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Thread: How to mentally forget and let go of past bullying (serious thread) need mental help

post 1678382683 03-05-2023, 10:01 AM
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post 1678387783 03-05-2023, 12:11 PM
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Originally Posted By chalup⏩
best bet is to find some of them on social media and right them a message saying you forgive them and hope they have a great life. srs
Lmao no shot I ever do this. They would just say "**** off" or screenshot it and send it to whatever group chats they have and mock me for it, etc.
post 1678392523 03-05-2023, 01:51 PM
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post 1678393813 03-05-2023, 02:17 PM
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I've been in a similar position OP. I was an outcast awkward introvert. I even had terribly regretful moments of balling/crying in the middle of a couple of classes in both middle school and high school. I never got invited to hang out with people or to go to parties. I found peace in band/marching band, and video games. Awkward life with an autistic older brother, self doubt, low income family, jealousy of popular rich kids, I was fat for most of middle/high too, and my mom was overprotective/helicopter-mom, didn't get a car till I graduated college, etc.

I'm lucky I wasn't the target of major pranks though, at the least. And although some popular kids clearly despised me, I never got physically bullied at least.

Point is, I've had moments of deep regret and self-cringe when reflecting, even now in my mid twenties, especially in solitude at night.

The memories the other students must now have of me are probably pity and laughter about the awkward kid. However I've become quite the social butterfly since I joined college, started lifting, and probably make more than double (or even triple) most of them now. Have had lots of sexual experiences, multiple LTRs, etc. If they could've known how I'd turn out (and what was going on in my psyche / at home), they'd probably respect the chit out of me SRS. That's the mentality to hold onto. And to look at statistics related to income in my area, and my accomplishments.

Perhaps it was necessary to feel a sense of desperation and inadequacy, to strive to reach where I've gotten to today, especially coming from my low income family.
post 1678393933 03-05-2023, 02:19 PM
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post 1678395813 03-05-2023, 02:53 PM
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Originally Posted By Jasonw1178⏩
I get it and it's what I'm working on as well sort of. I think we are both in our 40's (I'm 44) while OP is early 20's and I remember that time of my life.

I was raised by my grandparents and they were stellar people to say the least. Grandtather died when I was 9, so it was mostly my grandmother and she would tell me that when I would get mad and call names back and get into it I was letting them win because that was their intent and of course it went in one ear and out the other, but now I understand. I'll be damned if I let another man control my emotions. I'll be damned if I let my emotions control me. Calling names, how pathetic, and if I resort to hitting someone then I really showed a lack of problem solving skills. If you do it in one place, you do it in others. The Misc is full of "alpha/beta" and "mogging" which is fun to joke around about by really, IRL that's pathetic if you walk around constantly comparing yourself to others. Getting mad is losing control and only causes more issues.
Good for you man. I know this sounds weird but I am really excited about continuing to grow and be a better person.

I don’t know why but focusing on this stuff gives so much motivation for life in general.

Of course I wish I would have started earlier, but I am grateful I did already start.

Thanks for the chat man.
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post 1678397223 03-05-2023, 03:19 PM
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Originally Posted By AmericanIncel⏩
Have heard this advice before, that I should talk to a professional and chit. But I am seriously wondering what it would achieve and if it's worth the time and money

Do they give you coping strategies with your mental health and your past insecurities?

Do they prescribe you antidepressants and chit?

Do they basically tell you what to do going forward?

Have never done therapy. None of my friends or family members have done mental health therapy before. For those that have done it, did it really help? I'm not really sure am I super comfortable telling someone about my past humiliations and how much of a loser I feel, but if it truely helps me forget about the past and makes me feel better about myself and gives me some sort of closure to my HS and College days then I'd consider it.
They will determine what you need through the reception and in-processing.

your first few appointments will be going through you entire past and present getting to identify the issues.

I recommend looking into cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and Dialectic Behavioral Therapy.

Both of those offer amazing coping skills I would advocate for everyone.
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post 1678397483 03-05-2023, 03:23 PM
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Originally Posted By piramparam⏩
This so much, its amazing. It hit me a while back. Recently noticed youre kinda doing the same thing. But you seem to have a more stoic perspective about it.

People are really missing out
Stoicism saved my life.


I feel the same way about people missing out, but i try real hard not to project lol.


I think of it like a religious person saying they are sorry for your everlasting soul and crying for you.

That works for them and I am glad they have it. This really works for me. I would advocate it all day long, and if anyone ever wants to talk about it, I would love to.

But I don’t want to be pushy about it.
“The stories and information posted here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact.“

PS: Don't eat poop, just don't let the idea of it stop you from living life to its fullest.
post 1678398213 03-05-2023, 03:37 PM
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Originally Posted By Ironmanlet⏩
Stoicism saved my life.


I feel the same way about people missing out, but i try real hard not to project lol.


I think of it like a religious person saying they are sorry for your everlasting soul and crying for you.

