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» Should I quit my day job to hang out with my son? Poll

View Poll Results: Should I quit my day job to hang out with my son?

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Yes you will never get these years back
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No, spending time with kids is overrated and in any case he’ll be in school soon
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post 1683218883 05-22-2023, 11:23 PM
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Should I quit my day job to hang out with my son? Poll

He’s 16 months old.

Daycare 2x week
Babushka 1x week
Russian playgroup 1x week

Still leaves me 3 solid days to hang out while he grows up

Wont get these years back, and also will probably help if someone teaches him to read and write English

Should I quit my day job? Give reasons for your answer. Reps for any firsthand experience.

Edit: my wife and I have a business and each year the business distributes profits to each of us that are many multiples of our labour income. If I quit my day job I would still get income from the business, the income from labour is largely irrelevant at this point.
post 1683218933 05-22-2023, 11:24 PM
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You didn't say how much you or your husband made.

edit: I suppose you are a single father.
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If you have the money, yes. You won't get the years back. On the other hand, your son won't remember any of it, and if you need the money, you may as well focus on that to make sure your son can go to college etc.
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Originally Posted By Banderistan
If you have the money, yes. You won't get the years back. On the other hand, your son won't remember any of it, and if you need the money, you may as well focus on that tomake sure your son can go to college etc.
Location: Australia

University is essentially free if you get the required grades
post 1683219213 05-22-2023, 11:32 PM
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do your son a favor and ship him out of kangaroo land.
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My daughter is 22 months and my wife and I both rearranged our work lives for her.

We each WFH 2-3 days a week do that one of us is always there with her.

We could both retire right now, but we chose this as a middle ground. We don't have to use childcare, we both get to spend plenty of time with her and neither of us gives up our careers.

We don't get anywhere near a day's work done when we are WFH with her, but we catch up on it when the other one gets home or when the munchkin has gone to bed.

I love spending time with her, but I also love what I do, so I found a middle ground.
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post 1683219483 05-22-2023, 11:40 PM
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Love and family is everything brother, those moments are priceless and can't be relived.
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post 1683219503 05-22-2023, 11:40 PM
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Originally Posted By bicmane102
do your son a favor and ship him out of kangaroo land.
Australia is the greatest country on earth so anywhere else would be a massive downgrade
post 1683219593 05-22-2023, 11:42 PM
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Originally Posted By r32gojirra
Australia is the greatest country on earth so anywhere else would be a massive downgrade
is that a quote from an actual kanagroo?

can't picture a human saying that
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Originally Posted By bicmane102
is that a quote from an actual kanagroo?

can't picture a human saying that
Perhaps not a human, but certainly a god



General Maximus Meridius Decimus can live where he chooses and knows Australia is the land of the gods
post 1683219763 05-22-2023, 11:47 PM
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Yes
You already have your own business
Why wagecuck to enrich Mr Shekelstein?
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post 1683219843 05-22-2023, 11:50 PM
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Originally Posted By IlChosenOne
Yes
You already have your own business
Why wagecuck to enrich Mr Shekelstein?
It’s easy work (for me) and I enjoy it and I chose all the people who work for me

But fair point, at the end of the day my day job is still trading hours of my life for money

Repped
post 1683220633 05-23-2023, 12:19 AM
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Don't you earn a chitload of money tho?
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Originally Posted By infinityplus1
Don't you earn a chitload of money tho?
Dunno what qualifies as a chit load

The property development business doesn’t require much input from me anymore and generates a lot more income than my day job
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Yes definitely, have been unemployed since becoming a father in 2021 and doing small plumbing jobs on the side the keep the bills paid .

It's fun going to sing song classes and relaxing
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Originally Posted By mellowfellow01
Yes definitely, have been unemployed since becoming a father in 2021 and doing small plumbing jobs on the side the keep the bills paid .

