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Dealing with NPD gf (now ex) nearly broke me
Never dealt with someone with true narcissism. Truly talented at her craft, a modern day mythological siren of the sea. Made me feel amazing, worthy, loved, handsome, attractive, heard, sexually pleased, and valued at first. She was perfect, and everything she offered me was perfect. Only to be gradually degraded, devalued, criticized, wrong about everything i said or did, made to apologize, wrong, wrong, wrong. After some bite and bark from me, my apology, then more bite and bark, and even more apologies from me, she discarded me. I genuinely thought it was me. I felt I had zero worth, zero things to offer to myself or to literally anyone else. So I kept searching. searching for answers because I instinctly knew something was wrong, but I still thought it was me. Even from the start of the relationship I instinctly knew something was wrong, but I was made to ignore that. It's uncanny the first time I discovered NPD, their cycles, and all the red flags. It was her. Literally, figuratively her. Everything I read on forums, reddit, the people I spoke to, even a therapist I met in publix and unloaded all my problems onto. Everything indicated this person could and is labeled under N.P.D.
I'm at the point now where I acknowledge and understand none of what went wrong was my fault. The only wrong I committed was why did I subject myself to all this? Am I a codependent? Low self esteem? Insecure? Lonely? Do I secretly hate myself?
I'm also at the anger stage. I'm looking for an avenue for her to come crawling back to me, so I can have a psychological crack and flip the tables on her. She still sees my whatsapp status, and she sees that i'm close to a couple of females (friends, but she doesnt know that). Oh I long for that text back from her, so I could systematically and deceptively get back in.
I'm at the point now where I acknowledge and understand none of what went wrong was my fault. The only wrong I committed was why did I subject myself to all this? Am I a codependent? Low self esteem? Insecure? Lonely? Do I secretly hate myself?
I'm also at the anger stage. I'm looking for an avenue for her to come crawling back to me, so I can have a psychological crack and flip the tables on her. She still sees my whatsapp status, and she sees that i'm close to a couple of females (friends, but she doesnt know that). Oh I long for that text back from her, so I could systematically and deceptively get back in.
11-29-2022, 02:48 PM
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Originally Posted By shmobin⏩
I've made 1001 threads about it to all my friends. They thought I was lovesick but they've more or less come to the conclusion that it's more than that.You should make 149 threads about it.
Nice dress though.
11-29-2022, 02:52 PM
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I know what you mean - I've handled my fair share of 'narcs' through out years - some would call me 'the narc slayer'... and that's a line I stole off of a narc.
Do you want some honest help and advice with this?
Do you want some honest help and advice with this?
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Originally Posted By Kev1972⏩
Hmm, no. I never whined.She's not NPD.
You're just a loser. She got tired of your pathetic whinging.
That's life son.
You're just a loser. She got tired of your pathetic whinging.
That's life son.
I appreciate your talentless attempt to rile me up, but I don't blame you. You're old and probably lashing out, or something.
Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
yes I do. first time going through this. love bombing, the three cycles of idealization, devaluation, and rejection, the molding of personality to be exactly what i wanted then use the same information to go against me, the amazing sex. That ****ing smirk, tilt of the head, and scrunched up face when she was gaslighting me, telling me that i shouldnt get defensive or angry or that im off the rails because she kept poking, prodding, and asking if I was mad 5 6 7 8 times a day. I didnt know any of this ****I know what you mean - I've handled my fair share of 'narcs' through out years - some would call me 'the narc slayer'... and that's a line I stole off of a narc.
Do you want some honest help and advice with this?
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11-29-2022, 02:54 PM
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narcissistic personality disorder, you are welcome.
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Sounds like you didn't stick up for yourself (weren't being a man)
You put up with her chit instead of calling her out on it.
You probably have an anxious avoidant attachment style
You put up with her chit instead of calling her out on it.
You probably have an anxious avoidant attachment style
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Originally Posted By brbgoingindry⏩
Ok so here goes, just make you that you do this properly and never let them sway you off track.Hmm, no. I never whined.
