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post 1687648183 08-02-2023, 12:09 PM
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Do you tell your parents your problems?

srs

If you tell your wife you basically emasculate yourself. Lol.


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post 1687648543 08-02-2023, 12:15 PM
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post 1687648663 08-02-2023, 12:17 PM
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Nah. I have a therapist on stand-by if I really need it, but I haven't been in months.

Talking about chit never really helps me anyway.
post 1687648753 08-02-2023, 12:18 PM
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post 1687648983 08-02-2023, 12:21 PM
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Originally Posted By koreannoodles77⏩
Nah. I have a therapist on stand-by if I really need it, but I haven't been in months.

Talking about chit never really helps me anyway.
Thanks for honesty. Hopefully all is good now witu
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post 1687649173 08-02-2023, 12:24 PM
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They know about my injuries ofc, but they don't know how depressed I am about them, nor do they know that I'm pretty much an incel (they know I don't date, but I doubt they think I've ever even tried a dating app).
post 1687649183 08-02-2023, 12:24 PM
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Originally Posted By dabbmw2002⏩
Honest, adult discussions are fine with family and friends. Crying like a bitch and getting emotional is a no no. Go cry in the shower if you need to shed some tears.
Agree with both.
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post 1687649353 08-02-2023, 12:26 PM
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Originally Posted By legbroke⏩
They know about my injuries ofc, but they don't know how depressed I am about them, nor do they know that I'm pretty much an incel (they know I don't date, but I doubt they think I've ever even tried a dating app).
The incel part I can't help with ofc, but damn injuries suck.
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post 1687649473 08-02-2023, 12:28 PM
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No.

I just eat it up like a man is supposed to.
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post 1687649503 08-02-2023, 12:28 PM
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Originally Posted By MarxStomper⏩
The incel part I can't help with ofc, but damn injuries suck.
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post 1687649773 08-02-2023, 12:32 PM
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No one can fix your problems but you, talking never helps.
post 1687649823 08-02-2023, 12:33 PM
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No my mom doesn’t need more to worry about
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post 1687649993 08-02-2023, 12:36 PM
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Originally Posted By Nonsense916⏩
No my mom doesn’t need more to worry about
Same. Agree
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post 1687650243 08-02-2023, 12:42 PM
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Originally Posted By Nonsense916⏩
No my mom doesn’t need more to worry about
This too. My mom is a chronic worrier so telling her anything just makes chit worse
post 1687650293 08-02-2023, 12:43 PM
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post 1687650513 08-02-2023, 12:46 PM
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My mom yeah sometimes. More so advice related issues, not like problems that can't be solved or are just complaints.

Example, I'd probably ask my mom her opinion if I were to sell my house or apply for a new job

I wouldnt talk to her about fighting with my gf or personal problems or like the finer details.


My dad was really good for financial advice and general decision making, but he's longer with us, so I turn to my sister alot for that because she's pretty rich and successful, her and her husband know a ton about finance and real estate.
post 1687650673 08-02-2023, 12:48 PM
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Nope. My problems are my problems and I deal with them alone.

If I feel like a can't, I go to a psychologist. But I never had the necessity to.

In fact, I have no emotional problems, never had. Usually the problems I have, have an obvious (but sometimes difficult) solution.
post 1687650823 08-02-2023, 12:51 PM
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No because I don't want to hear any "I told you so" arguments with them plus, there's nothing they can do but stress them out.
post 1687651673 08-02-2023, 01:01 PM
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yeah i tell them i got 99 problems but a bitch aint one
post 1687652773 08-02-2023, 01:19 PM
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What problems?
post 1687662213 08-02-2023, 04:05 PM
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No.

Thats really just complicates things. Makes it harder on you because now you have your own issues and have to make them feel better about your issues.
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post 1687662333 08-02-2023, 04:07 PM
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my mom won’t speak to me after she got attacked by voidgaze. She literally blames me (ded fkn Srs)
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post 1687662763 08-02-2023, 04:14 PM
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At one point I did, but not anymore. My folks tend to ask how I'm doing regularly but I try not to bother them with what's going on internally.
post 1687662873 08-02-2023, 04:16 PM
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Yep every Festivus at the airing of grievances
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post 1687663373 08-02-2023, 04:27 PM
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post 1687663463 08-02-2023, 04:29 PM
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Originally Posted By crupiea⏩
No.

Thats really just complicates things. Makes it harder on you because now you have your own issues and have to make them feel better about your issues.
This.

Letting family into your personal life and matters essentially gives three outcomes:

-Venting source as a relief
-Other ways to think about it or other solutions
-Regret because now they know some weaknesses about you, or are themselves concerned/worried for you

The third outcome's negativity outweighs the first and second outcome's positivity.

Cutting personal matters cold turkey is probably not the optimal solution, but not a terrible one either. Best to just be selective.
post 1687664043 08-02-2023, 04:41 PM
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No

They divorced, so it is extra toxic to get involved in their new directions of lives. Getting off with their new partners = chitting on their children / previous marriage.
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nah. dad doesnt really care much less know how respond and mom would use that as leverage to turn the conversation in to 100% about her.
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No.

Y’all seen Succession? There’s a scene in it that hit me right in the feels.

When Kendall is staying at his mother’s house and they’re both in the kitchen together one evening. Kendall starts out by saying something like “Mom, I have some things I’d like to talk about…”, and from the way he says it you can tell it’s some HEAVY chit. He continues “it’s something I’ve done… that I don’t feel great about”, and you can tell it is really eating him up inside. His Mom just replies “Oh… right” and is obviously completely uninterested. She begrudgingly agrees to listen but Kendall is like “don’t worry, it’s fine”, cos he can tell she just doesn’t really care. There’s no compassion or concern or anything coming from her at all.

It’s heartbreaking cos it’s his Mom, the one person in the world you think you could go to for solace. But that’s not what he receives.

It captures beautifully why telling your parents chit can really suck ass.

EDIT: Just realised I didn’t need to describe the whole fukin’ scene as it’s on YouTube:

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