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post 1642816353 07-14-2021, 07:45 AM
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Originally Posted By WoofieNugget⏩
This is what I always tell guys. Looks will be what gets you the match to a girl of a similar look level. Personality and game get you the date. Confidence and attitude gets you laid.

Lots of guys have none of these qualities.
nah it's all looks. I have gotten laid and I'm pretty autistic and barely talk. I'm not good looking either but you really just have to be average + a girl's type and then you just show up. Not rocket science. Just a numbers game. But in OP's defense, being 5'4 and ethnic makes him no girl's type. :/


But OP why are you only using Bumble? It's by far the worst app for getting dates. At least from my experience. Tinder and Hinge you can pay to win. Bumble boost doesn't work and I barely get matches after the first week. You should just download all the apps and pick one to pay for (Either Tinder Platinum or Hinge IMO).


Also get on Nardil. You wouldn't be posting this depressing **** if your brain was flooded by dopamine/serotonin/norepinephrine 24/7. It's legit af.
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Originally Posted By BLOATMOGGER⏩
Ernie got doxxed, I'm not him

I miss him though
What's with all of the liberal posters on the misc getting doxxed all of a sudden?
These guys play an important part of our ecosystem - They act as a lesson to young impressionable miscers on how not to act, not to think, etc. That their way only leads to misery and a wretched life.


The wincels & ernie's of the world are our version of the cautionary tale - like "If you don't adopt right-wing or right-of-center views, you'll end up being the type of guy who is too fearful to have an avi, or an avi not of their body/face".
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Originally Posted By imbored21⏩
nah it's all looks. I have gotten laid and I'm pretty autistic and barely talk. I'm not good looking either but you really just have to be average + a girl's type and then you just show up. Not rocket science. Just a numbers game. But in OP's defense, being 5'4 and ethnic makes him no girl's type. :/


But OP why are you only using Bumble? It's by far the worst app for getting dates. At least from my experience. Tinder and Hinge you can pay to win. Bumble boost doesn't work and I barely get matches after the first week. You should just download all the apps and pick one to pay for (Either Tinder Platinum or Hinge IMO).


Also get on Nardil.
I only ever got results on bumble so I stopped the others.

Tinders also more trashy in general
post 1642816673 07-14-2021, 07:51 AM
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Originally Posted By WoofieNugget⏩
This is what I always tell guys. Looks will be what gets you the match to a girl of a similar look level. Personality and game get you the date. Confidence and attitude gets you laid.

Lots of guys have none of these qualities.
This isn't what's happening anymore. There is an imbalance. 80% of women are chasing 20% of the men. They are not settling for their level anymore
post 1642816973 07-14-2021, 07:56 AM
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
This isn't what's happening anymore. There is an imbalance. 80% of women are chasing 20% of the men. They are not settling for their level anymore
when did this rule kick in?
post 1642817253 07-14-2021, 07:59 AM
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Originally Posted By miscbro333⏩
when did this rule kick in?
2012 like eod always says. That's basically when the data starts going this way
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women never settle down... they settle up. RARELY will you see a 5 with a 4 dude... so on and so forth. And this law has just gotten worse and worse to the point where a 4 thinks she's entitled to an 8.

Most modern day women will spend their prime years getting stretched out by Chad, then when she comes to the realization that she's depreciated and aged like milk... her survival psychological instincts will kick in and she'll find a beta to marinate her walls and put a ring on it. Then she will leave and chop him in half... and he will pay her for the next couple decades.
post 1642817493 07-14-2021, 08:02 AM
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
This is a huge myth. You need to meet a minimum standard in each area. For an extreme example just to make the point, you could have all the money in the world and everything else but if you're a legit midget most women will not care

The minimum standard in each of these areas is going up.
it's not a myth, it's a fact of life.

you can larp and complain about hypergamy and how it's not your fault and that you were dealt a bad hand in life and it's out of your control

but the fact of the matter is youcancompensate in other areas and it's your choice whether you do so or not.
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Originally Posted By imbored21⏩
nah it's all looks. I have gotten laid and I'm pretty autistic and barely talk. I'm not good looking either but you really just have to be average + a girl's type and then you just show up. Not rocket science. Just a numbers game. But in OP's defense, being 5'4 and ethnic makes him no girl's type. :/


But OP why are you only using Bumble? It's by far the worst app for getting dates. At least from my experience. Tinder and Hinge you can pay to win. Bumble boost doesn't work and I barely get matches after the first week. You should just download all the apps and pick one to pay for (Either Tinder Platinum or Hinge IMO).


