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Originally Posted By Frank
Yeah my ex was mostly a stay at home mom. She did have an Ebay business and was actually make a lot of money at one point with it. By a lot I mean she was a powerseller and making $5k / month at some times. However, she knew what she was doing pre-divorce and was able to manipulate things to make it look like she was only making a few hundred a month at it. So basically looked like I had all the money.Stay at home wives are not entitled to continue to stay at home after a divorce. If you are drawing child support, and are able to work, you must work.
In the end she got alimony for a year.
I have no idea if she even still does Ebay but she did it for several years when we were married and it was a pretty big business when she was really trying at it. But I think she may have a regular job now by some of the things she mentioned when I made plans on picking up the kids for the summer.
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Originally Posted By MirinGrains⏩
LMFAO, soon...Idk how women do this stuff, my fianc has too much pride to take anything. If we were to divorce she would cut all ties and go her own way, and I would give her whatever I think she deserves. Unless shes angry at you for cheating and wants to ruin your life, a quality woman will take nothing from you.
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Originally Posted By scullin⏩
Yeah you could make it look favourable for a year if you knew the divorce was coming, but every year the incomes are looked at and everything is recalculated.Yeah my ex was mostly a stay at home mom. She did have an Ebay business and was actually make a lot of money at one point with it. By a lot I mean she was a powerseller and making $5k / month at some times. However, she knew what she was doing pre-divorce and was able to manipulate things to make it look like she was only making a few hundred a month at it. So basically looked like I had all the money.
In the end she got alimony for a year.
I have no idea if she even still does Ebay but she did it for several years when we were married and it was a pretty big business when she was really trying at it. But I think she may have a regular job now by some of the things she mentioned when I made plans on picking up the kids for the summer.
In the end she got alimony for a year.
I have no idea if she even still does Ebay but she did it for several years when we were married and it was a pretty big business when she was really trying at it. But I think she may have a regular job now by some of the things she mentioned when I made plans on picking up the kids for the summer.
I have heard of people paying out 80% of alimony entitlements as lump sums just to be done with it (as money today > money tomorrow)
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
Paying the woman you used to have sex with for 5 years after you break up lmaoHow did you get away with only having to pay alimony for a year?
Normally is it 1/2 the length of the marriage, right? I'm looking at 5 years.
Normally is it 1/2 the length of the marriage, right? I'm looking at 5 years.
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
Depends on the state and depends on the judge. I was married for 10 years she got 1 year plus up to 5 years if unable to work but tried to work. My lawyer said he expected it to only be about a year or 2 max and he was right.How did you get away with only having to pay alimony for a year?
Normally is it 1/2 the length of the marriage, right? I'm looking at 5 years.
Normally is it 1/2 the length of the marriage, right? I'm looking at 5 years.
It's also based on her ability to get a job and earn on her own. If after the year was up and she wasn't able to find a job (and had sufficient proof that she tried) she could have requested an extension. But since she didn't do that, I'm pretty sure she has a job now plus some things she mentioned about work this summer.
Originally Posted By Frank
I had to pay a lot of money between the alimony, child support, and buyout last year it was and is still rough on the bank account. I'm going to put my house on the market next month and hopefully recoup at least what I paid in the settlement though. Based on the supposed market value of my house that should work out pretty well.Yeah you could make it look favourable for a year if you knew the divorce was coming, but every year the incomes are looked at and everything is recalculated.
I have heard of people paying out 80% of alimony entitlements as lump sums just to be done with it (as money today > money tomorrow)
I have heard of people paying out 80% of alimony entitlements as lump sums just to be done with it (as money today > money tomorrow)
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Originally Posted By scullin⏩
Depends on the state and depends on the judge. I was married for 10 years she got 1 year plus up to 5 years if unable to work but tried to work. My lawyer said he expected it to only be about a year or 2 max and he was right.
Originally Posted By TooAnabolic⏩
I ask her to agree to 3 years because I have already been supporting her for 10, but she wants the "standard". We are not going to court or using lawyers, just a mediator, the money I am saving there, is well worth just agreeing to the 5 years.Paying the woman you used to have sex with for 5 years after you break up lmao
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I would rather put my cock in a meat grinder than get married.
