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post 1636255993 04-15-2021, 06:33 AM
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I get this too

So fukin annoying because I literally don't talk about gym or lifting. I don't even like talking about it in public and I go gym like 3 days a week smh
post 1636256113 04-15-2021, 06:36 AM
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Originally Posted By Brosnbroccoli⏩
This.

Just say something funny back or laugh it off. It’s not that serious imo.
you dont get it. You can tell who the people that don't lift ITT are
post 1636256193 04-15-2021, 06:38 AM
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Originally Posted By JoeDelts⏩
The Tupperware incident is going to take some time to live down bro.
i had a friend that as drinking raw eggs out of a glass once at a house gathering, that was cringey. And yeah Tupperware is cringey
post 1636256483 04-15-2021, 06:43 AM
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Im actually triggered that people say that chit

Its like somebody telling a fat bitch...”dont worry i’ll bring some whoppers”
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Happens to me pretty often and I don't even prep and go to the gym maximum 4 hrs a week. I always get comments about being a gym rat or living at the gym. It's pretty annoying.
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post 1636256603 04-15-2021, 06:47 AM
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Originally Posted By Shysty021⏩
Im actually triggered that people say that chit

Its like somebody telling a fat bitch...”dont worry i’ll bring some whoppers”
its just a way to feel better about themselves for looking like chit. It's so pathetic. I get it all the time. Its passive aggressive asf

I hate talking about the gym, I avoid getting involved in the topic when people bring it up so I know it's not me. And I only go to the gym 3 days a week so I know I'm not some gymhead. But people make these comments just because I have a respectable physique
post 1636257183 04-15-2021, 07:00 AM
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Just hit them with the classic "DYEL brahs?" and then don't even respond to their wtf messages afterwards.
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post 1636258543 04-15-2021, 07:24 AM
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Originally Posted By Loochi⏩
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Originally Posted By Loochi⏩
How do I break away from the "lifter" identity ?
clearly you dont lol

could probably play it off with something like "nah todays a cheat day" or "wdym i dont even lift" and maintain that you dont lift for the whole evening for ****s and giggles

sadly seems its either go and hear more of those jokes or dont go and appear butthurt
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post 1636258893 04-15-2021, 07:29 AM
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start bloatmaxxing and u wont have this problem
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post 1636258993 04-15-2021, 07:30 AM
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Originally Posted By Sergis⏩
clearly you dont lol

could probably play it off with something like "nah todays a cheat day" or "wdym i dont even lift" and maintain that you dont lift for the whole evening for ****s and giggles

sadly seems its either go and hear more of those jokes or dont go and appear butthurt
I knew a guy that did this lol. Girls would mirre his physique and ask him how many times he trained a week etc and he'd be like I don't even lift, I just eat my greens and do some yoga and zumba, dude obviously wasn't natty btw
post 1636259143 04-15-2021, 07:32 AM
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Originally Posted By SashaGab⏩
So what is it... Stay home, or stop giving a fuk? If you stop giving a fuk you can just go ahead and have your tupperware meals at your friends' place
There are several ways to handle this besides stay home or dont give a fack.....
either eat before you go, or if you MUST eat at a very specific time, then maybe take the food in your car, and in the middle of dinner bounce out for like 10 minutes and scarf it down.

I remember some dude brought a tupperware full of chicken to memorial day party on the lake. He was on the boat tied up next to us. He was sitting on the bow eating his chicken while everyone else was partying. It reminded me up that misc picture of the dude standing in the corner thinking "my feet hurt"

Now if you look like Phil Heath or at a minimum in the IFBB, then go for it as thats your livelihood. If you are not, then im sure people will make fun of you as they are basically saying "loosen up a little bro". Funny thing about that guy in the boat is that he was smaller than most of us on my boat. And we were shot gunning bears and drinking whiskey like it was water LOL.
post 1636260163 04-15-2021, 07:49 AM
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Originally Posted By donblaximus⏩
There are several ways to handle this besides stay home or dont give a fack.....
either eat before you go, or if you MUST eat at a very specific time, then maybe take the food in your car, and in the middle of dinner bounce out for like 10 minutes and scarf it down.

