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post 1444871653 05-29-2016, 09:57 PM
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Ex wife contacted me after 3 years being divorced

Back story for some context:
-Split with ex wife 3 and a bit years ago
-were together for 9 years in total dating+married
-she initiated the divorce but it wasn't nasty, my mindset was always if someone doesn't love you it's better to separate than stay in an unhappy marriage.
-didn't stay in contact but still were friends on ******** so I could see what she had been up to throughout the years

Fast forward to today I receive an email when I get to work from her. I hadn't had any direct contact for probably 3 full years as after our divorce she was in a new relationship quite quickly.

In her email she asked how I was, what was new in my life and she couldn't believe it had been so long since she had spoken to me. She said she had taken her kids away for the weekend to a place her and I used to go to and it reminded her of me which led to the email.

She finished the email saying she would love to catch up and that she would love me to meet her kids as the thinks I would find them fun?

Not quite sure how to play this one, I am unaware of her current relationship status but from what I could see on ******** the guy she was with after me seems to be out the picture.

Now I know what you will say but there is so much history between us (9 years) and maybe she is trying to relight an old candle? Should I entertain the idea or politely turn her down? To be honest part of me has wanted to catch up with her for a long time
post 1444871963 05-29-2016, 09:59 PM
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post 1444872243 05-29-2016, 10:02 PM
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She wants you to be her beta provider.

"Meet my kids"... just LOL.
post 1444872293 05-29-2016, 10:02 PM
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Man thats a tough situation, u dont wanna get fuked over again but at the same time im sure u wanna meet her badly, dunno mane. its crazy its been 3 years though.
post 1444872333 05-29-2016, 10:02 PM
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Try out some Leykis 101 on youtube. The short answer is no. Most likely she already had the past guy in mind before your relationship was even over. It sounds like her and the father are not together anymore and she is looking to introduce the kids to you so she can emotionally trap/guilt you into taking care of them for her. I would say just ignore her. She has a hidden agenda.
post 1444872403 05-29-2016, 10:03 PM
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yay mysterylifter!

edit:

this tho srry brah
Originally Posted By ThePumpmaster
She wants you to be her beta provider.

"Meet my kids"... just LOL.
post 1444872433 05-29-2016, 10:03 PM
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tbh i would turn her down, i really see no point seeing her, as in i dont see how this would benefit u in any way.
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post 1444872513 05-29-2016, 10:04 PM
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Originally Posted By YogaBurn
Try out some Leykis 101 on youtube. The short answer is no. Most likely she already had the past guy in mind before your relationship was even over. It sounds like her and the father are not together anymore and she is looking to introduce the kids to you so she can emotionally trap/guilt you into taking care of them for her. I would say just ignore her. She has a hidden agenda.
It's not a hidden agenda at all. She came right out with her true intentions in her very first email sent to the ******* OP in 3 years. That takes some big phucking balls on her part.
post 1444872523 05-29-2016, 10:04 PM
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She's had plural kid(s) in the last 3 years and isn't with the dad anymore?
post 1444872553 05-29-2016, 10:04 PM
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fuk no. she has kids now. no matter how you feel, stay away. and stay safe. she sounds like a siko bitch.
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post 1444872593 05-29-2016, 10:04 PM
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Her kids? 9 years together? Youre either 50 years old or a cuck


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post 1444872653 05-29-2016, 10:05 PM
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Meet my kids

Its over OPie
post 1444872693 05-29-2016, 10:05 PM
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Either way ******* based on just reading your post we know you're gonna be like yeah let's meet up. Oh and where are the pics. You said you have her on fb
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post 1444872763 05-29-2016, 10:06 PM
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Proceed with caution and be clear-headed srs

Do not let the past come back to haunt you

Personally, if one of my ex tried to talk to me again, I'd rather communicate through email than physically meet up in person

I don't know your whole story but separations usually happen for a good reason srs

Just say that you're too busy to meet up in person but communicate through email

Don't fall for the old "meet the kids" card
post 1444872783 05-29-2016, 10:06 PM
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took 3 years off from you to try something new(black guys) ended up with a couple kids to different baby daddies and now she wants the responsible guy(you) to take care of them. Run op
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post 1444872853 05-29-2016, 10:06 PM
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post 1444872903 05-29-2016, 10:07 PM
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email her back with a virus and tell her to go fuk a goat
post 1444872963 05-29-2016, 10:08 PM
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Originally Posted By ThePumpmaster
It's not a hidden agenda at all. She came right out with her true intentions in her very first email sent to the ******* OP in 3 years. That takes some big phucking balls on her part.
Well I'd rather call it greed and laziness instead of audacity.
post 1444872993 05-29-2016, 10:08 PM
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post 1444873013 05-29-2016, 10:08 PM
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she has successfully bred with an alpha now she needs that beta male paycheck just lmao
post 1444873073 05-29-2016, 10:09 PM
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Don't even message her back, dude.
post 1444873143 05-29-2016, 10:09 PM
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Lvl 99 cuk if you even entertain conversation with your creature of an ex wife.
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post 1444873183 05-29-2016, 10:09 PM
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Has to be a troll bread.
post 1444873283 05-29-2016, 10:10 PM
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Originally Posted By YogaBurn
Try out some Leykis 101 on youtube. The short answer is no. Most likely she already had the past guy in mind before your relationship was even over. It sounds like her and the father are not together anymore and she is looking to introduce the kids to you so she can emotionally trap/guilt you into taking care of them for her. I would say just ignore her. She has a hidden agenda.
Spot on. This fella knows his stuff.
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Not sure if srs OP
Originally Posted By KingRexxxy
took 3 years off from you to try something new(black guys) ended up with a couple kids to different baby daddies and now she wants the responsible guy(you) to take care of them. Run op
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post 1444873333 05-29-2016, 10:10 PM
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Sounds like she is trying to relight a candle. Is that a path you want to go down?
post 1444873373 05-29-2016, 10:11 PM
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Originally Posted By godownfighting
she has successfully bred with an alpha now she needs that beta male paycheck just lmao
The thing is women really don't even need that anymore because of the welfare state. Her kids won't want for anything because Big Daddy Government will provide for all of their needs.
post 1444873453 05-29-2016, 10:11 PM
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DONT EMAIL! Trust me, it'll add to the mystique of where you're at. Don't even entertain the idea by replying, if you must just turn her down brah. IMO I wouldn't respond at all.
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guys plz be srs and think it out completely before typing. this is a srs decision and me and OP will rep srs answers
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post 1444873883 05-29-2016, 10:13 PM
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Sounds she's out of options ( guy wise ) tbh.


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