It's not a lot of money and it's only because I make so much more than her. Find someone with the same earning capacity as you have nothing to worry about. I wanted her to stay home to raise our kids because I could afford it, so it was kind of my own doing.
I may circle back to see if she will agree to 3 with the possibility of up to 5 if she can prove she needs it.
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
From what I've seen, this is good for kids but hard on marriages. Women need something to do. Its ok when the kids are little/at home but once they get into school she needs to work, at least part time.It's not a lot of money and it's only because I make so much more than her. Find someone with the same earning capacity and you have nothing to worry about. I wanted her to stay home to raise our kids, so it was kind of my own doing.
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Been there done that, twice.
he will get all of the bills and have to pay child support until the kids are 18. no way around it unless he wants to fight to get the kids which is very expensive.
His main problem will be with confidence. he can always get a place to live and buy new stuff. the blow to his confidence is tough to get over for any guy.
beer will become his friend.
Its just going to take some time. its like when brooks got parole in shawshank. he was someone inside but back to square one on the outside. your pal will go through the same thing. he is now older, broker, fatter and less disireable then he was when he first got married. hasnt dating in 15 years either so its a whole new thing to get adjusted to.
his best bet is to just step back, not rush into anything, get a lwayer and take care of himself before anyone else.
he needs to realize that he now has freedom. sometimes its a difficult thing to adjust to but he will be happier in the end.
he will get all of the bills and have to pay child support until the kids are 18. no way around it unless he wants to fight to get the kids which is very expensive.
His main problem will be with confidence. he can always get a place to live and buy new stuff. the blow to his confidence is tough to get over for any guy.
beer will become his friend.
Its just going to take some time. its like when brooks got parole in shawshank. he was someone inside but back to square one on the outside. your pal will go through the same thing. he is now older, broker, fatter and less disireable then he was when he first got married. hasnt dating in 15 years either so its a whole new thing to get adjusted to.
his best bet is to just step back, not rush into anything, get a lwayer and take care of himself before anyone else.
he needs to realize that he now has freedom. sometimes its a difficult thing to adjust to but he will be happier in the end.
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Originally Posted By m1n2v5⏩
Nope, implying that I have control over choosing what woman I'm going to get married to.Implying you have control over a person if they decide to leave? Lmao
To live life you have to take some risks man, just try and limit those risks by thinking with your brain instead of your bollocks.
Enjoy your safe existence all alone, spending all your money on scratchcards lmao.
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For all we know, he's better off. We don't know who was the cause of this, but if the relationship was great then there wouldn't be a divorce.
A house and car? Merely shiny baubles we preoccupy ourselves with. He is about to experience freedom he hasn't had for 15 years. It's just a new beginning is all.
A house and car? Merely shiny baubles we preoccupy ourselves with. He is about to experience freedom he hasn't had for 15 years. It's just a new beginning is all.
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Originally Posted By thigoonar⏩
Thanks for proving my point that divorce rates are not even 50% brah.Percentage of marriages ending in divorce
http://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulati...ing-in-divorce(number 10 in contents).
"In 2011, it was estimated that 42% of all marriages end in divorce (assuming 2010 divorce and mortality rates throughout the duration of marriage)....
Compared with figures from 2005 (244.2 Kb Pdf), the percentage of marriages which end in divorce decreased from 45% in 2005 to 42% in 2010."
LOL @ coping. Divorce rates are usually42-45%.]
http://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulati...ing-in-divorce(number 10 in contents).
"In 2011, it was estimated that 42% of all marriages end in divorce (assuming 2010 divorce and mortality rates throughout the duration of marriage)....
Compared with figures from 2005 (244.2 Kb Pdf), the percentage of marriages which end in divorce decreased from 45% in 2005 to 42% in 2010."
LOL @ coping. Divorce rates are usually42-45%.]
LMFAO!
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Originally Posted By pondus_levo⏩
I went through a mediator. But ultimately a judge signs off on it. Honestly I don't know how much yours is or what else you have to pay. But with mine it was quite a lot on top of everything else I had to pay.I ask her to agree to 3 years because I have already been supporting her for 10, but she wants the "standard". We are not going to court or using lawyers, just a mediator, the money I am saving there, is well worth just agreeing to the 5 years.
