1. Do you cuck to your co-workers and participate in in-group gay "jokes," and such, hoping to eventually be considered a people person leading to possible advancement?
Or do you
2. Continue to be your own person, and remain an independent thinker and hard worker who lets their actions speak for them, but be dismissed for advance because your workplace rewards gossipy types/feminine behaviour?

Damned if you do, damned if you dont.
After 30 years in the workforce I can still see no other option but 2. Even though now, the effects of this work philosophy are beginning to be felt very seriously.

Really, getting along/going along with your work colleagues is just 100% an invitation to get insulted, without end, in a very deliberate attempt to put you at the bottom of their invented workplace hierarchy.