I appreciate your talentless attempt to rile me up, but I don't blame you. You're old and probably lashing out, or something.
yes I do.
I appreciate your talentless attempt to rile me up, but I don't blame you. You're old and probably lashing out, or something.
yes I do.
Move on and don't feed into it.
Seriously, it's the only way to win with a nard and I have a decade(s) of experience where i battled it out with these personality types - and I'm only 28.
If you can't let it go and move on, you're not much better.
A narc will literally see something in you and justify their behaviour as warranted, 'since you're the same', and then they'll turn it into a competition and abuse you ruthlessly.
So we can see how you have already sunken to a new low in thinking of 'making things right' to then discard her back as revenge - the thing is if you even as slightly have the intention of 'getting revenge' you're not gonna get revenge, since the narc sees this as them being in control of you, i.e., their are puppeteering you and 'get off' on it'.
That personality type is of the devil it self and you cannot win - the narc will not win, they live like vampires.
I am telling you right now., the only way to 'get revenge' is to not want it.
Like that Kev guy? He is a narc himself or there's something wrong about him so that's why he responded to you that way.
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Originally Posted By brbgoingindry⏩
No dumbass. I've just been in a lot of relationships and been on both sides of the ball multiple times.Hmm, no. I never whined.
I appreciate your talentless attempt to rile me up, but I don't blame you. You're old and probably lashing out, or something.
I appreciate your talentless attempt to rile me up, but I don't blame you. You're old and probably lashing out, or something.
What you call NPD is just a difference of perception. She's just not as into you as you are her.
When I have low attraction to a girl but enjoy fking her I'll put her into my rotation and act like she's my girlfriend while I pursue and date other women. She'll call me a narcissist for this but I really just see no future with her but she's good enough for me to bust nuts in periodically.
The opposite happens when I meet a girl who is out of my league so to say. Super hot with all her ducks in a row. But not really looking to settle down. The kind of girl that has 5 or 10 guys begging her for dates. When I get in her rotation I get butt hurt that she doesn't want to spend all her time with me and won't stop talking to other guys. Truth is she's giving me sex because I meet certain of her needs but I can't compete with the other 10 guys that are doing other things for her that I can't or wont.
I'm aware, not a dumb simp. I know when someone is playing games with me because I do it all the time to them.
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11-29-2022, 03:05 PM
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Originally Posted By Kev1972⏩
So you also suffer the same fate as her with a 'difference in perception'?No dumbass. I've just been in a lot of relationships and been on both sides of the ball multiple times.
What you call NPD is just a difference of perception. She's just not as into you as you are her.
When I have low attraction to a girl but enjoy fking her I'll put her into my rotation and act like she's my girlfriend while I pursue and date other women. She'll call me a narcissist for this but I really just see no future with her but she's good enough for me to bust nuts in periodically.
The opposite happens when I meet a girl who is out of my league so to say. Super hot with all her ducks in a row. But not really looking to settle down. The kind of girl that has 5 or 10 guys begging her for dates. When I get in her rotation I get butt hurt that she doesn't want to spend all her time with me and won't stop talking to other guys. Truth is she's giving me sex because I meet certain of her needs but I can't compete with the other 10 guys that are doing other things for her that I can't or wont.
I'm aware, not a dumb simp. I know when someone is playing games with me because I do it all the time to them.
What you call NPD is just a difference of perception. She's just not as into you as you are her.
When I have low attraction to a girl but enjoy fking her I'll put her into my rotation and act like she's my girlfriend while I pursue and date other women. She'll call me a narcissist for this but I really just see no future with her but she's good enough for me to bust nuts in periodically.
The opposite happens when I meet a girl who is out of my league so to say. Super hot with all her ducks in a row. But not really looking to settle down. The kind of girl that has 5 or 10 guys begging her for dates. When I get in her rotation I get butt hurt that she doesn't want to spend all her time with me and won't stop talking to other guys. Truth is she's giving me sex because I meet certain of her needs but I can't compete with the other 10 guys that are doing other things for her that I can't or wont.