It's not a lot of money and it's only because I make so much more than her. Find someone with the same earning capacity as you have nothing to worry about. I wanted her to stay home to raise our kids because I could afford it, so it was kind of my own doing.
I may circle back to see if she will agree to 3 with the possibility of up to 5 if she can prove she needs it.
It's not a lot of money and it's only because I make so much more than her. Find someone with the same earning capacity as you have nothing to worry about. I wanted her to stay home to raise our kids because I could afford it, so it was kind of my own doing.
I may circle back to see if she will agree to 3 with the possibility of up to 5 if she can prove she needs it.
I paid $45k to her last year. She still had the nerve to ask if I wanted to split the cost on some Christmas presents and other things for the kids. My answer was always the same. I laugh and say that's what child support is for plus I'm giving them stuff FROM ME so they know it's FROM ME.
Don't ever pay her a dime more than what the court requires you too. I don't care how good you get along through or after the divorce process either. Trust me.
I get along pretty good with her now but she'd not hesitate to take more $ if she could. And she was never even materialistic or about money before the divorce. Don't feel bad, don't give in, don't throw her a bone. She'll find a way to get even more $ from you before you realize it.
example: Happened to me right before divorce was final in fact. At the last hearing, we agreed (because I insisted) that we each get to claim one kid for tax purposes. I was adamant about that. I didn't ask for much or really anything through the whole process except for that.
So anyway, it's agreed upon and gets put in the draft decree in December 2014. Finalizing this stuff takes a while and it wasn't until March that it was finalized. Anyway, it's March 2015 and I got to file my taxes and claim my oldest son which is what the decree said. I'm supposed to get X amount of dollars back and I'm pretty happy with the amount. Couple of days later I get a call that says it's been rejected because she already claimed him BEFORE the decree was finalized. So I got screwed out of almost $2k in tax return last year. I called her up and went off on her but since it was before final decree she wasn't legally wrong to do that. But morally she was since she agreed prior.
Well that's just an example, you get the point. Doesn't happen anymore though since it's been finalized over a year ago.
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Fukkkkk
Imagine what chit will be like in 30 years when all the kids raised by single moms are in power...
Brb ex gfs can now demand alimony and child support even if the child isn't yours and was born years later
Brb ex gfs now receive 100% earnings + residence + vehicles + your human rights
Brb all guys that are straight pay a 100% tax on earnings
Brb white males pay a 200% tax on earnings and can't work in any company beyond entry level positions
Brb white males must look at the ground and apologize for breathing (aka stealing the less privileged humans air)
Imagine what chit will be like in 30 years when all the kids raised by single moms are in power...
Brb ex gfs can now demand alimony and child support even if the child isn't yours and was born years later
Brb ex gfs now receive 100% earnings + residence + vehicles + your human rights
Brb all guys that are straight pay a 100% tax on earnings
Brb white males pay a 200% tax on earnings and can't work in any company beyond entry level positions
Brb white males must look at the ground and apologize for breathing (aka stealing the less privileged humans air)
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Originally Posted By scullin⏩
explain??? what i'm getting from that is you still got ****ed anyways because you gave her money in exchange for keeping your own houses. lol am i reading that wrong?Usually that's what happens but not always. I got to keep my 2 houses and 1 of the cars. She didn't get to keep that chit althoughI did have to buy her out which is normal.
My GF is divorced too. She did not get chit from her divorce and in fact pays her ex child support.
My GF is divorced too. She did not get chit from her divorce and in fact pays her ex child support.
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Originally Posted By Chelbull⏩
No you're not getting it wrong. Not sure what your LOL'ing about though. When you get divorced you split assets 50/50. So basically because of the equity in the houses and other assets, I paid her $20k which is half of the assets. So I kept my houses, timeshare, car, bank accounts, retirement savings etc. So I am the only one who can claim those things. Depending on market, this could end up netting me more $.explain??? what i'm getting from that is you still got ****ed anyways because you gave her money in exchange for keeping your own houses. lol am i reading that wrong?
