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10-23-2020, 01:30 AM
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Mental health issues?

I feel like this is something that that will cause a bit of a divide between people. Been speaking to a few Girls on dating apps over the last couple of weeks and some have mentioned they have “mental health issues” at which point I’ve pretty much determined they’re not LTR material so have told them about this without being too direct about it because it may seem harsh to say this to them.

Surely with potential partners you do what’s beneficial to yourself right? So these women that have mental health issues I’ve decided to write them off. Does anybody else do something like this or have I jumped the gun with some of them? I’ve been there in the past with someone who suffer and it makes my own life harder too so I wouldn’t want to put myself in that position again. Does anybody else do this?
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10-23-2020, 01:50 AM
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How are you surprised by this? Looking for a woman that is LTR material on a dating app is asking for trouble.
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10-23-2020, 02:06 AM
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How are you surprised by this? Looking for a woman that is LTR material on a dating app is asking for trouble.
I’ve been on and off dating apps for years and I’ve met some real nice girls from there. Some things have ended due to my own fault rather than theirs. It’s just lately I’m having instances of women telling me they have mental health issues which I’ve not encountered before.
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10-23-2020, 04:40 AM
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I’ve been on and off dating apps for years and I’ve met some real nice girls from there. Some things have ended due to my own fault rather than theirs. It’s just lately I’m having instances of women telling me they have mental health issues which I’ve not encountered before.
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10-23-2020, 06:39 AM
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I was married to one with mental issues. The mental issues weren’t obvious until we were about 6 months into the marriage. Violence ensued on her part (multiple times) not only against me but against her family, which eventually lead to our separation. The only sign that I had was that she would shut down completely when we would argue—hence, it was ridiculously difficult to fix any issues with her because she would become a totally different person. Even giving her space during those times, she remained angry and shut down. Her parents took her to a mental facility after we separated…i was never told exactly her issue but i want to say it was some chemical imbalance and/or bipolar disorder. Approach women like this very carefully my man
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10-23-2020, 01:51 PM
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I was married to one with mental issues. The mental issues weren’t obvious until we were about 6 months into the marriage. Violence ensued on her part (multiple times) not only against me but against her family, which eventually lead to our separation. The only sign that I had was that she would shut down completely when we would argue—hence, it was ridiculously difficult to fix any issues with her because she would become a totally different person. Even giving her space during those times, she remained angry and shut down. Her parents took her to a mental facility after we separated…i was never told exactly her issue but i want to say it was some chemical imbalance and/or bipolar disorder. Approach women like this very carefully my man
I had a similar experience, less the violence.
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10-29-2020, 05:30 PM
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Old women > 26 or so are littered with mental health issues. Always screen them in dates. Even if they are “anecdotally” bipolar, leave.
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11-01-2020, 04:26 PM
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I was married to one with mental issues. The mental issues weren’t obvious until we were about 6 months into the marriage. Violence ensued on her part (multiple times) not only against me but against her family, which eventually lead to our separation. The only sign that I had was that she would shut down completely when we would argue—hence, it was ridiculously difficult to fix any issues with her because she would become a totally different person. Even giving her space during those times, she remained angry and shut down. Her parents took her to a mental facility after we separated…i was never told exactly her issue but i want to say it was some chemical imbalance and/or bipolar disorder. Approach women like this very carefully my man
Doesn't sound like bipolar at all. Violence and inability to deal with conflict aren't symptomatic of bipolar.

Bipolar = Manic episodes lasting for days or weeks characterised by extreme creativity, excitement and very short or absent periods of sleep plus irrationality; followed by bouts of crippling depression, meaning not "bummed out" depression but "can't summon energy to talk or eat" depression.
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11-01-2020, 04:51 PM
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Old women > 26 or so are littered with mental health issues. Always screen them in dates. Even if they are “anecdotally” bipolar, leave.
This emotional baggage, past relationships etc.

not worth it.

most have BPD or some chit.
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11-02-2020, 01:51 AM
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So what y’all saying is you get out of there as soon as a chick tells you she has mental health issues or as soon as you see a trait of a mental health issue too? I’ve been made to feel bad for my attitude of getting out of there as quick as I can as soon as I’m told they have health issues but I don’t see the point in trying anything serious with somebody like that. I don’t want to be a therapist for someone.
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11-02-2020, 02:27 AM
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So what y’all saying is you get out of there as soon as a chick tells you she has mental health issues or as soon as you see a trait of a mental health issue too? I’ve been made to feel bad for my attitude of getting out of there as quick as I can as soon as I’m told they have health issues but I don’t see the point in trying anything serious with somebody like that. I don’t want to be a therapist for someone.
I've tried to make it work longer term with damaged women. It doesn't end well ever. You'll never make them happy and they're always be somebody else in the picture. If a woman isn't stable and secure in her own life don't try to enter any kind of long-term relationship with them. Unstable unhappy unpleasable women will just take you for a ride and suck the energy out of your soul.
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11-02-2020, 03:57 AM
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I've tried to make it work longer term with damaged women. It doesn't end well ever. You'll never make them happy and they're always be somebody else in the picture. If a woman isn't stable and secure in her own life don't try to enter any kind of long-term relationship with them. Unstable unhappy unpleasable women will just take you for a ride and suck the energy out of your soul.
So many women I speak to seem to have some mental health issues. It’s hard to know which ones to take seriously. The ones that lie about it seem just as unstable as the ones who genuinely have these issues. None of this chit was a thing however many years ago. Things have changed so much. 6-7 years ago online dating and women in general were great. Now it’s a fkn minefield of chit and people being weird. If I manage to match with someone that doesn’t have far left views who shunts anyone for thinking otherwise I end up finding out they’re a preachy vegan or have depression or some chit.
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11-02-2020, 08:39 AM
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I'm surprised anyone would tell a stranger on a dating app that they have "mental health issues". You think they would at least try to keep that to themselves until the first date or two.
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11-02-2020, 10:13 AM
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I'm surprised anyone would tell a stranger on a dating app that they have "mental health issues". You think they would at least try to keep that to themselves until the first date or two.
Yeah it's wild how open people are about it and flaunt their pride in dealing with their issues accordingly.