It's fun going to sing song classes and relaxing
Imagine the amount of milfs you could clean house on as a chad single father bringing your kid to those things
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Originally Posted By IlChosenOne
Imagine the amount of milfs you could clean house on as a chad single father bringing your kid to those things
It does make you stand out , our pram is $3500aud and all the women seem to get erect over it like men and cars .

It's sometimes very tempting to tell thr skank milfs that my wife's dead for the lulz
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Originally Posted By mellowfellow01
It does make you stand out , our pram is $3500aud and all the women seem to get erect over it like men and cars .
Lol it’s the bugaboo isn’t it

I could barely fit the stupid thing in the back of a Lexus sedan
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Originally Posted By r32gojirra
Lol it’s the bugaboo isn’t it

I could barely fit the stupid thing in the back of a Lexus sedan
Yep, skanks froth over it like a single turbo rb26.

Has been used so much the tyres are going bald .
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How is this even a question? If your day job salary is irrelevant because your main income is from your businesses, then it's a no brainer.

I quit my job and started a business that allows me to work from home and bought a house in the countryside when my son was born. Best decision I ever made. There's nothing more gratifying and meaningful than hanging out with my boy all day, playing in nature and enjoying the country life, then getting my work done in the evening when my wife gets home from work.

Srsly bro, you won't regret it. For me, it's literally the meaning of life. I wouldn't have it any other way. Money can be made, time can't.
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My oldest is 7 and wrapping up first grade, my youngest will be 5 soon and starting kindergarten next fall. Last few years I've been pretty flexible with work and got to spend a lot of time with them where I normally wouldn't have gotten the chance.

I wouldn't change anything but here are some observations/points for you to consider:

-Outside of certain events or milestones, it is hard to remember them how they were when they were babies and toddlers.
-No matter how much learning you plan on doing, unless they are specially gifted, you really only have a small window during the day to teach them things while they are in the right mood for learning. The rest of the time is spent doing kid stuff, which brings me to:
-Kid stuff, especially for most men can get old pretty quick. It's not in the "hate-your-life" type annoyance like the misc suggests, but it's good to have some outlet or a way to work on other things yourself and get away from the kids to clear your head. Mine tend to get rowdy and often send them outside to blow off steam.
-For me, the most "meaningful" time is happening now, when they start learning things and are physically able to do them. When they are toddlers, you have to just keep them safe and kind of steer them in the right direction.
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Originally Posted By r32gojirra
Lol it’s the bugaboo isn’t it

I could barely fit the stupid thing in the back of a Lexus sedan
Get a minivan, it just makes your life easier.

We have a v-class and I highly recommend it.
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no brah. what would mcdonalds do without their 2nd best cashier?
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Some good advice ITT repped
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Originally Posted By r32gojirra
Location: Australia

University is essentially free if you get the required grades
Basic point stands. If you have the money to provide for him a decent life, you should prioritize family.
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Originally Posted By Banderistan
If you have the money, yes. You won't get the years back. On the other hand, your son won't remember any of it, and if you need the money, you may as well focus on that to make sure your son can go to college etc.
He absolutely will remember.

OP, if you are financially able to quit your job or work part time to spend more time with your kid(s) then you should. The years go by so fast and before you know it he'll be a grown up. I am so thankful I was able to be with my son while he was young. He's 21 now and we have a great relationship.
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Originally Posted By Legz422
He absolutely will remember.

OP, if you are financially able to quit your job or work part time to spend more time with your kid(s) then you should. The years go by so fast and before you know it he'll be a grown up. I am so thankful I was able to be with my son while he was young. He's 21 now and we have a great relationship.
His kid is 16 mo old. He won't remember shiet.
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Originally Posted By Banderistan
His kid is 16 mo old. He won't remember shiet.
He may not remember specifics at that age, but he'll remember that his dad was around and very active in his life.
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Originally Posted By Legz422
He may not remember specifics at that age, but he'll remember that his dad was around and very active in his life.
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