I remember some dude brought a tupperware full of chicken to memorial day party on the lake. He was on the boat tied up next to us. He was sitting on the bow eating his chicken while everyone else was partying. It reminded me up that misc picture of the dude standing in the corner thinking "my feet hurt"

Now if you look like Phil Heath or at a minimum in the IFBB, then go for it as thats your livelihood. If you are not, then im sure people will make fun of you as they are basically saying "loosen up a little bro". Funny thing about that guy in the boat is that he was smaller than most of us on my boat. And we were shot gunning bears and drinking whiskey like it was water LOL.
The thing about this kind of stuff is it reeks of a lack of social awareness. Surely there was an element of insecurity projection but a lot of the ribbing has to do with coming off as an autistic weirdo in social gatherings.
post 1636260333 04-15-2021, 07:54 AM
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Originally Posted By JoeDelts⏩
The thing about this kind of stuff is it reeks of a lack of social awareness. Surely there was an element of insecurity projection but a lot of the ribbing has to do with coming off as an autistic weirdo in social gatherings.
I agree. It can be looked at from many different angles. As example, I have a business in tech. If I was at a party, say sitting at a dinner table and I had to take a call from a client, I wouldnt take my laptop out right there and just get on my call. I would discretely leave the table, take the call then come back and join the conversation when Im done.
post 1636261513 04-15-2021, 08:13 AM
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I can’t imagine taking food out with me, so damn cringe. Missing or cheating on a meal is not going to make or break you unless you are days out from a comp, all you gain is looking like an autistic weirdo.
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post 1636264313 04-15-2021, 08:56 AM
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Originally Posted By 63ngkr⏩
I knew a guy that did this lol. Girls would mirre his physique and ask him how many times he trained a week etc and he'd be like I don't even lift, I just eat my greens and do some yoga and zumba, dude obviously wasn't natty btw
This is no less socially awkward and autistic than the Tupperware thing btw.
post 1636266033 04-15-2021, 09:16 AM
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Originally Posted By Unstumpable⏩
Meh. I’d have probably just said “don’t worry I’ll have my protein shake already mixed up.” Or “i’ll drink my protein shake prior to arriving”

Just make a joke of it and move on. Nothing would be worse than getting defensive or insulting their religion lmao
This tbh. Let it slide mane they were just having a laugh. Non lifters will never understand
post 1636279283 04-15-2021, 12:00 PM
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Originally Posted By Loochi⏩
I replied "I'll pass. We're not fan of Indian food but you enjoy. Thanks for the invite."

One of them replies : "Loochi just come man. Bring your own food it's ok"

LOL !

I jus feel like replying "she was the best man" and confuse everyone
Cringe. Your reply came off so salty lol.

Whats wrong with going out and having some Indian food? Even if you don't like Indian food there must be something on the menu you can munch on and have a good time with your mates. I feel like in your head you think you don't come across as a weirdo because you don't talk about bodybuilding but maybe it's your vibe and autistic energy that your friends are aware of.

You got so offended by their initial joke which I don't see as a big deal at all. My friends say far worse to me and it's all good, I just hit them back with another joke and we laugh about it. Instead of playing it off you got mad and started to be stand offish.
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post 1636280083 04-15-2021, 12:09 PM
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Originally Posted By Coal
Cringe. Your reply came off so salty lol.

Whats wrong with going out and having some Indian food? Even if you don't like Indian food there must be something on the menu you can munch on and have a good time with your mates. I feel like in your head you think you don't come across as a weirdo because you don't talk about bodybuilding but maybe it's your vibe and autistic energy that your friends are aware of.

You got so offended by their initial joke which I don't see as a big deal at all. My friends say far worse to me and it's all good, I just hit them back with another joke and we laugh about it. Instead of playing it off you got mad and started to be stand offish.
I didn't want to say but I read that and thought exactly the same thing. They were trying to just bury the hatchet since they probably feel a little bit bad about breaking his balls and instead he just doubles down which just further cements their opinion that he's pretty clueless about social interactions.

Edit: Also OP wants to know what to do so that people won't think lifting's the center of his identity but it's stuff like this that causes that in the first place because the reality is lifting has become his whole identity.
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Originally Posted By 63ngkr⏩
its just a way to feel better about themselves for looking like chit. It's so pathetic. I get it all the time. Its passive aggressive asf

I hate talking about the gym, I avoid getting involved in the topic when people bring it up so I know it's not me. And I only go to the gym 3 days a week so I know I'm not some gymhead. But people make these comments just because I have a respectable physique
That's literally everybody, about everything.
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Good morning misc.