That works for them and I am glad they have it. This really works for me. I would advocate it all day long, and if anyone ever wants to talk about it, I would love to.

But I don’t want to be pushy about it.
How do I manifest stoicism? It seems my mind just cant seem to get rid of constant negative thoughts about myself and my past.
post 1678399013 03-05-2023, 03:50 PM
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Originally Posted By AmericanIncel⏩
How do I manifest stoicism? It seems my mind just cant seem to get rid of constant negative thoughts about myself and my past.
I sent you two emails last night. Start there.

PM me back when you are done. I will be waiting for you.

This might sound weird man, you will understand one day, but thank you. Very much.
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post 1678399213 03-05-2023, 03:53 PM
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Originally Posted By piramparam⏩
Im really interested to hear what you got to say on ops question hope u reply
If you guys want I can make a teams account so we can share files and streamline communication.


I am doing chores so it will be later tonight.

If OP is willing, ask him to forward you the two pm I sent him.

That was specifically meant for him, but you should be able to benefit from it. It might stimulate some thought in you that you can share I may never have heard before.
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On the bright side of things, I noticed the Chad's and Stacy's of highschool aged extremely quickly and by 30 they were either bald, fat, burnt out, divorced or recently single and burdened with kids from multiple Fathers.

The Betas and ugly ducklings worked at becoming better, stronger, fitter, more successful, and became the Chad's and Stacy's in their 30's and 40's.

Enjoy the ride, brahs. We all develop at different rates.
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OP you keep bumping this thread and that tells me you aren’t taking one piece of excellent advice in here and just want some sort of attention.

Concerning therapy; my wife got it to learn how to deal with a particular family member. The advice she got was amazing.
Our family had discussed this family member relentlessly to no avail. The therapist wrapped it up and packaged it in a way none of us saw. The clarity was incredible.
Go to a therapist so you can move on.
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Originally Posted By Ironmanlet⏩
If you guys want I can make a teams account so we can share files and streamline communication.


I am doing chores so it will be later tonight.

If OP is willing, ask him to forward you the two pm I sent him.

That was specifically meant for him, but you should be able to benefit from it. It might stimulate some thought in you that you can share I may never have heard before.
Down for that
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it is cultie.

that word has a negative taboo assigned to it, when it shouldn't. I believe anyway. You are right, it can be. So is religion, and the American Legion lol.

I have been doing it alone and through online communities, but haven't worked with anyone in person in a while.

I am just trying to share (give and receive) ideas. I want to be exposed to every idea, so I can choose which ones to keep.

And, if anyone wants, I will share mine with them.

Nothing more, nothing less. Sharing ideas.
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PS: Don't eat poop, just don't let the idea of it stop you from living life to its fullest.
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Originally Posted By AmericanIncel⏩
Down for that
I wanna make sure you caught Piramparam's request. He is curious about some of the ideas I expressed in the PM and was wondering if you would send it to him. I wrote if for you, so it isn't mine to give away. I believe it will be beneficial or at a minimum not hurt anything. I am okay with it if you are.
“The stories and information posted here are artistic works of fiction and falsehood. Only a fool would take anything posted here as fact.“

PS: Don't eat poop, just don't let the idea of it stop you from living life to its fullest.
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OP calls himself an incel and has made close to 100 alts at this point. his first step towards healing should be to touch grass and quit assigning negative labels to himself.

and quit bumping this thread ****git!
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Originally Posted By Goodguy03⏩
OP calls himself an incel and has made close to 100 alts at this point. his first step towards healing should be to touch grass and quit assigning negative labels to himself.

and quit bumping this thread ****git!
I have a job. I workout. I spend time on Misc because I lack many friends and a social life and this is a safe space for me.
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Originally Posted By AmericanIncel⏩
I have a job. I workout. I spend time on Misc because I lack many friends and a social life and this is a safe space for me.
You need to stop responding to him.

He is nothing. They are meaningless words on a screen strategically designed to stimulate an emotional response.

Your training begins now.

In your mind, acknowledge his responses. Read it. If it stimulates a feeling, go there. Feel it for a minute. explore it. What caused it? What is physically happening to your body when it happens? (This is gonna come in handy later), and then the most important step.

Just let it go. It is over. It is in the past. It does not require a response. There is nothing there that needs to fixed. Everything is still okay.

I will constantly point out real world opportunities to practice these skills real time. You will start to realize there are a large number of people who are good people to practice on. That is, their opinion is irrelevant, they are meaningless, but you can practice certain skills with them because if you mess up, their opinion is meaningless and it doesn’t matter.

Here is a good one


That guy is no longer a troll bugging you on the internet.

He is now an opportunity to practice something. He is your tool to use to make yourself better.

You should be grateful to him.

Let’s see it.
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IronManlet is the only one providing anything of use. Disregard everyone else Opie. Most advice here is stupid as telling a fat person "it's just CICO hur due." CBT will change your processes and patterns. I've seen people come out of it changed for the better.
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