Usually guys who are bachelors/players/bad boys/Pookie and Ray Ray's/studs/etc are not marriage material. Alot of women have this fantasy of marrying Prince Charming who has characteristics of an alpha and a beta male but the reality is most women can't find a guy like that and if they do, they don't really want to stick to one woman.

Yeah talking about sex at work is bad and you could technically report his ass for sexual harassment but you ain't gonna do it because you're in love

Lol actions speak louder than words...

100%

Well I wasn't offended and we already have enough drama with "harassment" chit. I've heard wayyy worse than some old geezer talking about 2 girls at one time.

Makes sense to me. Talking about your sex life in a work environment seems pretty sleazy and unprofessional. Even not accounting for the environment, if she is attracted to him, why would she want to hear about him banging other chicks?

What's considered attractive has varied across cultures and time-periods however, and within the animal kingdom, and even in the early periods of human history, attraction is/was tied to mainly health markers and overall strength.

That said, I understand that you want someone you're attracted to, but your problem seems to be that you don't want to make any room for compromise, which is bizarre considering your situation. You have a physical type and age range, and you don't want to deviate from it at all. It's the equivalent of a man in his forties refusing to budge from his standard physical preference for twenty-something petite blondes, no matter how unrealistic. Have you thought about trying for men in their late thirties early forties? I seriously doubt they're all out of shape or unattractive.

these are mature women in their 40's.
They are sex ninja's.
orgasm's in the night and the neighbors don't even see them leave in the shadows of dawn.

I mean yeah in terms of work, it is unprofessional but anywhere else? It's fair game.

Like at Hooter's, I made a "That's what she said" joke to one of the waitresses after she said "It's pretty big" and she just laughed.

And bragging about your sex life to everyone in general is dumb.

I guess I dont know the guys I see in public age. The guys I do get to know tend to be active, as that's how I end up getting to know them. So I have a distorted sense of it maybe.

I dont think 40 yr old men are comparable to 25 yr olds obviously.

Lol, did you tip her?

That's a completely different thing though. Thought this guy was talking about the threesomes he had?

Talking **** to a hooters girl is pretty standard behavior though.

I've literally threatened to rape and murder them and they will laugh it off.

Let's be real here. You're attracted to extremely youthful looks and somewhat boyish appearances and attitudes. Outside of a couple exceptions, practically every guy you post who you're into has been 18-22. You're basically a female Pwally. Not saying that there's anything wrong with that, but it is what it is. You're into young Justin Bieber for fuk's sake, who looked very young even for his age. It doesn't mean that you can't be attracted to an older good looking guy, but it's definitely not your preference.

Only a 20% tip, nothing more than that.Yeah he was.

Yeah but not a lot of guys have the balls to say sexual chit to a waitress or any woman.

Have you at least tried going after an older, fit guy?

silencespeaks, the media has warped your mind to a point i have never seen before in my life. you will never get an nfl offensive lineman boyfriend. you need to come back down to earth. you are the female version of an incel. these nfl offensive linemen are like porn for you. also i saw in this thread earlier that you allow good looking men to treat you like utter **** just because they are good looking? is that srs? bruh. come on now. have some goddamn self respect. i don't care how good looking of a woman you are, you ain't treating me like ****.

There is a big difference between someone like myself objectively identifying a 23 year old woman as attractive, versus only finding them attractive and setting my dating standards to that type of look. I agree with Lucifer's comment. To me, it would not speak well of a man's maturity if, in his mid forties, he could only find himself attracted to twenty somethings. I don't think I could date anyone under 35, and even that's pushing it.

Man this thread is sometimes amusing but yikes. I'm pretty sure DanielleGreen lives in my city, and if she can't find a fit 40-something guy here that is 100% her fault. We're one of the healthiest states and the least obese in the entire country. It's the default expectation here that people here are active and fit. SilenceSpeaks is also very clearly insane, the entire time I've seen her on the misc she seems to post the same exact same scenarios and never learns from them once.