I'm aware, not a dumb simp. I know when someone is playing games with me because I do it all the time to them.
I actually find you entertaining because you just described what NPD is and how you suffer from it every day LOL.
The problem with being like you is that you attract crazy people into your life, so they accuse you of rape, etc - but knowing you, you 'put the heavy' on women and make them 'think twice' about doing that or you 'pick your target carefully', as you describe it.
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11-29-2022, 03:15 PM
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
Lol at taking anything this mentally Ill incel says seriouslyOk so here goes, just make you that you do this properly and never let them sway you off track.
Move on and don't feed into it.
Seriously, it's the only way to win with a nard and I have a decade(s) of experience where i battled it out with these personality types - and I'm only 28.
If you can't let it go and move on, you're not much better.
A narc will literally see something in you and justify their behaviour as warranted, 'since you're the same', and then they'll turn it into a competition and abuse you ruthlessly.
So we can see how you have already sunken to a new low in thinking of 'making things right' to then discard her back as revenge - the thing is if you even as slightly have the intention of 'getting revenge' you're not gonna get revenge, since the narc sees this as them being in control of you, i.e., their are puppeteering you and 'get off' on it'.
That personality type is of the devil it self and you cannot win - the narc will not win, they live like vampires.
I am telling you right now., the only way to 'get revenge' is to not want it.
Like that Kev guy? He is a narc himself or there's something wrong about him so that's why he responded to you that way.
Move on and don't feed into it.
Seriously, it's the only way to win with a nard and I have a decade(s) of experience where i battled it out with these personality types - and I'm only 28.
If you can't let it go and move on, you're not much better.
A narc will literally see something in you and justify their behaviour as warranted, 'since you're the same', and then they'll turn it into a competition and abuse you ruthlessly.
So we can see how you have already sunken to a new low in thinking of 'making things right' to then discard her back as revenge - the thing is if you even as slightly have the intention of 'getting revenge' you're not gonna get revenge, since the narc sees this as them being in control of you, i.e., their are puppeteering you and 'get off' on it'.
That personality type is of the devil it self and you cannot win - the narc will not win, they live like vampires.
I am telling you right now., the only way to 'get revenge' is to not want it.
Like that Kev guy? He is a narc himself or there's something wrong about him so that's why he responded to you that way.
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I've never seen narcissism thrown around as much as it has been until the last few years lol.
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Originally Posted By JustiNtense⏩
probs coz you have not been on the other side that much.I've never seen narcissism thrown around as much as it has been until the last few years lol.
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
If I could go into my settings and clear cache or something on these feelings in order to move on, I would. I know I shouldn't be getting revenge, and I acknowledge she still has a hold on me. But I also feel like its either this, or feel sad and bummed out. I'd much rather be angry and looking for vengeance. I'm counting my calories and macros carefully, following my gym routine, talking to more women, and thats fine and all but i'm doing it for the wrong reason.Ok so here goes, just make you that you do this properly and never let them sway you off track.
Move on and don't feed into it.
Seriously, it's the only way to win with a nard and I have a decade(s) of experience where i battled it out with these personality types - and I'm only 28.
If you can't let it go and move on, you're not much better.
A narc will literally see something in you and justify their behaviour as warranted, 'since you're the same', and then they'll turn it into a competition and abuse you ruthlessly.
So we can see how you have already sunken to a new low in thinking of 'making things right' to then discard her back as revenge - the thing is if you even as slightly have the intention of 'getting revenge' you're not gonna get revenge, since the narc sees this as them being in control of you, i.e., their are puppeteering you and 'get off' on it'.
That personality type is of the devil it self and you cannot win - the narc will not win, they live like vampires.
I am telling you right now., the only way to 'get revenge' is to not want it.
Like that Kev guy? He is a narc himself or there's something wrong about him so that's why he responded to you that way.
Move on and don't feed into it.
