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post 1692054713 10-21-2023, 09:04 AM
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Socializing beta to alpha

How? Books to read? When meeting a group of people how be the alpha leader saying what is necessary and what you want?

When I want to get to know someone in a group and start asking questions some say you ask too many questions and it discourages me from speaking further what do?
post 1692054923 10-21-2023, 09:08 AM
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post 1692055143 10-21-2023, 09:11 AM
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takes years of daily practice. something you should have done in school. its to late now.

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post 1692056393 10-21-2023, 09:32 AM
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post 1692056463 10-21-2023, 09:34 AM
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Trying to be the alpha leader of every group you approach socially is actually beta as fuk. SRS.

Actually a lot of that try hard Machismo is BETA. Dead fuking serious.
post 1692058373 10-21-2023, 10:16 AM
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Pro tip-

There are every few who can walk in to a room and be the alpha of that entire room or large area. Look at a guy like Trump. he can do it but not many others could.

Just try to be the leader of your small group. Maybe 3 guys or so. Once you get comfortable with this you can expand. You have to have some personality though. That is really where most people need work. be able to make some small talk to random people. If you need practice, just go to walmart and talk to some people there. Nothing in depth, just about halloween or holidays or whatever, It will get you comfortable doing it.

When you do this make eye contact with them as this is a primary driver that women are looking for. It shows you are confident. If you have trouble making eye contact just tell yourself you are looking at their eyes to see what color they are. This makes it easier to look people in the eye and not as creepy feeling.

If you still have trouble then just look them at the spot right between their yes.

All these little things will elevate your social status a little bit.
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post 1692058823 10-21-2023, 10:28 AM
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Read and study the Bible.

Don't be afraid.

Listen more, talk less, ask questions, observe, experience life to relate to others.

Pretty easy.
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post 1692059333 10-21-2023, 10:41 AM
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Stand up and take charge when a group is needing some direction and you are most the competent person for that task.

If you are actively seeking this, there's two parts to that. First, the group needs to need a leader. So you mention socially, select a group who is underachieving socially and is in particular need of what you can offer them.

Be the most competent person at the task, less confident people copy others who are better than them, that is smart and then that person is then seen as the leader. You control the situation because everyone is following you. Then leadership skills to maintain this position is mostly just making good decisions and being confident when doing so. Expect the betas too test your confidence, everything is for the good of the group

You mention socially, so be good socially; Smile and enjoy yourself so people want to be like you, make other people feel good and enjoy being around you. Try and understand what people are seeking from their interactions and help them achieve it. Also be trustworthy and authentic with who you are because people sense that and they get anxious around people who are incongruent.
post 1692059923 10-21-2023, 10:59 AM
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Step 1: Ask a bunch of betas on the misc how to be alpha
post 1692060023 10-21-2023, 11:02 AM
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Originally Posted By Voidgaze
Trying to be the alpha leader of every group you approach socially is actually beta as fuk. SRS.

Actually a lot of that try hard Machismo is BETA. Dead fuking serious.
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post 1692060163 10-21-2023, 11:06 AM
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It’s funny how this whole idea of “Alpha” changes as you get older.

In high school it was the all-star football player.

In college it’s the guy who can hold a keg stand the longest, or even break the rules/law and get away with it.


Immediately after college it’s the guy who gets the most pussy.


Around 30 it’s the guy who is the most competent at the job.


Eventually it’s being the boss of all the people in their 30’s and 40’s.



Finally, it’s the old geezer sitting on his accumulated pile of gold and having his money create it’s own money.



As you can see, this has run through feats of physical strength, taking drugs/getting wasted, socializing, looksmaxxing, being smart/hardworking, and then being a horder of wealth.


So when you ask, how to be alpha i have no idea what you’re talking about. Go throw a football, or practice your keg stands?

Alpha is an overused label almost as cringe as “High Value Male”


But for all the BBMG incels, just because you’re an ugly manlet doesn’t mean you can’t be alpha later in life. The part about being smart and hard working leads to hording a pile of gold. Will you ever be 16 again lying in the grass with your teenage girlfriend? No, but a lot of those guys end up homeless with only a sock to cum in, so quit your whining and look at the bright side.
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Originally Posted By GatorBoy92
It’s funny how this whole idea of “Alpha” changes as you get older.

In high school it was the all-star football player.

In college it’s the guy who can hold a keg stand the longest, or even break the rules/law and get away with it.


Immediately after college it’s the guy who gets the most pussy.


Around 30 it’s the guy who is the most competent at the job.


Eventually it’s being the boss of all the people in their 30’s and 40’s.



Finally, it’s the old geezer sitting on his accumulated pile of gold and having his money create it’s own money.



As you can see, this has run through feats of physical strength, taking drugs/getting wasted, socializing, looksmaxxing, being smart/hardworking, and then being a horder of wealth.


So when you ask, how to be alpha i have no idea what you’re talking about. Go throw a football, or practice your keg stands?

Alpha is an overused label almost as cringe as “High Value Male”


But for all the BBMG incels, just because you’re an ugly manlet doesn’t mean you can’t be alpha later in life. The part about being smart and hard working leads to hording a pile of gold. Will you ever be 16 again lying in the grass with your teenage girlfriend? No, but a lot of those guys end up homeless with only a sock to cum in, so quit your whining and look at the bright side.
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post 1692078823 10-21-2023, 06:48 PM
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Originally Posted By Tuksonrider
Read and study the Bible.

Don't be afraid.

Listen more, talk less, ask questions, observe, experience life to relate to others.

Pretty easy.
Good post
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Originally Posted By GatorBoy92
It’s funny how this whole idea of “Alpha” changes as you get older.

In high school it was the all-star football player.

In college it’s the guy who can hold a keg stand the longest, or even break the rules/law and get away with it.


Immediately after college it’s the guy who gets the most pussy.


Around 30 it’s the guy who is the most competent at the job.


Eventually it’s being the boss of all the people in their 30’s and 40’s.



Finally, it’s the old geezer sitting on his accumulated pile of gold and having his money create it’s own money.



As you can see, this has run through feats of physical strength, taking drugs/getting wasted, socializing, looksmaxxing, being smart/hardworking, and then being a horder of wealth.


So when you ask, how to be alpha i have no idea what you’re talking about. Go throw a football, or practice your keg stands?

Alpha is an overused label almost as cringe as “High Value Male”



But for all the BBMG incels, just because you’re an ugly manlet doesn’t mean you can’t be alpha later in life. The part about being smart and hard working leads to hording a pile of gold. Will you ever be 16 again lying in the grass with your teenage girlfriend? No, but a lot of those guys end up homeless with only a sock to cum in, so quit your whining and look at the bright side.
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