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post 1685741733 07-02-2023, 05:10 PM
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Woman reached out then went cold fast?

Been getting a long with a single mother (quite hot) at the gym.

She reached out to me on Instagram and would tell me all about her & would write long text, reply fast etc.

So I kinda asked her out saying "there's quite a few high end restaurants I still want to try. You can come sometime" after a few days of exchanging

She made up a big excuse she's busy. However she went cold after that. I've backed off completely, but I just don't get this Hot & cold behavior

Any suggestions here?
post 1685743463 07-02-2023, 05:43 PM
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post 1685743963 07-02-2023, 05:51 PM
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Lmao at meeting someone in person and chatting through instagram. It’s over opie.
post 1685744023 07-02-2023, 05:52 PM
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it's over
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post 1685744163 07-02-2023, 05:54 PM
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She wanted a penpal in between rawdog sessions with chad. Good on you for not entertaining that BS.
post 1685744313 07-02-2023, 05:56 PM
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Originally Posted By Xgamer791⏩
Lmao at meeting someone in person and chatting through instagram. It’s over opie.
Bruh she initiated. I was always only replying, Da phuck?
post 1685744363 07-02-2023, 05:57 PM
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Originally Posted By PotatoGuy⏩
She wanted a penpal in between rawdog sessions with chad. Good on you for not entertaining that BS.
Yea bro.... is it some sort of test?
post 1685744393 07-02-2023, 05:57 PM
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you goofed at the passive you can come sometime

you are a man

youre supposed to lead

tell her to come next time

she sniffed out your betaness and moved on
post 1685744503 07-02-2023, 05:59 PM
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I learned this the hard way but women don't go cold and chit over guys they like

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post 1685744963 07-02-2023, 06:04 PM
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Originally Posted By SteadySmokin⏩
you goofed at the passive you can come sometime

you are a man

youre supposed to lead

tell her to come next time

she sniffed out your betaness and moved on
Originally Posted By xbluexhawkx⏩
I learned this the hard way but women don't go cold and chit over guys they like

truth bomb
brutal truths.
post 1685745293 07-02-2023, 06:10 PM
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Originally Posted By BlackHeart.au⏩
Yea bro.... is it some sort of test?
Don’t think so, but she either just wants a texting buddy or your passive invite turned her off. Go NC for a bit, see if she hits you up again, if not then spark up a convo and be more direct in your invite after a few messages. If she gives you excuses or whatever and doesn’t offer an alternative, just leave her on read and forget her.
post 1685746573 07-02-2023, 06:27 PM
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she's trying other men
post 1685754823 07-02-2023, 09:12 PM
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Originally Posted By PotatoGuy⏩
Don’t think so, but she either just wants a texting buddy or your passive invite turned her off. Go NC for a bit, see if she hits you up again, if not then spark up a convo and be more direct in your invite after a few messages. If she gives you excuses or whatever and doesn’t offer an alternative, just leave her on read and forget her.
Thanks bro. Repped.

I'll follow your lead here. Kinda hard smack in the face tbh.. It's crazy to think that they "hit" you up multiple times online and we interact face to face a few times, just to make one wrong move (passive invite) & it's game over.


Will report back as NC is implemented.
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post 1685755603 07-02-2023, 09:32 PM
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Originally Posted By BlackHeart.au⏩
Thanks bro. Repped.

I'll follow your lead here. Kinda hard smack in the face tbh.. It's crazy to think that they "hit" you up multiple times online and we interact face to face a few times, just to make one wrong move (passive invite) & it's game over.


Will report back as NC is implemented.
they're damaged people. they are juggling several guys, and don't value you.




normal, healthy minded women don't do that to someone they like.



welcome to modern world. consider she did you a favor.
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post 1685755783 07-02-2023, 09:35 PM
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Originally Posted By SteadySmokin⏩
you goofed at the passive you can come sometime

you are a man

youre supposed to lead

tell her to come next time

she sniffed out your betaness and moved on
This

Cringe way to ask her out. Just say “let’s grab a drink”
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post 1685758803 07-02-2023, 11:21 PM
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Originally Posted By CalmWind⏩
they're damaged people. they are juggling several guys, and don't value you.




normal, healthy minded women don't do that to someone they like.



welcome to modern world. consider she did you a favor.
Originally Posted By RagnarChadbrok⏩
This

Cringe way to ask her out. Just say “let’s grab a drink”
I do lead her quite well in the gym by fixing her posterior chain while training etc. But then again, she probably did me a favor...

I will be NC over text. However with face to face interactions, how should I maneuver? act the same or pull right back??
post 1685818823 07-04-2023, 01:22 AM
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Originally Posted By PotatoGuy⏩
Don’t think so, but she either just wants a texting buddy or your passive invite turned her off. Go NC for a bit, see if she hits you up again, if not then spark up a convo and be more direct in your invite after a few messages. If she gives you excuses or whatever and doesn’t offer an alternative, just leave her on read and forget her.
Hey bro. So how should I handle the situation next when "face to face". Do I act like nothing happened and act the same or give nothing here?
post 1685818883 07-04-2023, 01:23 AM
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Originally Posted By BlackHeart.au⏩
Hey bro. So how should I handle the situation next when "face to face". Do I act like nothing happened and act the same or give nothing here?
just be cool jesus christ
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post 1685818963 07-04-2023, 01:27 AM
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Originally Posted By xbluexhawkx⏩
just be cool jesus christ
FFS alright.
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