My house that I live in I'm about to sell. I owe about $300K but market value is $340K. So I could make more or less than that on it when I sell. My other house is a rental and I plan to keep a while. I make a little money each month on it but mainly waiting for it to become profitable to sell as well. I could end up making far more on selling the houses than what I paid her. So in the short term, yes i got fukked. But in the long term, not really (as far as assets go at least).
Now the alimony stuff is BS but that's another issue, at least it's over with though. Child support is pretty standard based on gross income in the state I divorced in so can't really do much with that one.
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Originally Posted By Muzzlrpress⏩
freedom he could've always had plus still kept all of his money if he never got married.... lmaoFor all we know, he's better off. We don't know who was the cause of this, but if the relationship was great then there wouldn't be a divorce.
A house and car? Merely shiny baubles we preoccupy ourselves with. He is about to experience freedom he hasn't had for 15 years. It's just a new beginning is all.
A house and car? Merely shiny baubles we preoccupy ourselves with. He is about to experience freedom he hasn't had for 15 years. It's just a new beginning is all.
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Originally Posted By scullin⏩
k got it bro, you got fukked over 20k.... not bad all things considered but still a loss. rest of your post is just strong coping. your assets would've still went up in value if you weren't married and you wouldn't be short 20k plus you had to pay money to get rid of a strong independent vagina that don't need no man that you used to ****.No you're not getting it wrong. Not sure what your LOL'ing about though. When you get divorced you split assets 50/50. So basically because of the equity in the houses and other assets, I paid her $20k which is half of the assets. So I kept my houses, timeshare, car, bank accounts, retirement savings etc. So I am the only one who can claim those things. Depending on market, this could end up netting me more $.
My house that I live in I'm about to sell. I owe about $300K but market value is $340K. So I could make more or less than that on it when I sell. My other house is a rental and I plan to keep a while. I make a little money each month on it but mainly waiting for it to become profitable to sell as well. I could end up making far more on selling the houses than what I paid her. So in the short term, yes i got fukked. But in the long term, not really (as far as assets go at least).
Now the alimony stuff is BS but that's another issue, at least it's over with though. Child support is pretty standard based on gross income in the state I divorced in so can't really do much with that one.
My house that I live in I'm about to sell. I owe about $300K but market value is $340K. So I could make more or less than that on it when I sell. My other house is a rental and I plan to keep a while. I make a little money each month on it but mainly waiting for it to become profitable to sell as well. I could end up making far more on selling the houses than what I paid her. So in the short term, yes i got fukked. But in the long term, not really (as far as assets go at least).
Now the alimony stuff is BS but that's another issue, at least it's over with though. Child support is pretty standard based on gross income in the state I divorced in so can't really do much with that one.
those are the facts, how much you paying her bro?
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GL to all the divorced bruhs in this thread. Must be rough. Know a buddy who is going through it right now and more than the financial aspect of it all he looks emotionally drained. Like his life force has been sucked out of him. Hard to describe but it looks painful. Sucks because he is one of the nicest people I've met and it appears that she is taking him to the cleaners. He has his own dental practice too so I wonder if she is going to get a piece of that pie.
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Originally Posted By Chelbull⏩
On the other hand he might have had some great years with her, in addition to kids he hopefully love. That, and it's a life experience. Call it coping, but thats kinda just a way to move forward and be positive about life. I.e not to be afraid of living like your average miscer.k got it bro, you got fukked over 20k.... not bad all things considered but still a loss. rest of your post is just strong coping. your assets would've still went up in value if you weren't married and you wouldn't be short 20k plus you had to pay money to get rid of a strong independent vagina that don't need no man that you used to ****.
those are the facts, how much you paying her bro?
those are the facts, how much you paying her bro?
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Originally Posted By scullin⏩
god damn son.I went through a mediator. But ultimately a judge signs off on it. Honestly I don't know how much yours is or what else you have to pay. But with mine it was quite a lot on top of everything else I had to pay.
I paid $45k to her last year. She still had the nerve to ask if I wanted to split the cost on some Christmas presents and other things for the kids. My answer was always the same. I laugh and say that's what child support is for plus I'm giving them stuff FROM ME so they know it's FROM ME.