Also get on Nardil. You wouldn't be posting this depressing **** if your brain was flooded by dopamine/serotonin/norepinephrine 24/7. It's legit af.
I was gonna say I think at this point a lot of ops problem is being depressed about his dating situation and he probably doesn't have the confidence/swag to meet women irl. Or he has some kind of chemical imbalance. I havent been laid in years and this is what happened to me. When I was confident and happy all the time I got girls. You gotta have swag and that comes from positive experiences and positive reinforcement throughout life.

That being said I still don't know how men below the top 20% date now days. Op is 30 years old so he's not forced into interaction and dating anymore because he's older so like how does he approach girls?
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post 1642817793 07-14-2021, 08:05 AM
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Originally Posted By Anachron⏩
Neither are you.
Well to be honest yes. I'd rather be single. But a lot of men would happily settle but can't find anyone
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
2012 like eod always says. That's basically when the data starts going this way
The madman was fukin right.

Imagine 10 years from now.

Misc has grown up and every week there is a thread on marriage/dating and how shetty it is nowadays
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Originally Posted By Jimmehhh⏩
women take aholisticapprove to male attractiveness, in that they consider a whole bunch of chit like looks, social/ dominance status, wealth, intelligence, humor etc

meaning if you're lacking in one (looks for example) you can compensate in others (social/dominance status and humor for instance) and be perfectly adept and banging hot sloots.
Yea this is true. But it’s better to be good at everything than be great at just one thing and abysmal at others


If Bill Gates was even just a 5.5/10 in looks he probably could have gotten all the Microsoft puss he wanted. But still scared women off, despite all the power money and status
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
I was gonna say I think at this point a lot of ops problem is being depressed about his dating situation and he probably doesn't have the confidence/swag to meet women irl. Or he has some kind of chemical imbalance. I havent been laid in years and this is what happened to me. When I was confident and happy all the time I got girls. You gotta have swag and that comes from positive experiences and positive reinforcement throughout life.

That being said I still don't know how men below the top 20% date now days. Op is 30 years old so he's not forced into interaction and dating anymore because he's older so like how does he approach girls?
I do just fine socially. Women are never physically attracted to me and so they don't want to date me but they'll be friends
post 1642819023 07-14-2021, 08:26 AM
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“When paired with the ground truth of hypergamy, the growth of female attainment (and comparative stagnation of male attainment) amounts to a law of diminishing returns. The more a woman achieves, the less suitable mates she has to choose from. It is, indeed, difficult to marry above and across dominance hierarchies if you sit atop your own. This difficulty is further compounded by the fact that older high-powered women must compete not only among themselves but with younger women for a fleeting number of high-value men.”

Congrats, you played yourself.

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Sounds to me like guys actually have to work on themselves/a relationship in order to keep a woman. Since it requires actual work, they don't want to do it. Sounds just like the millennial/gen z generation who always complain how hard things are, but when you ask them to "work harder" they say they work hard enough, and that's not the underlying issue (just LOL).

Men are lazy these days, and then complain when things don't go there way. Learn to adapt and you won't have issues.
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Originally Posted By Wyzz⏩
Lol who gives a fuk about the greater society.

If you can find a decent women and build a family then do it. Otherwise as men start preparing to live single life till death.

Find new ways to be happy and to keep yourself healthy so that you don’t have to be dependent on care workers in your later years.
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Originally Posted By BigBallsMcgee⏩
2012 like eod always says. That's basically when the data starts going this way
lol he was right all along.