Women talking about how they are all nice and do small little things like Lucifer mentions are also delusional. I don't know why anyone here would listen to anything the women say, they function on such a fundamentally different wavelength than us. They'll never listen to our advice and their advice to us is useless, because they lack the introspection to realize what they actually like. Modern American women do not do cute little things for their boyfriends nowadays. Or the older married dudes who say their wives do it, congrats, but this isn't 2008. I've been on dates with at least a hundred women in the past 5 years and it is only when I backpacked in Asia that I noticed women actually do these nice, caring things for guys. I was in bed with a hangover and this random girl cooked me soup---I think the last thing a Western girl cooked for me was a freezerburnt grocery store pizza for both of us. Women here see dudes talking about these nice things and delude themselves by going "I do that too!' You don't. Lucifer isn't talking about doing the dishes after yourself, but the concept of doing these little shows of caring is such a foreign concept to you you can't even comprehend it. I've done simple chit with women I date like cook for them, give them scalp massages while laying on the couch together, etc. and they do nothing back. They're passive recipients of affection, and I eventually learned how useless it was to offer them things like that.

Stop making up qualities about the type of person you are and try to objectively analyze yourself for once. If you were the type of women you pretend to be you would not be single, that simple. But like I said earlier, this is useless advice to give and they won't listen. SilenceSpeaks is gonna keep it up well into her 60s I imagine. I don't believe for a second the way most women in this thread portray themselves---not because normal, caring women exist, it just seems very obvious they aren't them.

Have you not seen my post history?

Also being from the south, most girls are pretty "wifey" towards their SO's. Out in other places it's kinda hard to find that, so I see why Lucy is a bit taken back at it.

You more or less can find this exact post on here 10 years ago. The "westernized women" boogeyman has been a long time favorite of those that wish to externalize their shortcomings and place blame on others to make themselves feel better. Or, you are just into crazy and disregard the normal/nice ones before they even get a chance.

Nice people do nice things for people they care about, I am even more baffled than before that this is a foreign concept to many.

Go to any town in the south or the mid west and you'll find nice people doing nice things to people.

I am born and raised in the Midwest and yeah, we are good people here.

With that said I have friends and family on the West Coast and they are fine people as well. Maybe it is just our family values at work on that one and we churn out good people. I would have been super skeptical of dating a girl who didn't have a quality family that she'd was close with.

As a dude who lives in the Midwest, this is not completely true. I live in the Chicago suburbs and not everyone is friendly, at least not ones who are church going. I've met a lot of friendly people but also met alot of people who were *******s and bitches.

Side note, there's also not alot of hot women in Illinois compared to warmer areas.

Wait, what? Women are constantly doing more for me than I do for them and are affectionate towards me. Sure, there are women out there like you describe. I filter those kind of women our real quick, usually before the first date. It's pretty obvious if you are having to do all the work. Her just showing up is not good enough.

I date purely on a reward system. If she makes an effort, then I will make an effort. If she doesn't, then next. Obviously as the man, you have to get the ball rolling, but she should be the one keeping it rolling.

Or maybe you should stop filtering out everyone else’s opinion because you married a long time ago? I’m not sure why you think your opinion is more valid than everyone else here who is actually single and dating in modern times. Don’t even understand your participation in this thread except to bring up your marriage as often as possible. It’s also cute you talk about all those high quality single women you know, since you can so obviously determine their dateability based off their professional facade.

You people talking about the South—-I lived in South Carolina for ten years, the niceness down there is not the same as being affectionate or “subservient”, and those nice people are often hell behind closed doors. Honestly can barely think of any relationships of anyone I knew down there that weren’t toxic beneath the surface. Almost all of us were educated, attractive, relatively sane, and with reasonable standards. You guys again think affection/romance is the same as acting nice or cleaning your own dishes. I’m also a nurse and the majority of my past relationships are nurses or the like—-supposedly the most compassionate and trusted types of people, as well as being considered pretty high quality.
Yet you are still here desperately trying to date after countless years of talking about it. The superficial affection you’re receiving in the honeymoon phase clearly hasn’t ever ended up being what you want it to be. No offense but I get the feeling a lot of these women see you as a lost puppy and try to give you what you want, but in the end they can’t keep it up

Yeah Chi-town is on another level. The people I ran into here from Chicago are usually pretty rude.