hard enough if she gave out her IG.

If the roles are reversed and OP was getting approached by a woman and didn't know how to say no, should his wife have to step in?

See being an adult in a committed relationship ad nauseum
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks
This lmao

She likes the attention otherwise she wouldn’t talk to him.

She can easily say “I’m sorry but I’m married and I’d rather not talk to you.”
And there ya have it...an alleged femaloid tells it like it is.

funniest part of the thread is the "even though I'm 6'6 300lbs ...oh my heavens! what AM I gonna do???"

I am willing to bet OPs gf is like at least 160lbs and probably teasing 200lbs. just LOL.


if stats are true...one of the truisms is that these type of mentally-weak women specifically seek out XXXL men...whether it be daddy issues, social anxiety/fear, etc. it really makes you wonder how many circumstances IRL make her "uncomfortable" that are relatively harmless OR could quickly be extinguished. "uhhh I'm gonna return my socks to Kohls, better take my gigantic boyfriend along to intimidate customer-service just in case they don't accept my receipt!"

Always LULZY how guys are overprotective of their gfs whom are very likely nothing special to look at anyways..


Cliffs: Plot Twist: guy is gay and just trying to make female friends for girls' night out ordering margaritas or drinks with umbrellas or whatever in them.
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Originally Posted By drvillain
I get your point, but the point we're making is that he shouldn't be in the position to need to step in
No he shouldn’t

But random clearly knows she’s married and is targeting her when she’s alone, so he doesn’t care.

And no she shouldn’t have given out contact details

But you really don’t get how unnerving approaches can be, and how we are taught from an early fukken age not to excacerbate, antagonise or downright say no because stranger danger has a different vibe when you’re significantly weaker
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Originally Posted By Rabbitjb
No he shouldn’t

But random clearly knows she’s married and is targeting her when she’s alone, so he doesn’t care.

And no she shouldn’t have given out contact details

But you really don’t get how unnerving approaches can be, and how we are taught from an early fukken age not to excacerbate, antagonise or downright say no because stranger danger has a different vibe when you’re significantly weaker
we get it, females are low iq creatures that have hold 0 accountability,


except when you want them to kek
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Originally Posted By GayCumLord
we get it, females are low iq creatures that have hold 0 accountability,


except when you want them to kek
No you don’t get it

But that’s ok
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