We've come a long way lately in addressing mental health but I definitely vibe better with those who are more private with their personal matters in general.
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02-01-2024, 01:17 PM
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I feel like this is something that that will cause a bit of a divide between people. Been speaking to a few Girls on dating apps over the last couple of weeks and some have mentioned they have “mental health issues” at which point I’ve pretty much determined they’re not LTR material so have told them about this without being too direct about it because it may seem harsh to say this to them.

Surely with potential partners you do what’s beneficial to yourself right? So these women that have mental health issues I’ve decided to write them off. Does anybody else do something like this or have I jumped the gun with some of them? I’ve been there in the past with someone who suffer and it makes my own life harder too so I wouldn’t want to put myself in that position again. Does anybody else do this?
It's understandable that you've been cautious after encountering individuals who mention having mental health issues. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health in any relationship, so it's not unreasonable to consider how a potential partner's mental health might impact your own life. However, it's also worth considering whether there's room for empathy and understanding in these situations.

Personally, I've found that open communication and mutual support are key in any relationship. While it's natural to have concerns about entering into a relationship with someone who struggles with mental health issues, it's also essential to approach these situations with empathy and compassion. I've learned from my own experiences that sometimes, the most rewarding relationships are those where both partners are willing to support each other through challenges, including mental health issues. Ultimately, it's about finding the right balance between looking out for your own well-being and being open to building meaningful connections with others, regardless of their struggles.
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I was recently involved with someone who was on Anti depressants, anxiety and possibly even bipolar.

It's didn't end well.

She had anger issues, would be fines some days and weeks and then suddenly become very difficult and aggressive..

They are also likely to cheat, as these crazy girls are very insecure with daddy issues.

I would suggest you run.

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I was recently involved with someone who was on Anti depressants, anxiety and possibly even bipolar.

It's didn't end well.

She had anger issues, would be fines some days and weeks and then suddenly become very difficult and aggressive..

They are also likely to cheat, as these crazy girls are very insecure with daddy issues.

I would suggest you run.

You cannot fix people, they need to figure it out for themselves.
True. People do need to fix themselves. Assuming they have the.mental faculties and tools to do so but some people with such mental issues don't need a hand out sometimes they just need a helping hand or a hand up and then they can fix it on their own. If they are capable.

Some people are just flat out bat chit crazy and there is no holy water or ointment or special medicine that is going to.fix them. It's sad they were born that way but I guess that's life.
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02-23-2024, 09:58 PM
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I was married to one with mental issues. The mental issues weren’t obvious until we were about 6 months into the marriage. Violence ensued on her part (multiple times) not only against me but against her family, which eventually lead to our separation. The only sign that I had was that she would shut down completely when we would argue—hence, it was ridiculously difficult to fix any issues with her because she would become a totally different person. Even giving her space during those times, she remained angry and shut down. Her parents took her to a mental facility after we separated…i was never told exactly her issue but i want to say it was some chemical imbalance and/or bipolar disorder. Approach women like this very carefully my man
Tell them the bit about you taking out a domestic violence order against a woman
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Mental health problems can arise from a complex interplay of various factors, which can be broadly categorized into biological, psychological, and environmental or social factors. Understanding that mental health issues are often the result of multiple overlapping causes is crucial. Here's a breakdown of these contributing factors:

Biological Factors:

Genetics: Mental health disorders can run in families, suggesting a genetic component. However, having a family history of a mental health condition does not guarantee an individual will have the same condition; it only increases the risk.
Brain Chemistry: Imbalances in neurotransmitters, the chemicals in the brain that transmit signals between nerve cells, can contribute to mental health issues.
Physical Health and Brain Injury: Chronic physical health conditions, significant brain injuries, or developmental disorders can influence or precipitate mental health problems.
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03-14-2024, 04:00 PM
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Originally Posted By Austin317
I feel like this is something that that will cause a bit of a divide between people. Been speaking to a few Girls on dating apps over the last couple of weeks and some have mentioned they have “mental health issues” at which point I’ve pretty much determined they’re not LTR material so have told them about this without being too direct about it because it may seem harsh to say this to them.

Surely with potential partners you do what’s beneficial to yourself right? So these women that have mental health issues I’ve decided to write them off. Does anybody else do something like this or have I jumped the gun with some of them? I’ve been there in the past with someone who suffer and it makes my own life harder too so I wouldn’t want to put myself in that position again. Does anybody else do this?
"Mental health issues" is extremely broad. I guess if they phrase it that way, it may be something to be concerned about. What if they have ADHD or something common like that? I wouldn't just cast people to the side because they said that. You might be missing out on someone that is great and just needs to do a little work on themselves. My wife had some work to do early in our relationship, and now we're killing it as a couple.

That said, it's your life and nobody can tell you how to approach this.
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