Seriously, it's the only way to win with a nard and I have a decade(s) of experience where i battled it out with these personality types - and I'm only 28.
If you can't let it go and move on, you're not much better.
A narc will literally see something in you and justify their behaviour as warranted, 'since you're the same', and then they'll turn it into a competition and abuse you ruthlessly.
So we can see how you have already sunken to a new low in thinking of 'making things right' to then discard her back as revenge - the thing is if you even as slightly have the intention of 'getting revenge' you're not gonna get revenge, since the narc sees this as them being in control of you, i.e., their are puppeteering you and 'get off' on it'.
That personality type is of the devil it self and you cannot win - the narc will not win, they live like vampires.
I am telling you right now., the only way to 'get revenge' is to not want it.
Like that Kev guy? He is a narc himself or there's something wrong about him so that's why he responded to you that way.
I guess i'm not much better at least at the moment. She probably sees those posts of me with women as a way to get her attention, thus inflating her ego even more. Probably why she hasn't reached out yet. This is foreign to me, i'm 27 and i've never dated or hooked up with someone like this lol.
I'm curious about two things though why she only gave me a short period of time, when she gave her other partners 6 and 2 years respectively. And why she chose me, because she's a solid 8 and 9 and can get anyone I think.
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Cliffs,
- op met girl and at first she was really into him
- over time, they argued and made up multiple times
- girl eventually dumped him
- op can't get over it
- op now thinks he's qualified to give psychiatric evaluations, and labels girl npd
- op is desperate for girl to come back so he can start it all over again
- op met girl and at first she was really into him
- over time, they argued and made up multiple times
- girl eventually dumped him
- op can't get over it
- op now thinks he's qualified to give psychiatric evaluations, and labels girl npd
- op is desperate for girl to come back so he can start it all over again
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Originally Posted By Caldef⏩
Yep, exactly. Forgot I had you over our shoulder capturing every moment and interaction.Cliffs,
- op met girl and at first she was really into him
- over time, they argued and made up multiple times
- girl eventually dumped him
- op can't get over it
- op now thinks he's qualified to give psychiatric evaluations, and labels girl npd
- op is desperate for girl to come back so he can start it all over again
- op met girl and at first she was really into him
- over time, they argued and made up multiple times
- girl eventually dumped him
- op can't get over it
- op now thinks he's qualified to give psychiatric evaluations, and labels girl npd
- op is desperate for girl to come back so he can start it all over again
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Originally Posted By brbgoingindry⏩
At least remember what I said as you do it - a cluster B is toxic and will suck you into their delusion to drag you down and then beat you with experience.If I could go into my settings and clear cache or something on these feelings in order to move on, I would. I know I shouldn't be getting revenge, and I acknowledge she still has a hold on me. But I also feel like its either this, or feel sad and bummed out. I'd much rather be angry and looking for vengeance. I'm counting my calories and macros carefully, following my gym routine, talking to more women, and thats fine and all but i'm doing it for the wrong reason.
I guess i'm not much better at least at the moment. She probably sees those posts of me with women as a way to get her attention, thus inflating her ego even more. Probably why she hasn't reached out yet. This is foreign to me, i'm 27 and i've never dated or hooked up with someone like this lol.
I'm curious about two things though why she only gave me a short period of time, when she gave her other partners 6 and 2 years respectively. And why she chose me, because she's a solid 8 and 9 and can get anyone I think.
I guess i'm not much better at least at the moment. She probably sees those posts of me with women as a way to get her attention, thus inflating her ego even more. Probably why she hasn't reached out yet. This is foreign to me, i'm 27 and i've never dated or hooked up with someone like this lol.
I'm curious about two things though why she only gave me a short period of time, when she gave her other partners 6 and 2 years respectively. And why she chose me, because she's a solid 8 and 9 and can get anyone I think.
I'm not gonna go into why a narc does what they do and says what they say - those six and two years could have been hell.