Don't ever pay her a dime more than what the court requires you too. I don't care how good you get along through or after the divorce process either. Trust me.
I get along pretty good with her now but she'd not hesitate to take more $ if she could. And she was never even materialistic or about money before the divorce. Don't feel bad, don't give in, don't throw her a bone. She'll find a way to get even more $ from you before you realize it.
example: Happened to me right before divorce was final in fact. At the last hearing, we agreed (because I insisted) that we each get to claim one kid for tax purposes. I was adamant about that. I didn't ask for much or really anything through the whole process except for that.
So anyway, it's agreed upon and gets put in the draft decree in December 2014. Finalizing this stuff takes a while and it wasn't until March that it was finalized. Anyway, it's March 2015 and I got to file my taxes and claim my oldest son which is what the decree said. I'm supposed to get X amount of dollars back and I'm pretty happy with the amount. Couple of days later I get a call that says it's been rejected because she already claimed him BEFORE the decree was finalized. So I got screwed out of almost $2k in tax return last year. I called her up and went off on her but since it was before final decree she wasn't legally wrong to do that. But morally she was since she agreed prior.
Well that's just an example, you get the point. Doesn't happen anymore though since it's been finalized over a year ago.
I paid $45k to her last year. She still had the nerve to ask if I wanted to split the cost on some Christmas presents and other things for the kids. My answer was always the same. I laugh and say that's what child support is for plus I'm giving them stuff FROM ME so they know it's FROM ME.
Don't ever pay her a dime more than what the court requires you too. I don't care how good you get along through or after the divorce process either. Trust me.
I get along pretty good with her now but she'd not hesitate to take more $ if she could. And she was never even materialistic or about money before the divorce. Don't feel bad, don't give in, don't throw her a bone. She'll find a way to get even more $ from you before you realize it.
example: Happened to me right before divorce was final in fact. At the last hearing, we agreed (because I insisted) that we each get to claim one kid for tax purposes. I was adamant about that. I didn't ask for much or really anything through the whole process except for that.
So anyway, it's agreed upon and gets put in the draft decree in December 2014. Finalizing this stuff takes a while and it wasn't until March that it was finalized. Anyway, it's March 2015 and I got to file my taxes and claim my oldest son which is what the decree said. I'm supposed to get X amount of dollars back and I'm pretty happy with the amount. Couple of days later I get a call that says it's been rejected because she already claimed him BEFORE the decree was finalized. So I got screwed out of almost $2k in tax return last year. I called her up and went off on her but since it was before final decree she wasn't legally wrong to do that. But morally she was since she agreed prior.
Well that's just an example, you get the point. Doesn't happen anymore though since it's been finalized over a year ago.
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Originally Posted By zonee2k⏩
yeah difference is she also could've had some great years with him, in addition to kids she hopefully loves. annnnnnd she still got paid while the guy got ****ed... i mean this is a very bad deal and you guys keep falling for it time after time, its hilarious.On the other hand he might have had some great years with her, in addition to kids he hopefully love. That, and it's a life experience. Call it coping, but thats kinda just a way to move forward and be positive about life. I.e not to be afraid of living like your average miscer.
don't get married and maybe the clueless politicians will wake up and make the process fairer for guys. doing what you fools are doing is what is keeping the system in place. jesus you can't see that?
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Originally Posted By Chelbull⏩
And you think he would have been happier single? Do you claim to know how anyone other than yourself thinks or feels?freedom he could've always had plus still kept all of his money if he never got married.... lmao
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Originally Posted By Rayaarito⏩
Common law varies by state, in that there are only a handful that recognize it.He would be just as ****ed. When you're living together with somebody in a relationship for some time, you are considered 'married' Common Law Marriage
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Originally Posted By zonee2k⏩
No one ever considers that maybe he have had 15 great years of marriage? Or maybe he was the one whom decided that it was time to split up? I agree that its fked that they dont split and sell the house, but with kids involved its tricky. Who gives if he got divorced if he actually enjoyed the times they had? Just move on. Cant be resentful for changes in life, and certainly you cant be afraid to live.Only fked thing is the how the court handle these casesin the US. Unlike what most miscers believe European countries have 100x more fair and reasonable policys concerning these matters.