It's like the matrix. There is no spoon
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Originally Posted By HayZues
So forced sexual socialism is the answer?
This chit has A Brave New World written all over it.
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Originally Posted By Bracket199⏩
Sounds to me like guys actually have to work on themselves/a relationship in order to keep a woman. Since it requires actual work, they don't want to do it. Sounds just like the millennial/gen z generation who always complain how hard things are, but when you ask them to "work harder" they say they work hard enough, and that's not the underlying issue (just LOL).

Men are lazy these days, and then complain when things don't go there way. Learn to adapt and you won't have issues.
Lol at blaming the men for the out of control standards women have.
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Originally Posted By miscbro333⏩
lol he was right all along.

It's like the matrix. There is no spoon
Yea everything changed in 2012 he was right
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Originally Posted By Briisk⏩
33 million women are fighting for 1 million men with 6-figure income, 6 feet tall, and 6-pack abs
A smart man is investing in cat services right now
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[QUOTE=meanstringbean;164281160

Only when you’re 7+ In looks do women chase you. These are the guys who win in online dating (speaking from experience as one). When you get hundreds of matches every couple of days, can schedule a date with a HBB every day of the week, then your capacity to tolerate bull**** from women drops to zero.[/QUOTE]


Ehh I’m a 7 and my results are dismal nowadays. Couldn’t get anything online anymore, and IRL approaching just isn’t worth the effort.


If you’re a 9 with some local status I’m sure you would do well
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Originally Posted By meanstringbean⏩
This is true. Women can get easy sex from top guys but not relationships.

So if you’re a guy you either LDAR or work on yourself. It’s never been easier to be a top 10-20% male. Yes genetics play a factor but if you work out regularly, eat right, have decent style, have hobbies that aren’t fortnite then you’ll be fine



The average guy is absolutely pathetic and has been for some time. If you look around and don’t see that you are likely pathetic yourself (not saying you specifically but in general)

Doesn’t take much people watching to see why women aren't into a 28 year old man child with a beer gut, Marvel t shirt, who’s weekend activities are limited to sitting on the couch watching other men his age play football
I usually wear button down shirts, sleeves rolled up and jeans with nice chelsea boots or something when I’m out. I’m far from the typical slob you see in Walmart. Women don’t care what you wear
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Originally Posted By FastBack6⏩
I usually wear button down shirts, sleeves rolled up and jeans with nice chelsea boots or something when I’m out. I’m far from the typical slob you see in Walmart. Women don’t care what you wear
This lol. That's a scam to get men to spend money.

Oh just buy that car, or that shirt, or that house and you'll get women!

In reality she'll bang chad in the streets. She doesn't care.

And when it comes to a relationship she'll stay single instead of going with an undesirable
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes couch potato sports fans are the absolute cringiest.

Brb spending your weekend on the couch stuffing your face while watching Chads run around.
Unless your chad, then I'm guessing you won't care.

Every single thing women complain about goes away if it's chad doing it
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes couch potato sports fans are the absolute cringiest.

Brb spending your weekend on the couch stuffing your face while watching Chads run around.
sounds like a wet dream for you
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Originally Posted By Silencespeaks⏩
Yes couch potato sports fans are the absolute cringiest.

Brb spending your weekend on the couch stuffing your face while watching Chads run around.
Most often the people that watch played often.. prob a small segment that never did and enjoy it for other reasons

And if a chick likes it its prob from a brother or family or something
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Originally Posted By propreffered7⏩
Most often the people that watch played often.. prob a small segment that never did and enjoy it for other reasons

And if a chick likes it its prob from a brother or family or something
Men are just attracted to competition, its been this way since the dawn of time.

When NFL season hits I dont exist on Sundays. I'm glued to the tv and I fukin love it. Plenty of chads love it too
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Originally Posted By eod8989⏩
Things literally changed post 2012 with social media/online dating and 4th wave feminism

If you look back almost everything that is going on right now started either in 2012 or a year or two after/before

It literally opened a pandoras box and it's not hard to see.But what can you do?
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