Originally Posted By Caldef⏩
Narc spottedCliffs,
- op met girl and at first she was really into him
- over time, they argued and made up multiple times
- girl eventually dumped him
- op can't get over it
- op now thinks he's qualified to give psychiatric evaluations, and labels girl npd
- op is desperate for girl to come back so he can start it all over again
- op met girl and at first she was really into him
- over time, they argued and made up multiple times
- girl eventually dumped him
- op can't get over it
- op now thinks he's qualified to give psychiatric evaluations, and labels girl npd
- op is desperate for girl to come back so he can start it all over again
Much like a fake natty defending a fake natty, a narc will try and make themselves look good by defending other narcs to push a certain narrative or political stance - i.e., 'being a narcissist is fine if you're a girl' - Caldef bb.misc.com
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
^^^how to spot a loser with nothing to offer, everyone who disagrees with me about my NPD ex has NPD too.Narc spotted
Much like a fake natty defending a fake natty, a narc will try and make themselves look good by defending other narcs to push a certain narrative.
Much like a fake natty defending a fake natty, a narc will try and make themselves look good by defending other narcs to push a certain narrative.
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Originally Posted By Kev1972⏩
many of my friends would say that a 50 year old man whose been married 6 times is a red flag - in fact a string of failed past relationships is a MAJOR red flag for what's about to come next.^^^how to spot a loser with nothing to offer, everyone who disagrees with me about my NPD ex has NPD too.
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Originally Posted By brbgoingindry⏩
Lol. Nice neg btw,Yep, exactly. Forgot I had you over our shoulder capturing every moment and interaction.
"Thread: Dealing with NPD gf...
for attempting to devalue and dismiss my experience and feelings"
You're a bit of a fragile wee thing aren't you?
Just cos someone doesn't like you, doesn't mean they have a personality disorder. Sometimes they just don't like you .
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Originally Posted By Caldef⏩
A normal and healthy women does not enter a relationship with another person who they don't like - there must be something wrong with her.Lol. Nice neg btw,
"Thread: Dealing with NPD gf...
for attempting to devalue and dismiss my experience and feelings"
You're a bit of a fragile wee thing aren't you?
Just cos someone doesn't like you, doesn't mean they have a personality disorder. Sometimes they just don't like you .
"Thread: Dealing with NPD gf...
for attempting to devalue and dismiss my experience and feelings"
You're a bit of a fragile wee thing aren't you?
Just cos someone doesn't like you, doesn't mean they have a personality disorder. Sometimes they just don't like you .
You're probably just like her and suffer from NPD, so you don't understand how your mind works and why you 'lose feelings' all of the sudden and then go chasing 'the next thrill' leaving your partner heartbroken.
Like I said, a normal and healthy person, especially a women DOES NOT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP with somebody they do not like and then dump him a few weeks later - they simply would not entertain the idea in the first place.
That is the nuanced detail that many people miss in these relationship dynamics.
OP trust me, I am the light brah - people these days forget that you should never be with somebody who you are not in love with, that's a personality defect, and now you found out why. She either didn't;'t love you, or she got triggered by something little and thought she lost feelings - either way she's a kunt.
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Originally Posted By orangetide⏩
If i'm proud of one thing, it's that I stuck up for myself at times. I called her out on her b.s multiple times, called her snarky, accused her of gaslighting me, and told her she's irritated all the time. I should've left yes, but I didn't, and the sht would get worse every time I tried to fight it.Sounds like you didn't stick up for yourself (weren't being a man)
You put up with her chit instead of calling her out on it.
You probably have an anxious avoidant attachment style
You put up with her chit instead of calling her out on it.
You probably have an anxious avoidant attachment style
Originally Posted By MyGhettoFantasy⏩
You don't like a proper conversation and relationship with a woman?"Made me feel.....heard" said no man ever.
Da fuk?
Da fuk?
Originally Posted By mesobuild⏩
that's what I thought i found. That's what I ultimately want.detachment
jesus
find someone else who is the best, man
jesus
find someone else who is the best, man
Originally Posted By Tuga88⏩
Will doJust stfu, man up and move on with your life.