Coal man and Joe delts, chill lol.

What was so cringy about the reply ?? Did you want me to put exclamation marmks and emoji's ?

Lol these people aren't buddies from way back. If it was uni or high school friends sure, but dude come on now.

I literally don't like Indian food and neither does my wife. "Pick something else from the menu"

I bet if I said: "Went to a party but I don't like drinking alcohol so opted for soda instead" you'd cringe. Can't win with some of you guys xD
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Tell ‘em you’re a miscer


Get a lawyer
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I've known these guys for about a year now. They are Iraqi (so am I)

We met at a mutual friends party and decided to get to know each other since we lived in close proximity (no homo)
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Originally Posted By Loochi⏩
So me and my wife (no pics) are in a group chat with buncha Muslim Arabs
F. B 👁 just joined the chat
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and then you woke up
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next time you see them, tell them that the jerk store called. if that doesnt work tell him you slept with his wife
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Originally Posted By Loochi⏩
Good morning misc.

Coal man and Joe delts, chill lol.

What was so cringy about the reply ?? Did you want me to put exclamation marmks and emoji's ?

Lol these people aren't buddies from way back. If it was uni or high school friends sure, but dude come on now.

I literally don't like Indian food and neither does my wife. "Pick something else from the menu"

I bet if I said: "Went to a party but I don't like drinking alcohol so opted for soda instead" you'd cringe. Can't win with some of you guys xD
I mean, you made a thread asking for opinions and everyone is saying you're uptight but you clap back because you don't want to hear it. If that's the case and you don't care to listen then just delete the thread.

The advice is solid. They made a joke about your eating because of a silly thing you did and you got so mad you wanted to bring religion into it. There's a million ways you could have played it off and gotten their respect.

And then they still ask you to go and as the above miscer said, you doubled down on your passive aggressiveness instead of receiving their olive branch.

Finally, absolutely nothing is wrong with people not liking alcohol and drinking something soft at a party. Much like I'm 100% certain there would be more westernized items in the restaurant that you could order and be content with.

Strong lacking in social awareness brah.
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The real question is why are you eating raisins? They have a chit ton of calories and they're pretty much just sugar
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Originally Posted By Coal
I mean, you made a thread asking for opinions and everyone is saying you're uptight but you clap back because you don't want to hear it. If that's the case and you don't care to listen then just delete the thread.

The advice is solid. They made a joke about your eating because of a silly thing you did and you got so mad you wanted to bring religion into it. There's a million ways you could have played it off and gotten their respect.

And then they still ask you to go and as the above miscer said, you doubled down on your passive aggressiveness instead of receiving their olive branch.

Finally, absolutely nothing is wrong with people not liking alcohol and drinking something soft at a party. Much like I'm 100% certain there would be more westernized items in the restaurant that you could order and be content with.

Strong lacking in social awareness brah.
Coal Man, I apologize.

I know you mean well so I'm sorry if I came across as a dbag. I strongly disagree about being "Socially unaware" - I have plenty of friends. None of them do this, just this group. What's wrong with bringing religion into it as a light hearted joke ? IIRC you are Muslim right ?

Imagine I invite one of those guys to another group of friends of mine and then say something like "Come over but _ _ _ _ don't you bring that Quran with you xD" - how would that be received ? Especially when it is said often ?

BTW I appreciate you putting in your 2 cents. I CAN see what you are saying in some ways so cheers.
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isn't ramadan right now?


u aint gonnna break the fast with them?


seems kinda rude breh the whole thing is about community or something right




invite them to a resturant that you and your wife wanna go to




or









tell em fuk off and leave the group chat and never talk to them again
Yeah I think we will invite them to another place another time. They mean well, no need to tellem to f off lol.
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The real question is why are you eating raisins? They have a chit ton of calories and they're pretty much just sugar
Bro I hate raisins. I am a berry fan
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"bruh, don't get to look like a machine eating indian food".


If you seriously want to break away from the lifter tag you need to tone down how to serious you take it. If you're not at IFBB level or monetising somehow then being the tupperware guy is literally cringemaxxing.
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