Originally Posted By Nelly87⏩
It depends - each divorce is different. Breadwinners, either it be the man or woman, has to pay alimony, support, etc. Look at the female celebrities who got divorced and now have to pay their husbands.
It is just that normally the dude is the breadwinner and has to pay up. Also, itdepends how spiteful and hateful the divorce was. I work with a dude who when they split, they just went their own ways. Each filed taxes as individuals and each were responsible for their own outcome. They didn't have kids, but also didn't have to pay any alimony, even though the judge pushed for his ex to accept it. She said she didn't want him in her life anymore and that she could do it on her own.
That dude lucked out and I asked him why they split. I guess they just wanted different things and changed over time. Luckily it was early enough that they didn't have any kids or anything else cause that could have gotten messy.
It is just that normally the dude is the breadwinner and has to pay up. Also, itdepends how spiteful and hateful the divorce was. I work with a dude who when they split, they just went their own ways. Each filed taxes as individuals and each were responsible for their own outcome. They didn't have kids, but also didn't have to pay any alimony, even though the judge pushed for his ex to accept it. She said she didn't want him in her life anymore and that she could do it on her own.
That dude lucked out and I asked him why they split. I guess they just wanted different things and changed over time. Luckily it was early enough that they didn't have any kids or anything else cause that could have gotten messy.
Originally Posted By lowkey122⏩
This. Largely depends on the individual parties and their respective attorneys (if they go that route). Ex- and I did everything ourselves and used a paralegal to draw up the paperwork and file with the courts. Despite already agreeing to terms, the paralegal would come back and argue that we should include or change x, y, or z, because "the judge won't allow that" -- The judge allowed just that without question/concern or requiring any modifications to our agreement.I think in a lot of divorces that's how it starts out,until the divorce lawyers and her bitter friends sink their teeth in her and convince the woman that she "deserves" this or is "entitled" to that. Next thing you know she's eating it up and going after finances and assets that she never would've thought about otherwise.
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Originally Posted By Chelbull⏩
That is an idiotic statement, seriously.don't get married and maybe the clueless politicians will wake up and make the process fairer for guys. doing what you fools are doing is what is keeping the system in place. jesus you can't see that?
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Originally Posted By crupiea⏩
Jesus....marriage sounds more and more like a prison sentence these days (srs)Been there done that, twice.
he will get all of the bills and have to pay child support until the kids are 18. no way around it unless he wants to fight to get the kids which is very expensive.
His main problem will be with confidence. he can always get a place to live and buy new stuff. the blow to his confidence is tough to get over for any guy.
beer will become his friend.
Its just going to take some time. its like when brooks got parole in shawshank. he was someone inside but back to square one on the outside. your pal will go through the same thing. he is now older, broker, fatter and less disireable then he was when he first got married. hasnt dating in 15 years either so its a whole new thing to get adjusted to.
his best bet is to just step back, not rush into anything, get a lwayer and take care of himself before anyone else.
he needs to realize that he now has freedom. sometimes its a difficult thing to adjust to but he will be happier in the end.
he will get all of the bills and have to pay child support until the kids are 18. no way around it unless he wants to fight to get the kids which is very expensive.
His main problem will be with confidence. he can always get a place to live and buy new stuff. the blow to his confidence is tough to get over for any guy.
beer will become his friend.
Its just going to take some time. its like when brooks got parole in shawshank. he was someone inside but back to square one on the outside. your pal will go through the same thing. he is now older, broker, fatter and less disireable then he was when he first got married. hasnt dating in 15 years either so its a whole new thing to get adjusted to.
his best bet is to just step back, not rush into anything, get a lwayer and take care of himself before anyone else.
he needs to realize that he now has freedom. sometimes its a difficult thing to adjust to but he will be happier in the end.
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Originally Posted By MiscDaddy⏩
lol a woman will never marry someone that makes less than her.You can avoid being fukked over by marrying a women with equal or greater earning power than you have.
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Time to marry up boyos. Marry women who have chit to lose. And if she decides to stay at home and get fat and pregnant, cut her loose. If she wants to stay home then she better work from home.
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