Originally Posted By JustiNtense⏩
oh well.I've never seen narcissism thrown around as much as it has been until the last few years lol.
11-29-2022, 03:36 PM
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
Going from ops original story, she did like him initially, but didn't by the end..A normal and healthy women does not enter a relationship with another person who they don't like - there must be something wrong with her.
It's op who wants to get back together with her, despite not liking her very much. Which as you say, is not something that normal or healthy people do.
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Dealt with this for 7 years. And have 3 kids with her
She was BPD and NPD
Gas lighting
Love bombing
Trying to manipulate me
Never taking blame for anything
Rampant mood swings
I was clued in to what was happening after about the first 2 years but it still fuks with you
Like others have said the best thing you can do is just cut all contact and not give a single fuk. They only have power over you if you play into their game
On the plus side I’m ultra aware of all the red flags now
The reason she dumped you is because she already broke you. Narcs feed off the challenge of breaking someone
She was BPD and NPD
Gas lighting
Love bombing
Trying to manipulate me
Never taking blame for anything
Rampant mood swings
I was clued in to what was happening after about the first 2 years but it still fuks with you
Like others have said the best thing you can do is just cut all contact and not give a single fuk. They only have power over you if you play into their game
On the plus side I’m ultra aware of all the red flags now
The reason she dumped you is because she already broke you. Narcs feed off the challenge of breaking someone
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Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
Yes women never use sex or charm to get things they want from men.A normal and healthy women does not enter a relationship with another person who they don't like - there must be something wrong with her.
You're probably just like her and suffer from NPD, so you don't understand how your mind works and why you 'lose feelings' all of the sudden and then go chasing 'the next thrill' leaving your partner heartbroken.
Like I said, a normal and healthy person, especially a women DOES NOT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP with somebody they do not like and then dump him a few weeks later - they simply would not entertain the idea in the first place.
That is the nuanced detail that many people miss in these relationship dynamics.
You're probably just like her and suffer from NPD, so you don't understand how your mind works and why you 'lose feelings' all of the sudden and then go chasing 'the next thrill' leaving your partner heartbroken.
Like I said, a normal and healthy person, especially a women DOES NOT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP with somebody they do not like and then dump him a few weeks later - they simply would not entertain the idea in the first place.
That is the nuanced detail that many people miss in these relationship dynamics.
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Originally Posted By Caldef⏩
I'm in a rut right now, but I can assure you i'm much happier than you appear to be. Good luck.Lol. Nice neg btw,
"Thread: Dealing with NPD gf...
for attempting to devalue and dismiss my experience and feelings"
You're a bit of a fragile wee thing aren't you?
Just cos someone doesn't like you, doesn't mean they have a personality disorder. Sometimes they just don't like you .
"Thread: Dealing with NPD gf...
for attempting to devalue and dismiss my experience and feelings"
You're a bit of a fragile wee thing aren't you?
Just cos someone doesn't like you, doesn't mean they have a personality disorder. Sometimes they just don't like you .
Originally Posted By WiseOldApe⏩
this. that person legitimately reminds me of my ex.A normal and healthy women does not enter a relationship with another person who they don't like - there must be something wrong with her.
You're probably just like her and suffer from NPD, so you don't understand how your mind works and why you 'lose feelings' all of the sudden and then go chasing 'the next thrill' leaving your partner heartbroken.
Like I said, a normal and healthy person, especially a women DOES NOT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP with somebody they do not like and then dump him a few weeks later - they simply would not entertain the idea in the first place.
That is the nuanced detail that many people miss in these relationship dynamics.
You're probably just like her and suffer from NPD, so you don't understand how your mind works and why you 'lose feelings' all of the sudden and then go chasing 'the next thrill' leaving your partner heartbroken.
Like I said, a normal and healthy person, especially a women DOES NOT ENTER A RELATIONSHIP with somebody they do not like and then dump him a few weeks later - they simply would not entertain the idea in the first place.
That is the nuanced detail that many people miss in these relationship dynamics.
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